I agree with eagle, we're all just here to pick from each other's experience and learn from each other. Nobody said that OP had to follow anyone's advice here.
Now very often a girl would verbalise that you are going too fast. That's normal. They are validating their internal dialogue that makes them fear being labeled a slut. In my experience, my gf said we'll only do the full deed after graduation from college. Something in my brain rang the bull**** alarm and well, to cut the story short, we were doing it just weeks after she said it. Because I was comfortable escalating, I made her comfortable being escalated on. Take it slow, but not take a step back. That means some times you lay off the kinky fun and do "normal" things instead of turning every date into a make out or sex or whatever session. After all, girls are emotional creatures and want to explore sex too. They just don't want to feel used after doing so.
So when a girl tells you that it's going too fast, it's because she is either not feeling safe enough with you yet, or she is just afraid of being labeled. As long as it's not every single date you end up splashing your love juice all over her (hey u said gf not fb right?!), you are doing fine. Don't buy into her frame and lose your power in the relationship. They will try all they can to domesticate us.
