How does "status" work after high school and college in the USA? (in crowd & top 20%)

[SomethingDifferent]

In high school it seemed obvious, the jocks and the "popular" kids were the ones who got laid with the hottest girls at that high school, most of the times.

In college, it was somewhat obvious too, the jocks and the frat boys (who were in a well liked fraternity) got the hottest girls. Generally speaking this is how it seems to work at most American college campuses, unless you went to some small liberal arts college or something.

What I learned is that if you were a part of a certain "crowd" in high school and college, it made it easier for you to get the hottest girls around. You were a part of their world and it made it acceptable for them to date you and even **** you. In high school and college, getting into that crowd seemed simple. You either made friends with the more popular kids in high school or you either got a bid to be in a well liked fraternity in college.

Now in the real world, outside of the obvious such as being a famous actor, pro athlete, or famous musician, how does a guy make himself a part of that crowd and get the hottest women his city or area has to offer?

Is there anything like a "frat" or the "in crowd" in the real world?

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

Far as I can tell, there is no such thing as an in-crowd after school is over. This is because you're no longer forced to be around anyone... ever, and peoples' social networks do not consist of dozens-to-hundreds of acquaintances that they'll see on a regular basis. Therefore your status will be determined by other things.

In the real world, when you meet a stranger, your status will not be judged by:
1) How many friends you have
2) How cool your friends are
3) Whether or not you were a cool kid in high school

In the real world, when you meet a new attractive woman, your status WILL be judged by:
1) Your physical fitness
2) Your grooming
3) Your income
4) Your profession
5) Your social skills
6) Your hobbies

Ways to meet attractive women after you're out of school:
1) Move to a city (can't stress this enough)
2) Internet dating (the Free-er the better)
3) Meetups via sites like meetup.com
4) Pick up social hobbies like dancing or team sports (like adult Kick Ball)
5) Get roommates who are super friendly and want new friends

By far the best way I've found to meet high quality women (i.e. not just attractive physically but also high quality emotionally and intellectually) is to make friends with as many people as you can and work on maintaining those relationships. If you do this, you'll meet their friends and your social circle will expand. As your social circle expands, you can regularly drop friends who are unproductive for your happiness/dating life and add new ones as the opportunities arise. You can look at making friends the same way people look at dating - spin plates and drop bad plates and add plates that enhance your life.

Hope this helps,
Deadly_Ripped

 

[SomethingDifferent]

That is somewhat of a good point but what if my focus is just on ****ing as many attractive women as possible? Practically living like a cool kid after college that has a lot of casual sex?

 

[Starwolf]

That is somewhat of a good point but what if my focus is just on ****ing as many attractive women as possible? Practically living like a cool kid after college that has a lot of casual sex?

Then you would have to be like the guys from RSD..
going out clubbing every night doing dozens of cold approaches and pulling.

 

[SomethingDifferent]

What I was trying to find out is what kind of crowds these hot women run in and what kind of guys it takes to be a part of that crowd?

In high school they were in the popular crowd. In college they were in the sororities or cheerleaders. What about the real world? I mean outside of being victoria secrets models, what are examples of the kinds of crowds these women run in and how does a guy make himself a part of that crowd?

I would like to be in a circle that has attractive women and some cool guys in it but I don't know if these circles are found after college.

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

What I was trying to find out is what kind of crowds these hot women run in and what kind of guys it takes to be a part of that crowd?

This question cannot possibly be honestly answered. There are many kinds of hot women. Social circles are built around common interests, common backgrounds, common professions, and common looks.

If you want to pull hot chicks, cold approach every single one you see who isn't interacting with a man. If you are the type of person who really thinks that he is going to walk into a social circle full of hot chicks, then you must also be the type of person who doesn't need to ask "what kind of guys do they hang out with."

You can't just make up an entire personality and then act that way in order to make friends so that you can sleep with your new friends' friends.

Figure out what personality type you like in a woman, and then seek people with those similar personality types. Within those social circles, where you are benefiting even without getting laid, find the hot ones and bang them.

 

[SomethingDifferent]

I don't care about personality though, I just want hot p*ssy, thats it.

If she is hot, she can be a crazy *****, I just wanna **** her. Its like this, I never got that experience in college and I want it now. I want hot girls to **** and a crowd of cool male friends around my age but it seems impossible to do after college.

 

[btownbuck2012]

Far as I can tell, there is no such thing as an in-crowd after school is over. This is because you're no longer forced to be around anyone... ever, and peoples' social networks do not consist of dozens-to-hundreds of acquaintances that they'll see on a regular basis. Therefore your status will be determined by other things.

In the real world, when you meet a stranger, your status will not be judged by:
1) How many friends you have
2) How cool your friends are
3) Whether or not you were a cool kid in high school

In the real world, when you meet a new attractive woman, your status WILL be judged by:
1) Your physical fitness
2) Your grooming
3) Your income
4) Your profession
5) Your social skills
6) Your hobbies

Ways to meet attractive women after you're out of school:
1) Move to a city (can't stress this enough)
2) Internet dating (the Free-er the better)
3) Meetups via sites like meetup.com
4) Pick up social hobbies like dancing or team sports (like adult Kick Ball)
5) Get roommates who are super friendly and want new friends

By far the best way I've found to meet high quality women (i.e. not just attractive physically but also high quality emotionally and intellectually) is to make friends with as many people as you can and work on maintaining those relationships. If you do this, you'll meet their friends and your social circle will expand. As your social circle expands, you can regularly drop friends who are unproductive for your happiness/dating life and add new ones as the opportunities arise. You can look at making friends the same way people look at dating - spin plates and drop bad plates and add plates that enhance your life.

Hope this helps,
Deadly_Ripped

+1

This is spot on. This is why I much prefer the "real world" over high school & college.

 

[Good Gao]

The "in crowd" will always exist, it is natural for people in large groups to form cliques. In high school it was the popular kids, in college the greek life, and in the real world it works somewhat the same way. You have the elite which include famous actors and pro athletes but it happens on a smaller level too.

A lot of the successful people who are good looking tend to congregate in certain areas such as big cities and wealthier neighborhoods. Many of these people will now form communities with others like them: successful, good looking, and charismatic people. Country clubs are extreme examples of such a community but this also happens on a smaller scale, it is not as clearly written as it is with Greek Life in college but you see it happen. Attractive and successful people tend to hang around attractive and successful people most of the time.

Problem is, by now, most of these people have settled down with a girlfriend or wife so even though they hang out, you don't find many single women in these communities, they are all wifed up. Your best bet becomes to go this route: meet attractive women through hobbies and other means (cold approach, groups, etc.) while being successful and making friends with like minded guys. Through that you can eventually land a pretty looking girl to bring as a date to some events with your successful friends at them.

I don't think it will ever be like Greek Life again simply because as you get older and into the "in crowds", people are already settled down.

The other route is to land a gig as a model photographer or something along those lines.