How long did your break last?

[SoldMySoul]

I am definitely considering taking a break from women for a while. I am healthy considering I am trying to get an on the job injury concluded and fixed, but have managed to stay very fit. Since my injury happened on the job, I am unable to get work until I am fixed.

What other things did you do other than work on you and job wise while taking a break? How long did you take a break?

The main problem I have now esteem wise is being unemployed and Not much I can do to fix that at the moment, but it has me down in a big way and it is hard to try and sarge being where I am.

It just feels like I need a break until I can get things right.

 

[SandHawk]

I actually decided last tuesday that I need a break from chicks for a while. I've went through a little rollercoaster with girls in the past 3 weeks and I'm a bit sick and tired of em.

I've decided to focus my attention to a few things:
- Learning to play the guitar
- Get an hour of reading every night
- Bouldering
- Get back in shape(combined with bouldering)

The way to go here is to focus your attention on the things that you want to reach. Set goals, both long term and short term. When you've set the goals, focus on reaching them.

Get into a routine where your goals are your focal point on the day. Especially as being unemployed it's REALLY important to focus on getting to bed on time, and to get up early in the day. This will ensure that your biological clock will stay in synch with the rest of the world. Make lists of things you want to do during the day the night before, and do them first thing in the morning or whenever you have the first opportunity to do them.

 

[SoldMySoul]

Get into a routine where your goals are your focal point on the day. Especially as being unemployed it's REALLY important to focus on getting to bed on time, and to get up early in the day. This will ensure that your biological clock will stay in synch with the rest of the world. Make lists of things you want to do during the day the night before, and do them first thing in the morning or whenever you have the first opportunity to do them.

I really like and agree with what you said about a bedtime routine and I am trying very hard to do that now. I have a friend that works late night/ early morning hours that I used to work with and when he is riding around in his patrol car wants to call and talk. It was okay at first, but it is interfering with my sleep time. Thanks for the reply!

 

[squirrels]

I'm still on "break".

I may be forever. Who knows.

The only reason I still talk to women once in a while is because of this stupid forum.

 

[SoldMySoul]

I'm still on "break".

I may be forever. Who knows.

The only reason I still talk to women once in a while is because of this stupid forum.

Just curious, just how long have you been on break and why are you? Was it that you just tired of the garbage and wanted to improve you? I am really starting to see that a women in your life that is priority (I do not have one currently) creates a lot of problems and it really is not worth the hassle unless you truly find one that you deem, "The right one."

 

[Chosen1]

I don't know I'm going to get reaccquainted with this website and focus on some goals. I will probably be dating by spring. I really need to complete the Dj bootcamp. I can do a lot better so I will be talking to women again in 3 months and dating mutliple women in 6

 

[SoldMySoul]

I don't know I'm going to get reaccquainted with this website and focus on some goals. I will probably be dating by spring. I really need to complete the Dj bootcamp. I can do a lot better so I will be talking to women again in 3 months and dating mutliple women in 6

Hey, I actually like your target date of spring and I may just decide to get on board with that. That gives me several months to figure things out in my personal life.

 

[squirrels]

Just curious, just how long have you been on break and why are you? Was it that you just tired of the garbage and wanted to improve you? I am really starting to see that a women in your life that is priority (I do not have one currently) creates a lot of problems and it really is not worth the hassle unless you truly find one that you deem, "The right one."

I've been on "break" for a couple years now, as far as dating goes, and aside from the occasional slump-buster, I haven't gotten laid for sh!t either.

I got tired of girls who liked me wanting to jump right into relationships and getting all heartbroken when I denied them. I got tired of being flagged as an immature jerk because I wasn't like the rest of the clowns around me who are all anxious to get into "relationships" and hang out with other "couples".

I got tired of seeing all the people I knew slowly transform from people who sought fun and adventure to people who became tunnel-visioned on women, forsaking the excitement and unique nature of life for boring crap like "romance" and "homemaking". Want to go shoot some pool Tuesday? Can't, spending time with the girl. Want to hit the bar Friday? Can't, spending time with the girl. Want to go to AC and play some poker Saturday? Can't, spending time with the girl. Want to get some people together and play frisbee Sunday? Can't, spending time with the girl. Want to go whitewater rafting next month? Can't, spending time with the girl.

I didn't want to become one of them. But that's all the women I met wanted. Either that, or they wanted nothing to do with me.

The longer I live, the more I'm forced toward a choice...live an interesting life alone, or live a boring life with a "partner". So far, I've been favoring "alone".

I still get 'urges' from time to time, but to be honest, masturbating quells them quite nicely. When I'm done, I just can't find any reason to pursue women. They aren't interesting except when they're drunk enough to let go of all their silly drama and inhibitions. They're worthless for conversation...they never have anything interesting to say unless it's something they heard from you. They're not into "guy-hobbies"...the kinds of things guys are into. Motorcycle riding, rock-climbing, martial arts...that kind of stuff is the territory of men and most women struggle to tag along and generally hold you back.

