How important is social proof at my age?

[Doc73]

Hey guys, just wondering how important social proof is if you are in your late 20s/early 30s? I am asking this because I just moved back to my hometown a couple of months ago only to find all of my friends have either moved out or moved on.

I guess I just dont want to seem like someone who has no life to the girls I have been flirting with lately.

 

[TheTrimReaper]

I'm asking the same question myself. Although I haven't moved to a new place, all of my friends are married and don't do anything
social. I was in an LTR/engagement for the past three years and didn't really expand my social circle much since she didn't have many friends. So now I have my best friend, who's married w/ kid, to hang out with and that's with his baby.

I'm starting to assume it's beneficial to have a social circle when you are in or out of a relationship. You have the benefits of social proof and support, which is good not only to show a mate but also for your own well-being.

I'd like to join some groups that will allow me to be social with people my age, 33, but I have no idea where to go. I can't stand clubs, so that's out of the question. Also, I'd like to get into a setting where I could be social with groups of women. I think that's where, as a DJ, you can really shine. My problem is I've always had a hardcore "no-women-friends" policy. Maybe it's time to rethink that one?

As far as showing you have a life, have you thought about volunteering? I've been looking into helping in the Special Olympics.

 

[Gipper]

Interesting topic.

Dance classes might be a possible place to meet chicks, in addition to learning a skill. Of course you have the coffee shops, in line at the grocery store, etc. These are smaller, quieter type of pickups, but can still be effective.

99% of my friends are married with kids, so I'll have to adopt a new strategy. Let me sleep on it...

Gipper

 

[Ricky]

I think social proof is always important because women are always jealous of each other.