How many girls do you approach per week?

[SamTheHobit]

I approached 3 girls today at the mall.

First one was interested, she stayed for a brief conversation.

The other two just walked away.

I'm making it my goal to approach 500 girls this year.

 

[Vice]

I don't keep track any more because girls approach me, I approach them, etc.

Plus I talk to EVERYONE so there's dude and girls I'm not sexually interested in thrown in there as well.

The key is to be a social person and talk to EVERYONE, so when you D strike up a conversation, you've had plenty of practice.

 

[E-Male]

Good point, Vice. Being sociable in general is absolutely beneficial (might even say critical).

 

[JoeMarron]

I've never approached in my life. All of my success fell in my lap.

The key is to be a social person and talk to EVERYONE, so when you D strike up a conversation, you've had plenty of practice.

This is golden. When dudes, ugly chicks, and chicks you find attractive think you're awesome you can't lose. I'm pretty introverted but this is a skill I'd like to master.

 

[Mr Wright]

I don't count approaches because it's the wrong mentality, you're coming at it from the wrong angle. In daygame apart from the 5 first approaches which I instantly discount because I'm getting into a more sociable mood, the number of approaches doesn't matter.

Number of solid leads > Number of approaches

Get the number of approaches mentality out of your head, it will f*ck your game up in the long run. This is because your validation has come from the approach, you've already ticked the box before anything's really happened. You can approach 100 girls a day and get blown out 100 times, yet you've completed your goal?! Concentrate on getting solid phone numbers and getting dates on the spot. If you're approaching in the day, I found girls will always say "I have to go and do XYZ" in order to seem busy. Don't buy that crap, they're usually just shopping and you probably made their day but they feel like they have to say it. Before they even get a chance to say it, just say "one more quick thing before I go" ...then start a new conversation thread when you see her start to move away.


Approaching in the day is sort of easier than at night in the sense that you don't have the competition and that she will be nervous like you. I've seen girls get instantly attracted to me just because of the way I've approached them during the day, so yeah, approach until you have solid leads. Keep the eye contact strong, smile and most girls will hear you out.

What happened when the girls walked off? Like how did you approach and what stage did they walk off?

 

[Vice]

I've never approached in my life. All of my success fell in my lap.



This is golden. When dudes, ugly chicks, and chicks you find attractive think you're awesome you can't lose. I'm pretty introverted but this is a skill I'd like to master.

Master it.

Why?

Because when you talk to EVERYONE and be super cool with them, you will occasionally find yourself in a social situation with that person, and they remember you. They will introduce you to their friends, and sometimes there's a super cute girl in that social circle. Worst case, their social approval of you will be seen by others, and thus increase your status.

Remember in Ocean's 11, how Benedict would greet all of the staff at his casino, and know about their personal lives? Act as if everything is YOURS. You own the college campus, the Subway restaurant, the club, the bar. Act as if your positive emotions will influence those around you to come back to your businesses, thereby making you more money. I went to a house party a few days ago and people kept asking me if the house was mine, and telling me that I threw a great party.

This will increase your confidence, and soon your entire way of relating to other people will change for the better.

Or you can go back to not talking to ANYONE, and trying to talk to the occasional cutie that crosses paths with you. It's like leaving a car sitting around for a few months between use; the tires get dry rotted, stale fuel, and a weak battery.

 

[Vice]

Excellent points, Mr Wright, excellent points.

I've always found it really weird when guys keep detailed statistics on their approaches. I can see their utility as a diagnostic tool, but there comes a point where it just becomes a source of validation.

On a related thread, I always think it's HILARIOUS when guys outside of the success with women community talk about how they got a girl's number, as if that meant something. It's always funny to ask "So what if you got her number? What the hell are you going to do with it?" They'll give you some nonsense reply, and when you follow up with them on it, often times nothing happened and you get your petty little sense of superiority over them. woo

 

[Turuwal]

Agree with Mr Wright and Vice 100%. Numbers mean nothing. Your mission is to be sociable with every person of potential value. You never know which person is going to open a door for you so chat to EVERYONE!

Last night I approached a mixed 8 set, a female 2 set, a single hottie, a mixed 3 set (1m 2f) that were selling stuff in a plaza. Because I'm interested in branching into sales, I stayed with them for an hour or two and had a go at helping them out by pulling in potential buyers. I figured out how to make a sale somewhere around the eighth customer. Ten plus approaches resulting in no sex but valuable experience.

A few days ago I approached a mixed 2 set of musicians then went with them to a local park and met more people they knew. A bunch of people joined our group so there were around 4 girls and 8 guys. I chose the girl I wanted then escalated to kissing, isolated her from the group, and extracted her back to my hotel that evening. Got third base that night and sex on the next meetup. One approach resulting in sex with a hot bodied, adorable, affectionate 23 year old.

I leave it to the reader to decide which night was more valuable.

 

[SamTheHobit]

What happened when the girls walked off? Like how did you approach and what stage did they walk off?

Well I haven't done day approach in months I'm only now trying to get back into it and build my confidence up.

I opened up with."Hey, I follow you on instagram.

I was watching lahwf one of his episodes. And used it.

First girl stopped and she actually tried having a conversation with me. I didn't get a number though.

Second and third. Just said they don't have instagram. And walked off.

 

[skinnyguy]

About 2.5. Depends on how tired I am.

I agree that it can be a waste of time and solid leads are better. If a girl knows nothing about you she is less likely to go out with you for safety reasons alone.

 

[Vice]

Well I haven't done day approach in months I'm only now trying to get back into it and build my confidence up.

I opened up with."Hey, I follow you on instagram.

I was watching lahwf one of his episodes. And used it.

First girl stopped and she actually tried having a conversation with me. I didn't get a number though.

Second and third. Just said they don't have instagram. And walked off.

I'd strongly advise against that approach because it is not only too narrow, but your first impression to her is that of an orbiter. The fact that you "recognize" her shows you've invested too much in her already.

Better to just be direct and tell her why you're approaching her; because she's attractive to you.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

I approached 3 girls today at the mall.

First one was interested, she stayed for a brief conversation.

The other two just walked away.

I'm making it my goal to approach 500 girls this year.

I want to try at least 2 to 3 girls I approach a day

 

[Formerlyrossitheking]

I don't keep track any more because girls approach me, I approach them, etc.

Plus I talk to EVERYONE so there's dude and girls I'm not sexually interested in thrown in there as well.

The key is to be a social person and talk to EVERYONE, so when you D strike up a conversation, you've had plenty of practice.

^ Spot on.

By simply saying 'hi' to a stranger or asking for the time will set you on the path to success a lot quicker than doing nothing at all.

This simple action is easy to do....the problem is it's also easy not to do.

What's more comfortable for most people in this situation....yep, inaction.

Inaction is not going to kill you in one single instance....but inaction overtime will cripple you.

Just say 'hi' folks.

 

[sekC player]

I've never approached in my life. All of my success fell in my lap.



This is golden. When dudes, ugly chicks, and chicks you find attractive think you're awesome you can't lose. I'm pretty introverted but this is a skill I'd like to master.

repped.

 

[LeonSK]

I am slowly making approaching a habit now, wherever whenever... (except workplace) Agree Mr. Wright that number of solid leads > number of approaches.