How many of you make enough money for your girl to be a homemaker?
Yo Troops,
This is a very interesting question, and it takes a nuanced view to really give a good answer to it.
There are many factors that figure into whether or not you make enough money for your girl to be a homemaker.
1. In our western culture, much has been said, publicized, celebrated, and championed concerning the "supposed" liberation of women from traditional gender roles. In these times, for the most part, unless women are raised with a traditional, spiritual, or at least a rigidly religious viewpoint-------the idea of being a "homemaker" is frowned upon.
2. Even though females have been declaring that they are "women, and we should hear them ROAR" since that Helen Reddy's song of the Seventies--------they are still subconsciously aware that they are women and NOT men. Most women STILL respond more positively, even if it's just from a behavioral sense, to a man being the leader while they are more comfortable following his lead within the confines of a healthy relationship.
Understand, when I say "leader" I'm not referring to the overused, questionable, and situationally segmented view of the "Alpha Male" that many men in the seduction community seem to have adopted.
No, what I'm referring to is a MAN who is strong, honors himself first, but still shows suitable honor and respect to the woman he's chosen as well.
Having said all that. What I'm getting at is that most women who would even BEGIN to think about taking on the role of homemaker would rarely do so without some level of publicly recognized, if not "legally recognized" COMMITMENT from the man in question. In other words, for all the shyt they talk, most women would be more inclined to assume the homemaker role if they were the man's WIFE as opposed to just his "girl".
The only exceptions I've seen to this rule are women with low self-esteem, women who have a master plan of entrapping the man into eventual marriage through "accidental" pregnancy, and women who have an "arrangement" with the man
(see "a Gorilla Pimp and his main Hoe/Bottom Bytch).
4. The term "Homemaker" presupposes that the man and the woman BOTH know what it means to build a home------and I don't mean this in just the superficial financial sense. What I'm referring to is the love, the commitment, the comfort, the compatibility, the sexual connection, the spiritual connection, and a variety of other things that it takes to turn a "house" into a HOME. Believe it or not, in this age of nearly unbridled selfishness, RARE is the woman OR MAN who has a fukking clue as to the depths of how to even begin to create such a nurturing and peaceful living environment.
5. Lastly Troops, recognize the truth of what Mr. Positive has already mentioned earlier in this thread. The ability of ANYONE to create a home is largely dependent on a WILLINGNESS to live within certain means. In today's consumer oriented, low-income, living above our means, keeping up with the Joneses, type of society--------it takes a bit more than "X" amount of money to make a happy home.
ENOUGH money is "relative". A woman who grew up in the south on a farm may be more comfortable living within certain means than a woman who grew up in New York chasing the Sex and the City "dream/NIGHTMARE" may have a harder time living within the boundaries of whatever amount of money you may be bringing in.
In other words, a woman AND A MAN who are more interested in STUFF than they're interested in LOVE (which includes things like commitment, closeness, partnership, mutual respect, etc.) have the tendency of setting the bar INCREDIBLY high when it comes to what it takes to declare themselve HAPPY with the "home" that they are "making".
So, in regards to finding a woman with which to build a home, it's of paramount importance that you're BOTH on the same page of what your definition of a well-made "home" actually "is".
Until then...
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Soldier on.
VU
