jamesfromhouston
Senior Don Juan
Hi bros.
I've been reflecting on my plate spinning since last year. (This is still new to me, I got red pilled in Jan 2021, its when I started spinning). At one point, I think I had about 6 to 7 plates spinning at once. Fun times, I had some back to back hook ups that were unforgettable on certain weekends. (At the same time, it got kind of tiring and draining).
Now, I noticed most of my plates have have 'broken'. After a year, they either stopped seeing me, became increasingly distant, started to flake randomly or have already found boyfriends. We never officially called it quits. Its more like they just subtly fazed out. (Others are currently on their way out, it feels).
I think it mainly came down to my red pill behavior:
-I have given the plates an impression that I only wanted something casual. (Which is true).
-I never promised them commitment. Yet most of the time when we met, besides having fun dates, we would have sex.
-I had abundance, I wasn't constantly seeking them out. Maybe once every 2 to 3 weeks.
-I didn't text them much. I stopped being a text buddy to girls.
-They were aware/or had an impression that I was seeing a lot of girls/ladies man/player reputation. Although I was never a creep to them.
- I was generous though. Sometimes I'd give gifts (although I find this backfires on attraction), take them to nice hotels/restaurants/lounges. Pay for most. I also was fully attentive and adventurous when we hung-out.
So it got me thinking. Based on this approach, I don't think plates can be sustained very long.
Because isn't it, the general female imperative to find commitment? If that's the case, plates don't last long because rp behaviour is basically in the opposite direction and its only a matter of time before the girl has enough.
Or maybe I am doing something wrong.
I've been reflecting on my plate spinning since last year. (This is still new to me, I got red pilled in Jan 2021, its when I started spinning). At one point, I think I had about 6 to 7 plates spinning at once. Fun times, I had some back to back hook ups that were unforgettable on certain weekends. (At the same time, it got kind of tiring and draining).
Now, I noticed most of my plates have have 'broken'. After a year, they either stopped seeing me, became increasingly distant, started to flake randomly or have already found boyfriends. We never officially called it quits. Its more like they just subtly fazed out. (Others are currently on their way out, it feels).
I think it mainly came down to my red pill behavior:
-I have given the plates an impression that I only wanted something casual. (Which is true).
-I never promised them commitment. Yet most of the time when we met, besides having fun dates, we would have sex.
-I had abundance, I wasn't constantly seeking them out. Maybe once every 2 to 3 weeks.
-I didn't text them much. I stopped being a text buddy to girls.
-They were aware/or had an impression that I was seeing a lot of girls/ladies man/player reputation. Although I was never a creep to them.
- I was generous though. Sometimes I'd give gifts (although I find this backfires on attraction), take them to nice hotels/restaurants/lounges. Pay for most. I also was fully attentive and adventurous when we hung-out.
So it got me thinking. Based on this approach, I don't think plates can be sustained very long.
Because isn't it, the general female imperative to find commitment? If that's the case, plates don't last long because rp behaviour is basically in the opposite direction and its only a matter of time before the girl has enough.
Or maybe I am doing something wrong.
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