I see people I know taking all their hard-earned money and using it to renovate their houses, one room at a time, so their wife (and kids in some cases) can have a pretty home to live in. And once they finish the last room, the house is so busted up that they have to start over again. No travelling, seeing the world, having nice things, enjoying things like eating out at a cool restaurant once in a while.

What's worse is when I see their wives...see it in their eyes that they're "scared". They're scared of a single man in their presence, because they know that they can be "taken"...they fear sexual energy like an AA-member fears booze. They know it'd only take a moment of indiscretion to destroy everything.

I get uncomfortable when I go hang out with married and shacked-up couples. I want to devour these women, but I don't want to cause a social upheaval in their ranks.

Oh my god, it makes me want to throw up, when I see them cuddled up against each other in their vapid, air-headed state, nothing to talk about except banter about their favorite TV show or what happened on their commute to work. They're not allowed to be "interesting" any more, not allowed to be exciting or deviate from the game-plan. They're in "a relationship" now. They have to follow the procedure step-by-step.

I find as I get older, that all the attractive women are "taken". Why? Because women are stupid, and men want to tie them down with traditional boy-girl deals before they wise up. I see that as such a waste.

Even as I troll PlentyOfFish these days...most of the attractive women already have kids. When I see a woman who has kids who is back in the dating game, it's as if she's saying to me, "I wised up too late".

Sometimes I wonder if maybe I'm the one who's insane.

 

[Warrior74]

9 months as of next month. I've been building up my business, I've gone from small clients to landing big clients, I'm working night and day. I'm about 6 more months from being debt free (minus the college loans). I'm cleaning up my diet and starting to lose weight. I've only gotten laid twice this year, 22 year old and a 30 year old. Been on about 4 dates. But really, I'm just working all the time. I'm at work now, spending tomorrow with my daughter, then working on sunday - next saturday when I'll be celebrating my 36 birthday.

 

[SoldMySoul]

9 months as of next month. I've been building up my business, I've gone from small clients to landing big clients, I'm working night and day. I'm about 6 more months from being debt free (minus the college loans). I'm cleaning up my diet and starting to lose weight. I've only gotten laid twice this year, 22 year old and a 30 year old. Been on about 4 dates. But really, I'm just working all the time. I'm at work now, spending tomorrow with my daughter, then working on sunday - next saturday when I'll be celebrating my 36 birthday.

I thought that I was in a huge slump, but comparing my life to you not so much. Been laid a few more times than that and had a little more dates, but I admire the goals you are going for. My slump is one of the reasons I am choosing a break as I have become a little jaded with women.

Squirrels, WOW!!! I can see why you are choosing your break, but I would have to say mine is for different reasons. I have been single for all intents and purposes for about 4 years, but have had flings with several women since that time. I am a point in my life where I want to find the right one and slow it down. I can understand your break considering your age. I have had enough of playing, dealing with games women play.

My main reason is my self esteem needs some rebuilding. My looks are good and I am very fit, but just dealing with job lose and injury that needs fixing along with dealing with women I knew better not to be messing with anyways, has put my life in the dumps. Hence, why I am breaking!

I am seriously considering and will probably move to another state to live with my twin brother. I miss him a lot and he and I seem to think a change of scenery will help me as long as my problems are left in my current state.

If my confidence were to be at the level I had 4 years ago, I would simply be unstoppable and would have to beat the ladies off with a stick! But we all know that women sense when your game is not tight and they are way better at it than we are.

I have even thought about trying something different and out of character FOR ME once my esteem and game are back. That is SPINNING THE $HIT OUT OF PLATES! I have to get to my level first.

 

[LeftyLoosey]

Thank you for starting this thread and thank you to those who have replied thus far.

I've been on a break for one year now, coming out of a terrible marriage, followed by several pick-ups at bars or while on vacation, and then a fantastic relationship that lasted six months which ended for logistical reasons.

I am completely and utterly dedicated to my work at the moment, and it has paid off hugely. In one year I've gone from an unknown drone in a company with thousands of employees to someone whose name is known all the way at the top. By being single, I've been able to dedicate as much time to my work as I feel is necessary. In a sea of people that clock out at the same time everyday, by putting in two to three extra hours every evening, I've been able to revolutionize the way we do business.

All the drones go home to their nuclear families and when I'm finally free of their distraction, my creativity can flow unbounded. In one evening I can be as productive, if not more, than most are during an eight hour day.

I'm not nagged by a wife while I'm at work, nor is my mind clouded by distractions at home. I have no guilty feelings.

