How long did it take you to recover from a bad relationship?

TonyBaloney

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Just curious how long it took you guys, and how you went about it? Do you still hold negative thoughts about it - how long did it last/how long ago.

I'm struggling still after nearly 5 months out of a on/off 3.5 year relationship.

Thanks in advance,

Tony
 

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It took me around a year to get back to being my best. I got over her pretty quickly, but I'd got complacent while I was with her and found it very difficult getting back in the field and meeting new women.

I also found that it took a while to "find myself" again. But the best things I ever did was to make a huge effort to improve myself and to keep pushing myself out of my comfort zone. I went on quite a few dates and asked women for their numbers. I got rejected, even had a couple of panic attacks, but gradually I started developing a resistance to it and became a natural.

Just keep moving forward mate and don't look back.
 

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5 months for a 3.5 yr relationship.

Best thing to do is work on yourself, I know this probably seems like the advice you will find everywhere else BUT it is because it really works.

1-. work on yourself (gym, hobbies, intellectual, etc)
2-. get social (friends, family and women)
3-. everything else falls in place

I wouldn't even try to get with women until you are actually doing well. In my case I started to develop oneintis for a girl (replace one with another) but stopped myself when I saw my inner AFC creeping.

Best of luck!
 

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7 years of loving followed by a few months of ****ing. then.. about 8 months to a year to get over her.

now i see her as a real sticking point not to end up like that again.
 

Don't always be the one putting yourself out for her. Don't always be the one putting all the effort and work into the relationship. Let her, and expect her, to treat you as well as you treat her, and to improve the quality of your life.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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TonyBaloney said:
Just curious how long it took you guys, and how you went about it? Do you still hold negative thoughts about it - how long did it last/how long ago. I'm struggling still after nearly 5 months out of a on/off 3.5 year relationship. Thanks in advance, Tony
You're almost there.

(November 2010 - April 2011) Relationship with Girl A who had BPD (i.e. heartbreak, oneitis).
(May 2011 - June 2011) Pure heartbreak and depression (didn't take any medication though and even quit smoking weed, and got in shape).
(July 2011 - October 2011) Good relationship (Girl B), but missed Girl A.
(October 2011 - January 2012) - Great relationship (Girl C), but still missed Girl A.
(January 2012 - February 2012) - After 2 months with Girl C and 9 months after my broken heart, Girl C officially replaced Girl A in my mind. It happened gradually and one day I just realized my thoughts were with the new one (and now I would NEVER go back!)

"Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers."
-Garth Brooks
 
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