How easy can it be to get girls attracted to you??

[Chicks Just Dig Me]

All the masters here on this board, most anyway, have no trouble getting numbers and approaching women and what not...I don't know how most of you make it so easy? I guess I still don't know how to get the magic spark for them?

I talked to a few girls I met today, and we shared a few laughs and showed her my ****y side. There were a fewe guys around her and me, and this one guy was good. He was funny, making her laugh, and I knew "Man, he is better than me..."

Maybe because I am still in high school, with 16-17 year old girls, they don't truely understand what I am trying to learn from you guys and from the master of all masters, Mr. DD.

So how do you guys make it so easy? I got the women's signs down and everything, but I can kinda tell that most of them are not hinting anything towars me. I am not even that bad looking--I dress nicely, clean cut hair, fit and muscular, am a little short with big lips but other than that---

Most of you can get a number(s) in a matter of minutes with no sweat at all, how do you do this?? For me, just getting a few numbers is nearly impossible and I fear I will always be like this...I am pretty cool, have a lot of friends and everything, and uglier guys who don't do sports like me even get the ladies...Can anyone explain how it all works to me please...cuz I must be making it harder than it really is?

 

[Double C]

Practice.

 

[Charm]

It takes making hundreds of approaches, no, thousands.. and going on hundreds of dates with various women of different personality types.. talking with women.. friends.. testing out ideas.. practice.. drawing board.. improving communication.. over and over.. you can't eat the entire apple at once, you'll choke on it. One bite at a time.

 

[Quiksilver]

and I knew "Man, he is better than me..."

You think you'll get many girls with that attitude?

 

[edmond]

Do not worry about what other guys do or girls want, do the things that YOU want to do.

 

[Chicks Just Dig Me]

I know I do lack some of the confidence because I think I am not the best a girl can want. But I need ot realize girls are mostly attracted to personality, not just looks. Like I said, i do keep myself well-groomed, do work out, do 3 sports a year. But I just need to practice apporaching and talking with them. Once in a while, I hit the road block and don't know what to do next...

 

[Young Juan]

YES, YOU ARE MAKING IT HARDER THAN IT REALLY IS!

First of all, that "Man, he is better than me..." mentality is your first problem. The only thing you should be focusing on is consistently stepping YOUR game up. Also, HAVE SOME CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF!!

You have to learn how to see PAST each individual girl, otherwise you'll put way too much pressure on a single interaction that will in no way determine the sucess or failure of your life as a whole. You win some, you lose some. You also gotta make it a habit to be around/talk to girls at least once a day. This is ONLY so you can feel more comfortable around em, get used to becoming a good listener (a double-edged sword if your quick witted), and generally encountering routine situations with girls, that are NOT routine to you do to your lack of HOURS LOGGED!

Also, as I learned from being a good looking guy (others opinions), is that if you walk the walk, many girls will assume you talk the talk too. If you act afraid, nervous, or something incongruent with how you look, girls pick up on that and see you as a poser/fraud.

Getting numbers is overrated, because there's more work to be done after getting the number than before it. I'd say even if you have a canned, "I'd really like to get to know you better, we should hang out this weekend @ .... what's your phone number?" it will work 7-9/10 simply because most girls get an ego boost from giving out their digits. You'd be surprised how many shots in the dark are on target, especially if your above average attractiveness.

Lastly, girls are subtle. They don't usually show you overt signs first, but only after you do your fair share of flirting/gaming. When HS girls are trying to show interest, they'll give you their full undivided attention whenever you have something to say, regardless of how insignificant it is. She'll laugh at your corny jokes too, when no one else does just to try to make you feel good about yourself.

 

[Chicks Just Dig Me]

How can I prove to them my confidence? I have this thing when they compliment me I say, "Yah I am such an awesome guy!" confidently along those lines. A few girls think I brag abotu myself and I am into myself too much--so I think I need to be a little less ****y and a little more funny...

Another girl whom I like keeps telling me "Mike, you are so mean," in a joking matter. I don't know if that is a good sign or not, but it shows she knows I am pretty confident.

Also, how do I show the women through my body language I am a confident, funny guy who they would love to meet? Any tips?

 

[Boschy]

I think you're too young to realise yet that if you keep working at a skill, you will automatically get better. You also sound a bit impatient. Most of us were like that at your age.

