How long should I wait?

[luv 2 fly]

Well pretty much went out on 1st date( it went fine) I called 2 days after but she didn't pick up, & I didn't leave a message. Now the question is when should I try calling her back? & When I do call & she doesn't pick up again should I leave a message or just hang up. I was thinking to wait till after the weekend to do so. Any other suggestions? Thanks

 

[Guitar_Whizz]

Well pretty much went out on 1st date( it went fine) I called 2 days after but she didn't pick up, & I didn't leave a message.

She could've just been busy or not able to answer her phone. Or she might have been ignoring you. Or she might be like a lot of girls these days and just not answer her phone. Text messaging seems to be all the rage these days; many girls prefer to text than to answer their phone and talk.

when should I try calling her back?

I'll set you straight on this. There's a lot of sh*t in the PU community about the 'perfect' time to call etc. The truth is, there is no 'perfect' time to call. The answer is YOU CALL WHENEVER YOU WANT. You should pickup girls on YOUR TERMS.

So if you want to call a girl the next day after meeting her or after a date, then do so. If you don't want to call for a few days or a week, then do so.

When I do call & she doesn't pick up again should I leave a message or just hang up. I was thinking to wait till after the weekend to do so. Any other suggestions? Thanks

Here's my personal opinion on what you should do: I would call her. Hopefully she will pick up her phone, but if she doesn't then you send a text message. Whether you speak on the phone or whether you end up sending a text, say something like this "Hi it's (luv 2 fly). Enjoyed seeing you the other night. Do you want to get together again this week...how does (thursday) suit you? Let me know"

If you don't get a reply, then that's her way of telling you she's not interested, as if a girl is genuinely interested in a guy then she will want to contact him.

If she rejects you, then be thankful she was honest and you can move on to seeing another girl without wasting any more of your time.

If she agrees to meet up, arrange the time and place to meet, and take it from there.

Don't hound her with lots of texts or answerphone messages. You send ONE text (assuming you can't get hold of her on the phone), and leave it at that, otherwise you look needy.

Let me know how everything works out, good luck.

 

[luv 2 fly]

thanks 4 the info!!

 

[luv 2 fly]

ok so I did call her yesterday..again no pick up...then left her a text message about getting 2gether later on this week....she texted me back this aft saying that..she's super busy this week with bdays & maybe next week we can meet up again...

I think that her interest level is low from this response.... I'm thinking now that I should just put this on the back burner & if she calls/texts me good if not..no big deal...I'm not going to be chasing this chick...

Is this the best way to handle this situation??

 

[Igetit!]

ok so I did call her yesterday..again no pick up...then left her a text message about getting 2gether later on this week....she texted me back this aft saying that..she's super busy this week with bdays & maybe next week we can meet up again...

I think that her interest level is low from this response.... I'm thinking now that I should just put this on the back burner & if she calls/texts me good if not..no big deal...I'm not going to be chasing this chick...

Is this the best way to handle this situation??

EASY.


Go to the bottom of this reply and click on the word "THIS!".

Follow those instructions. If she has any interest at all in you,this should tip things in your favor.

 

[luv 2 fly]

well yes I will not contact her what so ever until she contacts me..but lets face it..I know that even if she does contact me it won't be till a week from now(6-7 days)...because she's "busy" with all the Bd parties...LOL & after that I'll be a little more difficult to go out with. But right now I'm going to forget about her.

 

[Allurre]

Just throw her a text message.

IF she doesn't respond, you probably lost her.

 

[Autopilot]

well yes I will not contact her what so ever until she contacts me..but lets face it..I know that even if she does contact me it won't be till a week from now(6-7 days)...because she's "busy" with all the Bd parties...LOL & after that I'll be a little more difficult to go out with. But right now I'm going to forget about her.

She is "busy" hmmm how many times have we heard that before. I would just cringe from hearing that word, women are never "busy" when it comes to someone they are attracted to. They will always make time, ALWAYS.

I always thought since the beginning of time that us MEN are the "busy" ones and not the other way around. It's almost as you put yourself against a wall, your DESIRE came out by calling her 2-3 times and then persisting to do it again.

For now just ignore and move on ... your a MAN and have MANLY things to do ...

Always judge by action and not by words.

 

[luv 2 fly]

She is "busy" hmmm how many times have we heard that before. I would just cringe from hearing that word, women are never "busy" when it comes to someone they are attracted to. They will always make time, ALWAYS.

I always thought since the beginning of time that us MEN are the "busy" ones and not the other way around. It's almost as you put yourself against a wall, your DESIRE came out by calling her 2-3 times and then persisting to do it again.

For now just ignore and move on ... your a MAN and have MANLY things to do ...

Always judge by action and not by words.

It's such BS the way woman play these games.