how long can i keep this up? am i crazy?

[LoneWolf]

so yeah i'm back again with some more b1tching. i'm not feeling too good right now. i hate how soft and emotional i am but i have always been this way since a kid. i hurt easy, for stupid reasons too.

so anyway, last saturday new girl i been with for 2 months and a bit (everytime we are together it's GREAT) - suggested we do something this saturday so i'm like yeah cool. all week i'm looking forward to it and get some sex cause last sat she was on her period. so i'm like awesome.. until just now she text me a long text saying:

"Hey <my name>. So a friend of mine from <place> is visiting this weekend really short notice but i havent seen her for ages so we're gonna catch up saturday so i wont make it over. Sorry. Are u free on tuesday next week? i can come over tuesday."

now me being a soft little b1tch i get really angry/dissapointed/sad all at the same time. i got hyped up about seeing her and then this happened. anyway i sucked it up and called her 10 minutes later. we spoke for about 5 minutes and i pretended everything was cool, i'm like "yeah i just read your message, thats cool, no problem. not sure about tuesday yet cause i got a few things to do with work so i dont know yet but i will let you know before... but what are you doing tomorrow night? you can come around and hang out for a bit maybe."

i know that was dumb but i figured i havent had sex in two weeks almost now and only see her once a week. i do really wanna see her thats why i suggested tomorrow night instead cause its friday night. better than tuesday. anyway she said shes already doing something with friends. so i just left it at that. spoke a bit more about something else, had a few laughs and that was that. told her id contact her before tuesday.

i dont know whats wrong with me, i get hurt so easily and feel so sad for a while. like i feel rejected because of this. i wish she just made more time to see me, shes a really busy girl i know that. and i know i am supposed to be busy too but i really dont like being busy, i get too stressed out.

maybe i need to see a counsellor or something. i always have this fear of her ending this soon. im so fuked up. i should of just texted back saying "yeah thats cool. ill let you know if im free on tuesday."

 

[Diaforetikos]

Dood, I'm gonna be honest. The stress is normal. You were the "reacher". You reached for her. She had to settle for you. So you feel like she is the prize. You constantly thinking she is gonna get bored with you. She will if you keep thinking that.

Pull away from her. That's why this place pushes spinning plates. Focus too much on one girl and trouble brews. You were awesome before you met her. Why worry now?

I went through the same crap with my last girl. Then I realized, my game has gotten so good that I can generally get any girl I find attractive. Once you realize that, you wont care so much. Practice, practice, practice. I'm telling you, get your game skills up. Flirt with other girls in front of her. Don't cheat on her, just flirt. You need to practice.

Take her off the pedestal. And take sex off the pedestal too. Sex isn't that great. It's fun. But so are video games. You wouldn't be on here posting and complaining how you havent played video games in two weeks. Exactly. So shush up, realize that the world is full of better women that YOU could attract, then stop tripping about losing her. The stress isn't worth it man.

And when we decided to break off our little relationship, it felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. No more stressing. I was free. Haha. Stop stressing or break up with her.

Oh, and your too comfortable where your at. Get uncomfortable. She'll like you more for it.

 

[LoneWolf]

okay but i really do like her man. obviously she's not into me as much as i am into her but there's something there. i do flirt with other girls infront of her. i did it when we went out last friday. i was dancing and she saw me checking out girls and i was dancing next to them. she came around next to me after that and i decided it was enough flirting and turned to her and gave her some kisses. even though we arent official it really does feel like we are in a relationship. i think she's just taking it real slow. i'm giving her space (but she sure likes a lot of it) and i don't text or call much. once/twice a week we communicate by phone. that's pretty much it. when you say "pull away from her." there really isn't anything to pull away from lol. we aren't in each others face... it's real slow and spaced out. the last couple weekends though we have slept over each others house, spent two days together. i guess i'm just stressing for nothing. but i really get hurt on the spot. right now i am feeling ten times better than i did an hour ago. i just needed to vent. i am sorry for wasting peoples time but it really does make me feel a whole lot better to tell you guys how i feel.

thank you for the lifted spirits... it really helps guys

 

[HoneyHitter]

Come on fellas! It's really simple:

Use the unexpected extra bachelor time for finding new prospects.
Always have a few other girls in rotation. Even if you're not getting laid, it still improves your over-all game status.

