How many of You cheat in LTR ?

[just so suave]

Cheating means two things:

1. Your low interest level in the girl
OR
2. Your low morals/values

3. You act on your desires...

 

[MacAvoy]

Cheating means two things:

1. Your low interest level in the girl
OR
2. Your low morals/values

3. You act on your desires...

4. You are unplugged from the matrix

 

[Blue Phoenix]

5. you DON`T have control of your desires

 

[DonGorgon]

Here are some FACTS... COLD AND HARD...

1. Most humans cheat..
2. Most humans lie bout cheating.
3. Because monogamy is not natural for humans

 

[ready123]

I don't cheat, which is why it takes me forever to qualify the girl to know if I can make her a girlfriend. maybe if the frame between you guys is a swinger relationship it be alright but most guys don't even know what that's about

if you can't commit, whats the point of being in an LTR in the first place? the emotional bond is now a joke, you guys are gonna have trust issues like the OP, and it also means you can't empathize with her hurt enough to care. So there's really no point if having her in your life as a GIRLFRIEND

I think it's also kinda dumb when people backwards rationalizing cheating as something animals do in the wild. Humans have a self-consciousness that animals don't that allows us to make choices. We have desires but we can choose to act on the desires. There are a ton of people throughout my 29 years that gave me the desire to whoop their ass. If we were all animals in the wild and slaves to our desires, they'd all be dead

The other thing is cheating is always the result of the guy not having a clue what he wants. A guy can ALWAYS set a precedent at the beginning of the relationship and most girls are receptive to the frame. If he just wants to fvck he can do that, if he wants MLTR's, he can do that, if he wants an exclusive relationship, he can do that. He just has to set the precedent. Figure out what you want and stick with it

 

[DonGorgon]

I don't cheat,

And that will have no effect on the rate at which you get cheated on...

 

[sca_p]

I do. What about You ?

No, never. I wouldn't commit myself to another person if I didn't intend to be faithful to her.

 

[Lord Shinra]

Wow, this thread went from like DJ to Whiny boys. WTF? Some cheat, some dont, No one judges to each their own.

 

[Blue Phoenix]

I don't cheat, which is why it takes me forever to qualify the girl to know if I can make her a girlfriend. maybe if the frame between you guys is a swinger relationship it be alright but most guys don't even know what that's about

if you can't commit, whats the point of being in an LTR in the first place? the emotional bond is now a joke, you guys are gonna have trust issues like the OP, and it also means you can't empathize with her hurt enough to care. So there's really no point if having her in your life as a GIRLFRIEND

I think it's also kinda dumb when people backwards rationalizing cheating as something animals do in the wild. Humans have a self-consciousness that animals don't that allows us to make choices. We have desires but we can choose to act on the desires. There are a ton of people throughout my 29 years that gave me the desire to whoop their ass. If we were all animals in the wild and slaves to our desires, they'd all be dead

The other thing is cheating is always the result of the guy not having a clue what he wants. A guy can ALWAYS set a precedent at the beginning of the relationship and most girls are receptive to the frame. If he just wants to fvck he can do that, if he wants MLTR's, he can do that, if he wants an exclusive relationship, he can do that. He just has to set the precedent. Figure out what you want and stick with it

I second that!

 

[ready123]

And that will have no effect on the rate at which you get cheated on...

of course not, but I wasn't even trying to go there

the thing is if I get burnt I don't throw a tantrum and whine about it, I just move on. some of you guys think getting cheated on is the WORST thing that could happen to you in life so half your game is trying to figure out ways to keep yourself from getting burnt so you don't have to experience those emotions

get some thicker skin

 

[DonGorgon]

of course not, but I wasn't even trying to go there

the thing is if I get burnt I don't throw a tantrum and whine about it, I just move on. some of you guys think getting cheated on is the WORST thing that could happen to you in life so half your game is trying to figure out ways to keep yourself from getting burnt so you don't have to experience those emotions

get some thicker skin

interesting angle... but the inflated and sensitive human ego begs to differ.

 

[Chillisauce]

I haven't cheated in a LTR because i haven't been in a LTR, longest my relationships last lately is 4 months. I'll probably end up cheating in the future but there is one rule which has to be satisfied or its not worth it.

They or people they know can NEVER know about it.

If that rule can't be guaranteed then it is not worth it, the amount of hurt a partner gets from someone cheating is terrible.

 

[DonGorgon]

the amount of hurt a partner gets from someone cheating is terrible.

Thats true and its amazing how many people still cheat even though it hurts so much...LOL