How long to wait for her to give it up?

[Halo]

I have been on 5 dates with this woman (been dating others too, naturally), and we've made out on 4 of those dates. The most I have been able to do so far is get my hand in her panties and feel her up pretty good. She won't let it go any further though. She wants to do something in a few days, and I guess I will, but I am beyond wanting a little gratification here.

What's a reasonable time frame? I know most say it should be happening by the 3rd or 4th date, and that's been the case for me with other girls. I'm thinking about cancelling on the next date, and shifting my focus to some of the other girls.

What's the longest you've been willing to wait for some action (not counting your AFC days)?

 

[drixsa]

gig nice advice

gettin her warmed up is good

what will help more is being in a comfortable enviroment where you can make a move

maybe you wont get your pants off but you start things off

then stop and make her want more later

when you drop her off make a move and maybe shell invite you in

 

[John Juan]

i go on at least a couple dates to scope out the situation. if i'm not happy with the progress i next, how long depends upon how long i want to deal with it, and if i'm still having fun with her when we're not messing around. if there's noticable tension about it - the not having sex - then i'll just next and have fun with other girls.

if it isn't happening fast, then she's probably into using sex as a form of control or does not want to get involved with someone who is going to run off as soon as she gives it up. dats the whole "slut paranoia" that so many girls have these days. if you warm her up REAL good though and it still doesn't work, next and SLUUUUUURPRISE!, she just might be calling you when her panties are wet (because she's thinking of the powerful and hot things you whispered into her ear), and she's tired of denying herself of you.

-jlc

 

[( . )( . )]

i agree, you need to get her into the state of practically begging for c@ck, but it should have been within the first 3 times of seeing her.
no more "dates" and politely bidding your time with bollocks, games and hoops, take action the next time you clap eyes on her.
If shes dripping wet and your being persistant and shes still not giving it up, fvck her off shes a waste of your time.

 

[Halo]

The thing is, I have been in her apartment (or she in mine) on all but the first date, making out on the couch. I've had my face in her breasts and my hand in her pants, all of which she seemed to quite enjoy. That's why I am a bit perplexed, and starting to think she's trying to use sex as some sort of bargaining chip, or a method of control.

At this rate, dropping $30 or so every time I go out with her, a prostitute would be cheaper. I think I am going to cancel the next date, which is to be at her apartment because she wants me to have dinner there with her.

 

[NewMan]

Wait a minute. Go on the next date.

Dinner at her Apt. Thats not going to cost you a cent.

This should be her last chance - your having dinner at her place, so go ahead and see what happens.

If you don't get something - next her.

 

[Eyecandie4ya]

You want to make sure you pull all the strings on this date.

I don't know about you two make out sections but she might feel like you're "rushing" to get to the sticking. Only you know if this is true and if it is, then you will need to build more passion for her to want to jump your bones. Sometimes we rush a bit and not take our time but if you are taking your time and she still playing that game then you have a choice to make, but I wouldn't next her so quickly but deny her any passion and date other females.

Play her game just by giving her a kiss on the forehead and tell her that you think that you two need to slow things down a bit.

 

[electron]

I dunno, as long as you are able to take it farther with each meeting you should be in her panties with more than your hands soon enough.....have a little patience........girls like to think they aren't giving it up too easily/quickly...but that doesn't mean she doesn't want to or won't soon enough.

 

[ShortyBrown]

Originally posted by Halo
I have been on 5 dates with this woman (been dating others too, naturally), and we've made out on 4 of those dates. The most I have been able to do so far is get my hand in her panties and feel her up pretty good. She won't let it go any further though. She wants to do something in a few days, and I guess I will, but I am beyond wanting a little gratification here.

What's a reasonable time frame? I know most say it should be happening by the 3rd or 4th date, and that's been the case for me with other girls. I'm thinking about cancelling on the next date, and shifting my focus to some of the other girls.

What's the longest you've been willing to wait for some action (not counting your AFC days)?

You're a Dj and you still can't trust your instincts as to whether or not she's being a p-rick tease? If you still don't know by the next time you see her, pack her some milk and cookies for her trip to NEXTville.

 

[isotope]

get her hotter. from wha ti hear, if you push the right buttons, she wont say no

 

[Halo]

Well, I called her yesterday to see what time she was wanting to have dinner tonight. Got her voice mail so I reluctantly left a message. She never called back, instead she sent an email earlier today saying she would have to cancel because her sister needed a babysitter. She said she would've called but didn't have her cell phone, and my number is in her cell phone.

Sounds like it's time to NEXT her. Opinions?

 

[Click Here]

touch her a little then back off like your not intrested in sex, then repeat again and again going a little further each time.

 

[Slickster]

See her again. This time though no physical contact at all. Tease playfully and throw in sexual comments and strong EC but do not initiate anything. Make her come to you at her own pace.
She'll probably start slowly but only mirror what she is doing to you. Nothing more. The sexual tension will be building and this is what really turns women on so she should be begging for it soon.

Once she realizes she's not being pressured and you aren't going to do anything unless she initiates, her barriers should come down. Sometimes they just don't like the feeling that they are being pressured. She's probably quite young isn't she?

 

[Halo]

No, she's 32. A fair bit older than me. Also, in her email she said she wants to reschedule, and asked me to call her. I just will not do that. She cancelled, yet I am supposed to be the one calling to reschedule? I think not.

 

[Slickster]

Become a super Challenge, cut of contact etc.

 

[violator]

32 and giving you a hard time? She is either one of the following:

1. A single mother looking for an LTR and father for her kids. (many SM's will not put out until they are sure you will stick around to father their children).

2. The religious/moral type who won't put out until marriage.

3. Has deep emotional hang ups (i,e has been burned before in prior relationships, rape issues, etc.)

If she fits the above profile, then avoid at all cost, unless of course you are a virgin with similar values and are looking for a virgin to marry.

By and large healthy single women especially at that age will put out by the 3rd or 4th date (5th tops) unless she is a professional dater who is not sexually attracted to you.

I say give her one last shot before pulling the next trigger.

 

[Halo]

An update: I never responded to her email asking if we could reschedule, and didn't call or anything either. Tonight she sent me another email reiterating how sorry she is, and saying she hopes I will let her make it up to me. I'll let a little more time go by and respond to her, but I will be very abrupt without saying "it's ok" or anything like that. I hold the upper hand without question.

I only post these experiences in the hope that it will be of use to some of you out there, who are in the shoes I once wore myself. Challenge really IS key.