 

[Vice]

The problem here is that you're an insecure b*tch.

People are busy. Sh*t happens. Just because things didn't go your way doesn't mean you should pout about it like a little boy. She gave you a counteroffer to COME OVER ON TUESDAY. Are you even busy on Tuesday, or was that a lame attempt at looking cool by pretending to be busy?

And asking her out for Friday... man, come on. She's a chick. Chicks have friends, and there's always something going on on Friday. Weekends should be for finding new girls. You're busy on weekends, unless she asks YOU out and you're guaranteed some sex.

 

[LoneWolf]

The problem here is that you're an insecure b*tch.

People are busy. Sh*t happens. Just because things didn't go your way doesn't mean you should pout about it like a little boy. She gave you a counteroffer to COME OVER ON TUESDAY. Are you even busy on Tuesday, or was that a lame attempt at looking cool by pretending to be busy?

And asking her out for Friday... man, come on. She's a chick. Chicks have friends, and there's always something going on on Friday. Weekends should be for finding new girls. You're busy on weekends, unless she asks YOU out and you're guaranteed some sex.

i didn't want to jump on her offer and seem desperate so i just played it cool by saying i'll get back to her. i think i did good on that part. also i wasn't pretending, i have job interviews and i'm not sure if i'll get called in for any on tuesday, so if i don't get calls by monday i will let her know then if i'm free. also, asking her about friday didn't seem like a bad idea, we are past the dating stage and all that bullcrapping game stuff. i just asked her straight out if she wanted to do something but oh well. i'm cool with it, she said she was busy and i let it go. thanks for the reply anyway vice, seriously, appreciate it.

 

[sinnerman]

so yeah i'm back again with some more b1tching. i'm not feeling too good right now. i hate how soft and emotional i am but i have always been this way since a kid. i hurt easy, for stupid reasons too.

so anyway, last saturday new girl i been with for 2 months and a bit (everytime we are together it's GREAT) - suggested we do something this saturday so i'm like yeah cool. all week i'm looking forward to it and get some sex cause last sat she was on her period. so i'm like awesome.. until just now she text me a long text saying:

"Hey <my name>. So a friend of mine from <place> is visiting this weekend really short notice but i havent seen her for ages so we're gonna catch up saturday so i wont make it over. Sorry. Are u free on tuesday next week? i can come over tuesday."

now me being a soft little b1tch i get really angry/dissapointed/sad all at the same time. i got hyped up about seeing her and then this happened. anyway i sucked it up and called her 10 minutes later. we spoke for about 5 minutes and i pretended everything was cool, i'm like "yeah i just read your message, thats cool, no problem. not sure about tuesday yet cause i got a few things to do with work so i dont know yet but i will let you know before... but what are you doing tomorrow night? you can come around and hang out for a bit maybe."

i know that was dumb but i figured i havent had sex in two weeks almost now and only see her once a week. i do really wanna see her thats why i suggested tomorrow night instead cause its friday night. better than tuesday. anyway she said shes already doing something with friends. so i just left it at that. spoke a bit more about something else, had a few laughs and that was that. told her id contact her before tuesday.

i dont know whats wrong with me, i get hurt so easily and feel so sad for a while. like i feel rejected because of this. i wish she just made more time to see me, shes a really busy girl i know that. and i know i am supposed to be busy too but i really dont like being busy, i get too stressed out.

maybe i need to see a counsellor or something. i always have this fear of her ending this soon. im so fuked up. i should of just texted back saying "yeah thats cool. ill let you know if im free on tuesday."

first of all you're not a soft lil bit*h and you dont need a counsellor. Heres the thing. Many of us like being the first priority in the gals life. Now when she makes plans with somebody else you feel you no longer are the priority. Also, you become angry with the other person who is ''stealing'' away the time you're supposed to be spending with your gal. You become territorial about it. And its totally natural. I feel that way many times especially if its in committed relationship. Random chics I dont let it affect much.

