that's the second component of AA, the first one being the fear of rejection (and ridicule) from the girl. I think this one takes even longer to get over, as most humans have an innate fear of ridicule when in a social setting.Fly By Night said:The fact is that my AA isn't actually being afraid of talking to the girl, but of what the other 2 people might be like if I approached her. I guess I am scared of being ridiculed if I fail.
Yep, pretty much true 90% of the time. I have had a lass in my bed where we were about to get down to it and she stopped at the last second and said she doesn't want to be used and wants a boyfriend. We never had sex and it's safe to say I've never seen her since.Greasy Pig said:The best advice I ever received was from an older mate of mine.
After me complaining again about getting a girl into bed and not fvcking her (too much of a nice guy to make a move), he said: "If a girl is at your home, she is there for a reason, so you MUST make a move on her. If a girl is in your bed, she wants to fvck. There is no other reason she is there and you have every right to get your hands on her."
From that day onwards, I can honestly say I've never chickened out in those circumstances again. This dude was spot on.
If she comes to your nest, she is fully expecting you to make a move. So just do it.
if ever you are in that situation again, appease her, its common to have this kind of last minute resistance (LMR), you kiss a bit, take it slow, reassure her that she isnt a $lut, tell her ..."this is just between us two and the world can go to hell" then go for it againMM92 said:Yep, pretty much true 90% of the time. I have had a lass in my bed where we were about to get down to it and she stopped at the last second and said she doesn't want to be used and wants a boyfriend. We never had sex and it's safe to say I've never seen her since.
Maybe I should have agreed to be her boyfriend until after the deed but at the time I was too "nice".
MM92 said:Yep, pretty much true 90% of the time. I have had a lass in my bed where we were about to get down to it and she stopped at the last second and said she doesn't want to be used and wants a boyfriend. We never had sex and it's safe to say I've never seen her since.
Maybe I should have agreed to be her boyfriend until after the deed but at the time I was too "nice".
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