How does it feel knowing you will never have any power in a relationship?

[SamTheHobit]

As 2014 begins and society moves further away from traditional and Christian values.

One thing is certain. Your power as a man in a relationship in 2014 is minimal or non existent.

Every time your gf gets a fb message from a guy your power slips away.

That's right. You don't even have to do anything

Sure you can try the tactics they teach but who are you kidding you can't keep that up forever.

They say you have "walking power" but she has that aswell.

She has an unlimited supply of men, "male attention" just by having a fb account.

You don't have options no were near the amount she has. And that gives her power over you.

And even if you do have options . Her options are different to yours were as you have to put in effort to get them and she has to do nothing.

If anyone can tell me in what way men have power over women I love to hear it.
I can't think of anything.

Power is the core of a relationship.
This is why playerman constantly tells people relationships and commitment is for betas.
I think his main message is you have no power in the relationship so why have one.

Enjoy having a non commitment 2014.

 

[thatfeel]

Having power over yourself is the true strength in any relationship.

 

[DonJuanit0]

You can always beat her up!

Seriously, having power in a relationship in my opinion is holding the frame. Probably every woman on this planet, as soon as she gets in a relationship, she is trying to change the man. Make him the way she wants him to be and then obviously dump him.

The true power a man can possess is his frame and sticking to it! Not changing for a woman and keeping her to where she belongs, in your frame, will give you the power you seek.

 

[pdx1138]

Sam, we know what really happened and the point of THIS post.

sour grapes from a girl not responding after your first date.

chin up dude, there are more out there...

KEEP THE FRAME as DonJuanit0 says.

 

[skinnyguy]

Lol, Christian values. You mean molesting 8 year old boys? Sounds like you'd be happier if you got a sex change.

 

[TenOfSpades]

Men have no power in a relationship because woman have freedoms. Thats my understanding from your blathering nonsense. Men also have freedoms. We are fully capable to do the same things woman do.

Be good enough and a woman will stick around and be good. The same goes for woman. They need to be good enough to get a loyal man. Do you think woman are lying when they always say they have trouble finding a good man? They aren't, most woman are garbage so men cheat, leave them go elsewhere, essentially hurt them. Other side of the coin is the same thing. Most men are useless, unattractive plebes that woman would love to upgrade from.

So while you go grab the ankle locks for your chain, the rest of us will be going out sleeping with ladys and if they stray from the pact that is a relationship, they were low value useless anyways, just good for a wet hole.

 

[Mike32ct]

The only power you might have is if you date down (ie she thinks that she's dating up).

 

[HumbleNinja]

As 2014 begins and society moves further away from traditional and Christian values.

One thing is certain. Your power as a man in a relationship in 2014 is minimal or non existent.

Every time your gf gets a fb message from a guy your power slips away.

That's right. You don't even have to do anything

Sure you can try the tactics they teach but who are you kidding you can't keep that up forever.

They say you have "walking power" but she has that aswell.

She has an unlimited supply of men, "male attention" just by having a fb account.

You don't have options no were near the amount she has. And that gives her power over you.

And even if you do have options . Her options are different to yours were as you have to put in effort to get them and she has to do nothing.

If anyone can tell me in what way men have power over women I love to hear it.
I can't think of anything.

Power is the core of a relationship.
This is why playerman constantly tells people relationships and commitment is for betas.
I think his main message is you have no power in the relationship so why have one.

Enjoy having a non commitment 2014.

I hate to say it Sam. But it was over for you...before it even started. God Bless.

 

[nismo-4]

Sam, I know it's hard out there sometimes and it may seem like men are at a disadvantage when it comes to dating - especially with AFC's ruining everything for us by artificially increasing the price of golden pvssy by showering even plain looking girls with attention and compliments.

But men will always have the ultimate power in a relationship - the power to walk away.

AFC's are dating down so much that even HB1's have options like a HB7 does. There are lots of ghost profiles online. There are many that will talk to you and stop the minute you ask them out.

A man can walk away, but the woman can do the same, in which case she wasn't interested anyway. If she chases, that's when you're in control. But considering women's options these days, if one man walks away, 10 more will be willing to take that spot. Women always have options, and some of these are international from Facebook, Twitter, etc.

 

[HumbleNinja]

AFC's are dating down so much that even HB1's have options like a HB7 does. There are lots of ghost profiles online. There are many that will talk to you and stop the minute you ask them out.

A man can walk away, but the woman can do the same, in which case she wasn't interested anyway. If she chases, that's when you're in control. But considering women's options these days, if one man walks away, 10 more will be willing to take that spot. Women always have options, and some of these are international from Facebook, Twitter, etc.

True. But if a woman's options are all trash, or lap dogs etc. paying one handed compliments to her and every other chick posing for attention what kind of "options" does she truly have? And if those are the "options" she prefers how good of a catch could she be in the first place?