David DeAngelo reckons it takes about four years just to get good at something. Perhaps ten years to master it. You're really just getting started, so relax and make the most of all of your interactions with women.

 

[frisco]

Confidence comes and goes, its competence that gets you laid. Me i just love learning about women, eventually everything will be clear to you, and you begin to learn what makes women tick and even if you feel like **** you know what to do around them its a bad ass feeling

 

[Infraction]

I am not close to be a master but after reading the DJ bible + pooks bible 2 girls asked for my number.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Yo Troops!


I've found that one of the main components to generating attraction is by exuding CONFIDENCE. I've also found that confidence can be compartmentalized, and that it's situation specific.

What is something you are really GOOD at? What are some activities that you participate in that make you FEEL better about yourself than you do when you are NOT doing them?

Because when you're in the OPTIMUM state of mind and venue, you are ALWAYS more relaxed, **** and funny, confident, capable and Prize-like. During THOSE times----you are THE MAN!

So if you can answer those two questions you will have a better idea of what the best state of mind to be in, and what the best venues are for you to INCREASE your ability to attract women.


Stay in THE FIGHT, soldiers.

 

[md3sign]

VU touched well on confidence. It has to stem from within. You can fake it for a while (as I have), but girls will eventually see through it. Still, fake it til you make it should never be dismissed as an option.

In my opinion, increasing your confidence is done in 2 ways:

1) Qualification by others. Any time you get positive feedback. A girl tells you you're hot, you hook up, maybe you get some googly looks from strange women, any compliment, ANYTHING to boost your ego. Obviously this isn't something you should ever seek out, but when it comes your way, it only raises your self esteem.

2) Qualification by self, backed by action. This is how confident you are about what you deserve in life, and what you deserve is the best. However, in order to truly possess this state of mind (at least in my personal experience), you have to actually BECOME that person that deserves the best.

For example: I'm a bodybuilder and I bust my ass at the gym 5x/week. I make sure I get 8 hours of sleep a night and I keep my diet in check as much as possible. I know the hard work I put in, I have seen my own progress, and I know that generally the hot chicks go for the hot dudes. I couldn't fake this mentality without putting in the time. I know that I'm devoted, disciplined, and I go after what I want. It started in the gym, but quickly branched out to every other aspect of life. I know (partially backed by #1) that if a girl I'm out with flakes on me, I would drop her without a second thought because I could just as easily get another. Once again, women pick up on this like you wouldn't believe.

In other words, find something you're good at and go balls to the wall with it. Love yourself and others will love you. Improve on yourself and women will be qualifying themselves to you.

Long post short, don't just act like you're tough sh!t. BE tough sh!t.

 

[GaryUranga]

instantly? I can get girls attracted to me instantly. .working my way up is the hard part though (I didnt read the post, just the title)

 

[IamtheAlphamale]

Read my post on the tips forum. Basically you need more practice and you need to keep telling yourself your the man. DRIVE it into your psyche. One day you will wake up and it will click. Thats what happened for me anyways. OH you also need to practice hardcore.

 

[ThatKing]

As they said, numbers are the easy part...just find some reason to bail, and say "hey we should hang out sometime, lemme get your number." If there is any reason you would have it anyway, you can throw that in before the we should hang out part as a linguistic leap, but most of the time, just being direct is the key. Seriously though, if you are direct, you will get their number 90% of the time, so don't worry about it.

Never feel intimidated by any other guy in a situation. If he is making her laugh or keeping her interest on a subject, say something related that outclasses what he said, and CHANGE subjects. Close off body language to not include him. You are the ****, you know how this game works, he doesn't, so feel free to ignore him. Social proof is a biggie, especially in HS. Don't spend time here, find a friend to run with, join a sport and even if you aren't the best on the team, be the most entertaining to be around.

 

[Athens]

It doesn't take as much arduous work some put it out to be, unless you're really struggling to be attractive which ends up showing. One thing I find that girls like a lot is how unique you are. The "Everyone is special and unique" line is bullcrap. The way you do your hair, your clothes, your personality, your voice, your swagger all contributes to this uniqueness. Of course it's completely possible to get girls when you're a polo-wearing baseball-cap-touting run-of-the-mill jock, but being different makes you stand out, and that's the spark.