Best of all, I have no mortgage and no car payments. I live in an apartment in the best part of the city that forces me to walk to work everyday. I don't have to worry about maintenance of my yard, home, or car. I don't pay for car insurance, parts, labor, or gas. Another wonderful side-effect of not owning a car is that there is less of a temptation to go shopping for things that I don't need. Also, by not owning a home, I don't have square footage to fill with furniture or other expensive decorations.

I spend 40% of each pay cheque and the rest goes into savings and investments. Each month I save enough to go on a decent vacation, but I don't have a girlfriend or wife nagging me to take her anywhere.

I remember, when I was seeing my last girlfriend, we went to a cottage together for a weekend. The owner of the place mentioned that 90% of the time, the bookings were made by the wife or girlfriend. Is anyone surprised? Men don't need to "get away" from life; they face the challenge and conquer it. I do still travel on occasion, and I've been to nearly 20 different countries in the last 5 years.

Squirrels, I'm finding the same challenges as you when it comes to finding someone with whom to hang out. We're the same age, so I can imagine that just like me, you're seeing your friends start to pop out babies left, right, and center. They've moved away from the city core and they're completely and utterly occupied by raising their crotch-fruit and keeping their bloated wives happy at the same time.

What's hilarious is when I DO go out drinking or golfing, it's with acquaintances in their 50's whose kids have left the nest. They're finally free of their obligations and enjoying life again.

Sure, I understand that there's a trade-off to be considered. On the one-hand, you can choose to have "short-term" pain for 25 years in return for "long-term" happiness as you enjoy the company of your family. On the other hand, you can choose to live each day to the fullest and dedicate your time and energy to people and causes outside of your family for supposed "instant-gratification" only. Neither is selfish, and it's up to you which route you take. For now, it's the latter for me, and it will take a massive force to convince me to choose the alternative.

After another year or two of extremely hard work, I look forward to finding a little more balance in my life and enjoying the fruits of my labor. That being said, I don't consider my job to be work, and I honestly can't wait for Mondays. :cheer:

 

[NewMan]

You all sound like a bunch of girl's.

I still get 'urges' from time to time, but to be honest, masturbating quells them quite nicely. When I'm done, I just can't find any reason to pursue women. They aren't interesting except when they're drunk enough to let go of all their silly drama and inhibitions. They're worthless for conversation...they never have anything interesting to say unless it's something they heard from you. They're not into "guy-hobbies"...the kinds of things guys are into. Motorcycle riding, rock-climbing, martial arts...that kind of stuff is the territory of men and most women struggle to tag along and generally hold you back.

What do you do once your done jerking off in the hotel room in Mexico?

I like your post's - but this is just morbid.

Perhaps we need to take a step back and think about where we are meeting these types of women. If this is the picture we are painting, then we may as well go nuclear and start again.

 

[LeftyLoosey]

You all sound like a bunch of girl's.



What do you do once your done jerking off in the hotel room in Mexico?

I like your post's - but this is just morbid.

Perhaps we need to take a step back and think about where we are meeting these types of women. If this is the picture we are painting, then we may as well go nuclear and start again.

I'm not sure if your post is directed specifically at squirrels or at everyone who's posted, but I'll respond anyway.

There was a time, shortly after my divorce, where I would've made a similar post about the quality of women. Since then, I dated an awesome girl that I enjoyed spending time with. They definitely do exist.

Can a man not just "take a break" and distract himself with other challenges? Only women and insecure men need to constantly be dating. In the past I've been pegged as a pus5y-striking moralist, but really it has nothing to do with that. I handled my last relationship perfectly, but as a result, my phone constantly rang off the hook because the IL was so high. I don't need that right now.

 

[wasted-nick]

Been on break for a month now. Tired of meeting stupid women... I need to step away from it for a while. I've reached the point where in my heart I truly believe - what's the point...

I have no faith in the character of the vast majority of women today. She may seem like a perfect catch - She's like no other before, but given enough time, she'll end up a fvcking nutter like all the rest. Pointless.

 

[SoldMySoul]

You all sound like a bunch of girl's.

I do not think that at all. We as men have the right to decide when to take a logical step back and if $hit is not working out, we re-evaluate the situation, plan and take action when the time is right. Squirrels story was unique and interesting... not that I share all of his sentiments, but some I do.

Been on break for a month now. Tired of meeting stupid women... I need to step away from it for a while. I've reached the point where in my heart I truly believe - what's the point...

I have no faith in the character of the vast majority of women today. She may seem like a perfect catch - She's like no other before, but given enough time, she'll end up a fvcking nutter like all the rest. Pointless.

I absolutely agree with you and that is some of the reason why I am deciding to take mine! A break is good for mind, body and spirit. I am in need of cleansing of all three. Then when I get things right for me, I come back with a vengeance! I am starting to become cynical of women and that is just no good! But I will at least come back knowing the games most play and will be better able to weed the $hitty ones out quickly while looking for a good one.

