how is it one becomes a complete"afc" or as i am feeling"wbafc"...

[OddManOut85]

as i sit here and write this,i just feel like im on an emotional low.i am constanly depressed and miserable.for numerous reasons.ive realized what my problem is,and that is,i have isolated myself,and not even tried.my god.im shocked at myself.i think of all the times i have gone out,simply shopping,to work,for school,when i was in school,and all of "the missed oppurtunities." no wonder im so alone and feel i have missed out in some ways.ive never even really tried.does that make someone a total loser? i made the foolish mistake of thinking meeting chicks online was going to be an easy way.only turned to be a waste of time.it just feels like somewhere in life,i went wrong.

instead of going out and actually trying to meet chicks,id be at home doing nothing.mostly looking at porn.jesus christ,what kind of damage does that do to a person? i think back and realize thats what ive done.im trying not to reflect on the past,but i cant help it.several posts on here have made me realize certain things,nice guys finish last,why women like a-holes instead,or what it really boils down too is lack of courage/confidence,two things i havent built much up on.its just,i feel like im always going to be alone.cause i have felt so alone for so long now.

all ive ever really wanted was a gf.isnt that what most guys want? well,ive realized,you gotta ask yourself what you want. why i didnt even really try,i dont know.maybe it was fear of rejection,or just lack of confidence not knowing what to say etc.or getting caught up in the whole "high school" way of things. not having been in school the past few years hasnt helped either.i think i have developed an inferiority complex.ive tried to stop masturbating,but i cant help it.

i think i may be developing an addiction.theres 3 posts on here that i think explain my problem,lazyness=masturbation,and why doing nothing makes you feel bad,and Nice guys dont finish last..but pyssys do.all so true those posts.am i just making this seem harder than it is? i mean,it seems like chicks always go for the cool guys.well,im not one of the cool guys it seems.im not here to get pity or sympathy,just figure out where i went wrong.i mean,ive always believe in love,is that the wrong attitude? should i just go out and try and get with any chick? is it really as simple as if one says no,ie rejection,move on to the next one? i know i want to get married and start a family someday,but if you dont go out and even try,how are you going to know?

 

[LionOne]

Man.. You sound like your life is already over. Stop thinking that. Stop saying that. Stop that. You realize what are you problems and you have found this site so you don't have to deal them alone. But man.. stop that negativity thing. :trouble:

I don't know your situation so I can't offer much help. But you gotta go out. It's best if you can go out with few friends who are also single. Try to pick up girls and let yourself fail. Let yourself learn. Everyone has to try, fail and learn.

If you are out of shape start going to gym. Three times a week. And fix your diet. Workout + the food eaten affect the mood amazingly. No trash food or candies, ever.

You can stop (reduce) wanking. Promise to yourself not to do that for two weeks. Say to yourself you can do that. The worst thing you can do is to disappoint yourself. If you feel that urge then do some hard physical exercise instead.

Plan some things to do. Have you ever tried tennis? Call your friend and say that you want to try it. Go play pool, join poker ring.. The more friends you make the easier it will be for you. You will always have someone to hangout with.

And.. always say yes for the party

Some advices, like it or not. It's up to you.

 

[OddManOut85]

it some ways it feels like its over cause it feels like im going nowhere ib life.im just waisting away.ive tried to stop the negativity,but i cant help it.when you feel alone and/or miserable all the time,its tough.thats just it,i havent tried failed and learned yet.and i just cant believe it.all these years just gone bye.i mean,last year,i managed to hook up with a few chicks,even finally got laid,but it was this girl i met online,not going out and trying.

not that i regret it,but i wish things turned out differently.i learned,dont push for a relationship,you dont have to be in love to sleep with someone,or for the first time.then after that,nothing,didnt see anyone else.idk why.ive had freinds who were single,and they either never helped or i didnt ask.ive been trying to watch what i eat.thats just it,ive had all these oppurtunities to go out,meet people,become more sociable,etc,and i havent done anything.and what i regret most is the time lost.i mean,it feels like why me? am i of low vaule or something?