How d'you stop people copying you?

[All_Torque]

One thing that is really pissing me off is when people around me copy what I do.

Since I found this site, my confidence has totally improved and I am a better person. But I find that a lot of men in particular like to copy me.

Example: When I stay around in any one group for a while, people start using phrases that I use, wearing similar clothes, walking like I do etc.

I was in a waiting room today and this obnoxious jerk comes in and sits next to me (there were no other seats). Now he obviously had some delusion of being "the" alpha male because of his attitude, he was *so* trying to compare himself to me. I noticed how he was trying to sit up, to mimick my posture and he was spreading himself about and this pr|ck was totally violating my personal space. (I didn't budge though, and I could tell that he was weakening...)

Anyway, was he jealous because I was unique and he was average loser or what?

I've gone off topic now,but I guess I have two questions: 1) How d'you deal with pretentious vulgar idiots like this. 2) How dyou stop people copying you.

 

[Oxide]

LOL. let them copy all they want. they cant copy your mindset, so they will just look like fools.

Ignore these guys. Dont bring them the attention they want.

 

[TesuqueRed]

There's a problem here?

Ok, there is, but it's not with the guys copying you.

It's you.

Those guys are doing the right thing--they don't have game, they recognize (we have to take your word on this) you do and they emulate it. They do it badly at first. It's called aping your behavior because it's that garish and unskilled.

They are instictively using a technique called "modeling". Smart people do it--people who recognize they need to mimic someone successful or what they want to become and then practice it thru behavior.

It's an excellent technique.

You should feel complimented.

And you can't stop them from doing it. You can't.

And---please pay attention here--that isn't the real issue. The real issue is that they copy or emulate what you did yesterday and what you are already leaving behind as you develop the next thing. Great! There is an inner core here that you have that cannot be copied. They're working on your old material and using it to learn and develop their own material.

It's all good.

Yet you wanna put a copyright mark (C) and register (R) every gesture or posture or cute little phrase you made and prevent anyone else from using it---wtf???

Can't be done.

The red flag for me is that you're focused on some tight-@ss "don't copy me!" backwards looking thing. Bad. If you really had game--I mean it--you would find this all humorous. You would be secure that they can try to copy you, but they just don't have the real thing.

Money talks, bullshyt walks...right?

(BTW, I copied that from my brother, who copied it from some movie or something, I dunno...it's very useful to remember, though.)

So let them copy you. You're already busy on the next thing. Everybody around you will KNOW whether you have the real stuff or not. They'll know if some guy next to you is ripping off your material and goofing up with it and that he got it from you.

Again--we're taking your word on you got game, right?--but since you're reacting this way, I wonder about it since guys who "had it" didn't get this small minded about it. They just looked on at the copycats and laughed at how badly they messed up their stolen material.

 

[mystik]

i promote people copying me. i enjoy startin fashions and seeing everyone dress like i do. I like how everyone else tries to be ****y and funny just because they see my success with girls. I like how others try to upstage me. It is the ultimate compliment when they tries to BE you!

Work hard at being yourself. A DJ is about incorporating the desired traits as part of you! Let others copy, you are original and refreshing, girls know that. They see something that they want and they will go straight to the source to get it.

 

[trajhenkhet]

Think of it as flattery. And remember if you really want to go the extra mile with things you've learned from this site, help your fellow man.

 

[K-Daddy]

*pats original poster on the back*

Is that what you wanted from this post? Well there, I did it so you can stop having to do it yourself.

Thank you for the brilliantly enlightening post. You are way alpha.