Can a man not just "take a break" and distract himself with other challenges? Only women and insecure men need to constantly be dating. In the past I've been pegged as a pus5y-striking moralist, but really it has nothing to do with that. I handled my last relationship perfectly, but as a result, my phone constantly rang off the hook because the IL was so high. I don't need that right now.

I like this as well!!! We can and do take breaks! It has something that has been on my mind as of late, a lot! I had two dates in last six or so weeks and they were awful!! One of the dates was as shallow as they come and they other had manners of a pig! Then every so often, I have this woman, whom I have known and dated off and on for a few years continues playing games and contacts me when I tell not to. I take some blame with the one that does not get a clue because I engage her after she contacts me and I REGRET it every time. So it is time for me to take a hiatus and get me back right.

 

[DJDanny]

I've been on break since i split with the ex wife in may 09. I've banged a few chicks so far this year but it's only in the last week or two that I've started to get the itch to start getting back into it.

Problem is I like some of the other members who've posted am 100% dedicated to work right now and improving my position going forward so I won't have to work as hard with my business in the future. Today was the 4th consecutive 16 hour day with the next few days likely to be the same. I can't even remember the last time I took a full day off. Some friends keep trying to get me to come out with them but each night I have to pass. Is it worth it? Maybe but there's something extremely satisfying knowing in the last 3 days I've made more then some of the friends do in a month.

I did book my flight for a 3 week trip down under for later this year. Treat to myself for busting my ass.

 

[Warrior74]

I thought that I was in a huge slump, but comparing my life to you not so much. Been laid a few more times than that and had a little more dates, but I admire the goals you are going for. My slump is one of the reasons I am choosing a break as I have become a little jaded with women.

Yah throw in an apartment fire, moving and getting my place and wardrobe together and its just been a long hard year. Chasing women is just secondary to trying to survive and thrive right now. In a few more months I'll be seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. I won't lie, I've become depressed a few times this year, but really what choice do I have but to go on. I could go out and fake it and chase girls and get laid, I've done so before. But its just time and energy that I could be putting into improving my life. There are no safety nets in life, so if you want one you better build it yourself. Especially for us working class folks. We are a bad month or two from abject poverty. I'm trying hard to not let that happen to me.

 

[Razor Sharp]

I take regular vacations. In winter-time I dig in for 3 months of hyper-paced productivity. I avoid women and their drama and enjoy a 500% boost in productivity. Then spring arrives and its debauchery time for another 6-9 months.

Let me tell you I get a LOT of sh*t done when it's cold, and I don't have to listen to a woman YAP YAP YAPping all f*cking day. 500% is a conservative estimate.

I really would like to take a longer break someday. A year would be satisfactory.

In the meantime I just love women far too much to leave em hangin without a bangin. It's not in me to show such cruelty

The only reason I still talk to women once in a while is because of this stupid forum.

LOL, WUT?

I thought it was for pure, no-strings, animalistic pleasure. So what - now you're doing it strictly for the stupid people online? Sounds like a totally reasonable excuse to me :crazy:

PS - Dude, please keep posting, because I haven't laughed this hard in a while

 

[Mr.Positive]

It's probably been a couple of months for me, a lot longer for any sort of meaningful relationship.

Lately, I've just been wanting to slow the pace of life down a bit, and just enjoy a drama free lifestyle. Women require too much energy and focus, and I like having the freedom to do whatever I want. "travel light" as they say. Maybe I'll feel differently in the future.

Sold, I was out on an injury a year or so back, and it can be tough. My best advice it to try and enjoy the quiet time. Know that in future you'll be back to your normal self.

If I have one regret, something I didn't do, during that time, was be injured with a cold beer on a beach somewhere in the tropics. If you can manage to do that, that's what I'd recommend. If you have to be laid up out of work, may as well make the best of it.

 

[SoldMySoul]

Sold, I was out on an injury a year or so back, and it can be tough. My best advice it to try and enjoy the quiet time. Know that in future you'll be back to your normal self.

If I have one regret, something I didn't do, during that time, was be injured with a cold beer on a beach somewhere in the tropics. If you can manage to do that, that's what I'd recommend. If you have to be laid up out of work, may as well make the best of it.

Hey, thanks for the words of encouragement. The down time has finally caught up with me though and as a result I filed chapter 7 and included my house which is way underwater. Definitely a low point in my life that is for sure, but like you said, "know you will be back to your normal self." That is what keeps me going and I have appt with independent medical doc with images from MRI and Ct scans and just maybe we can figure out what is causing me my problems.

I was injured twice on the job and had neck surgery in May 2008 from the first one. So I have been in a crap situation for a while now. I try and relax but it is tough at times.

Thanks for being positive, Mr. Positive!