How does one maintain the power in the relatioship?

[Packers2010]

i don't feel entitled to anything..

that is my BIGGEST problem right now.

 

[PackGranpa]

Not necessarily (or completely). I mean, you still have to play the "game"; not show too much interest, maintain the challenge, excitement, anticipation, intrigue, and mystery, etc. It's moreso not being a chump OR a jackass. Just a natural way of being.

If you act like a chump - people will take advantage. Act like a jackass, and they will throw everything they have at you.

I was both - sometimes at the same time - and it did not work. People don't just succumb to your demands and allow themselves to be bullied, played, or controlled... they fight back. But if you allow it to happen to you - they have no respect for you. So, don't control or be controlled.

****'s not healthy, anyway, and no way to live. And the people you attract as a result of either / or will be ****. Play games and you'll attract game-players... And really, do you want a controlling manipulator OR a desperate girl with no self-esteem? ****'s not fun, and it's all you will get by acting in these manners.

And again, we're talking about relationships - where quality and mutual respect is vital. People don't want to be smothered or worshipped, nor controlled and played. If it's just a dumb, party-ho skank, or dating around casually with no intent of committment, not all of this applies.

It sounds a lot like "Be Yourself" to me, cause if you really think about it, no one wants to be in total control all the time, and no one wants to be controlled completely by someone/something.

Most people want to stay in between those two extremes, part of them wants to have some power, while another part just wants to delegate the works to others and let it go. So the good thing for people to do IMO is to find the sweet spot between the two extremes for them.

However, the spot is different for each individual, so the problem appears when you set the boundaries for them, like telling them how much they should be in control or how much they should let go. It depends on each individual to decide what he wants to let go, and what he wants to cling to.

Personally, I prefer to let go most of the thing in my life, and surprisingly most of them just come to me without me having to grasp it.

 

[Burroughs]

Personally, I prefer to let go most of the thing in my life, and surprisingly most of them just come to me without me having to grasp it.

riiigghtt

that's why you post on the internet as a butthurt troll :crackup:

 

[PackGranpa]

riiigghtt

that's why you post on the internet as a butthurt troll :crackup:

See, I ignored this moron in one post, or I let go of him to be exact, and now he comes to me like a drunk filthy wh0re :rock:

Too good of an example Thanks troll kid :crackup:

 

[Velor]

By remaining less attached and interested, the one who loves less is the one who has the power