 

[vatoloco]

Shit, man! Two concepts for you: Neediness & Outcome Dependency.

It sounds to me like she's your only plate? If so, you know what to do...

 

[LoneWolf]

i had a couple other plates but i dropped them for this one because i felt we were getting to the relationship stages and i liked her more out of the other girls i was seeing. i probably dropped them too early. i just assumed since ive been sleeping over her house and shes been sleeping over here, met each others parents, friends, hold hands, all that bf/gf stuff that i had to cut contact with other girls i was seeing. so when exactly am i meant to stop spinning plates, when we are officially exclusive? cause i feel 50% of me is in some kind of relationship with this girl and i really do like her. but i guess i gotta start catching more plates then until it's official?

 

[jt4aa]

Any man who makes persuing women his defining purpose, is destined to a life of neurosis.

Go and get some balance my friend.

 

[Fred_Scuttle]

did you just want to see her for the sex? i dont really think you guys will get exclusive you know if she really wanted to see you she would. she would of invited you to spend time with her and her friend and she would not cancel the date with you and send a text that doesnt sound like she is sorry. most girls call the guy to say they cant come. hope it wont be another guy that she will be seeing that day. the only way to get back at this girl is make her see you as a strong guy now. she broke the date on you so dont let her set the new date. make her see you on your time and you set the day and time. dont let her do it because then she will feel like she can control you when you guys go out. trust me on this.

 

[LoneWolf]

so now its monday here.. i was fine all weekend. since i told her i'd let her know about tuesday on monday, i did. i texted her at 3.30pm saying i'm free tomorrow (tuesday). i said this: "hey <name>. it appears i will be free tomorrow after lunch about 1pm." no reply, nothing. im thinking to myself she's busy and will call me later. she didn't. so it's 9.30pm and i decided to myself fuk this, i need to know whats goin on so i can make other plans if shes not gonna tell me. i call, no answer. i know i shouldn't of but i'm one of those people who cannot stand someone who makes plans with you and doesn't hurry the fuk up and respond. it drives me nuts and i prefer to even get a NO then ignored.

oh and meanwhile all this waiting was driving me fuking insane. even calling another girl i'm seeing to arrange something didn't seem to help. i was losing it!

so i get a text 20 mins later saying: "hey <my name> sorry i missed ur call and didnt reply to ur message i went straight from work to martial arts then i left my phone in the car. i'll give u a call tomorrow."

what... the fuk? writing all that must of taken her a few minutes. why the fuk not just call instead? the worse part is she STILL hasn't let me know if shes coming tomorrow, which was her plan in the first place mind you! i have given this girl so much space the last month. i hardly call her or text her, maybe once a week just to arrange something.

i didn't even reply to that. i don't like to annoy people so i'll just wait for her call tomorrow. god im so upset right now... shes a female don juan i swear to god.

 

[LoneWolf]

i know but she really gets to me bad. i've never met a girl like her. you say step away, i haven't seen her for almost two weeks. i give her space man trust me. i hardly text/call her. like i said i just got upset today cause i messaged her early enough for her to respond because i could of made other plans. wouldn't anyone get pissed off with that? even if it's your guy friend? says he wants to hang out then never replies when you are like "hey bro we still hangin out tomorrow?" my friend use to do that to me and it really PISSED me right off.

anyway... i've even been seeing some other girl but this one just stays in the back of my mind. i put all this sh1t aside though, i don't show her any of it or she'll be running for sure. i'm also not that experienced in relationships. the longest i've ever been in a relationship was 5 months and that girl was TOTALLY in love with me. call me everyday calling me baby, saying i love you. this is just different to me that's all.

i have a baaad habit of overthinking everything in life. i need to fix this.