Too many dudes claim "alpha" etc. but get emotional over chicks nonsense. There's no need to if you as a man are truly a catch. Why care about what sht choices chicks make in life? I used to when I was young. Now I could care less. You I nor anyone can control what someone does. Even if we COULD we'd be bored to tears of having a pushover and not respect them.

You simply have to leave the clowns to play in their lives embarrassing circus. Period.

 

[USB]

One thing is certain. Your power as a man in a relationship in 2014 is minimal or non existent.

That is so true, if a guy follows DJ techniques, in a relationship he will never have the power. However, I believe to seduce a woman is a two step process. First you need to develop your DJ techniques (first level of power). This website is perfect for this. The second level of power is to understand who you are, your values, passions, your limitations. Your actions should always be aligned with who you are... Unfortunately, this website does not address this issue. I don't know of any website that does this effectively from a prospective of seduction ....

 

[TheCWord]

As 2014 begins and society moves further away from traditional and Christian values.

Pretty glad that society is moving away from the belief that earth is 2000 years old.

 

[TheCWord]

That is so true, if a guy follows DJ techniques, in a relationship he will never have the power. However, I believe to seduce a woman is a two step process. First you need to develop your DJ techniques (first level of power). This website is perfect for this. The second level of power is to understand who you are, your values, passions, your limitations. Your actions should always be aligned with who you are... Unfortunately, this website does not address this issue. I don't know of any website that does this effectively from a prospective of seduction ....

This is really interesting. I don't have any answers myself, but it's a good point.

 

[crazyboy]

The problem with your statement is that a woman nature is submissive, and even though may have a lot option they don't think it the same frame as guys with lots options. Most women on fb use as self-esteem boost unless they met the guy in real life or he happen to be some famous dude with boats load of money which is unlikely because if she had that option she wouldn't be with you unless of course you have the status. Then facebook twitter and whatever the hell else comes out means nothing. Also to say a woman has to do nothing is on fault of the man. Now if your saying she do nothing to get laid the yes your correct but women are not wired like men so getting laid doesn't really mean as much them as it does to us. As man you hold the power because you can do what most women cant is think for yourself and not be swayed by popular opinion of the month. Also man keeps his power by remaining dominant and keeping her in her place. If woman rude to you tell her azz to bounce and not to speak to you in that fashion. And if she want you i bet she come back apologizing and saying forgive whatever bs they come up with. Man power in the relationship is that he is willing to break the relationship at anytime lets be honest female value relationship more than guy do. Also to keep power in relationship is to always subtly let her know that you have option. Even something oh this woman at work said they like the tie you pick out for me. If you allow yourself to be walk over she will. I mean even from child support or alimony we hold the power. On that one you have to put in perspective she relying on you. Its suck obviously because you cant stand her. But no matter what independent bs she is still relying on you. I mean rub it her face every time you see her because its just money you cant more since you know how. but if she never work a day in her life or doesn't know how to save money she be sucking the next d!ck to pay her bills. As man if you follow your nature dealing with are easy. I mean how often when chick is venting we just ignore her azz say yeah uh huh and she happy because you think your "listening" Don't be afraid to say how you feel sometime we as men hold back too much and end up losing the frame. go off on women every once a while fear and respect ride the same line my peace anyway.

 

[Tomo]

Don't place your happiness and need for approval in someone elses hand.

 

[VladPatton]

I have no idea what you're talking about.

 

[abe0]

I may differ a little. Power...traditional....Christian values. Think about it....the average guy who is 21 years old on this site has probably been laid 10x more than your father did in a life time!!!
In the old days....they did not perform because they had a reputation to up hold...Now, if they do not perform....we say...next and move one to the next one.
I prefer this game better.....more opportunities now than ever before. Abe

 

[TheCWord]

To expect to find all the answers to these questions on a website go against the entire purpose of a website like SS, where we encourage members to get out there and live.

But I want easy answers, bradd!

 

[adam225]

Don't place your happiness and need for approval in someone elses hand.

Exactly, it's REALLY this simple. Sam, you're letting women bother you too much. You need to aim to be totally happy in yourself without a women first. Until then, you are fighting a loosing battle with yourself. Stop thinking outwards and think INWARDS instead. That's where true lasting happiness is found....

 

[Night-hawk]

Ime/o, you notice a change in a woman's power in a relationship when you sense her percieved increase in value over you, hinted by subtle acts of disrespect and slowly amped over time by how you supplicante to her whims of said perceived value over you. This change in dynamic can happen most easily to betas who go into a relationships already displaying a degree of low value which some girls capitalize off of to attain resources. A girl may not like it, but a man unaware of his own value, as Tomassi describes in his writing, gives her an upper hand.

However this can happen to a supposed alpha guy who enters into a relationship with a girl with a strong foundation of frame. It's when complacency sets in with the guy due to the comfort of his conditions, that he changes away from his initial way of being that the girl respected and liked, to where his changes begin rubbing off on his girl causin friction between them and the polarities that were naturally keeping each in their place.

When you initially sense this in your girl, depending on how far in and gone it is, it's best to pull back, reconnect with that state and frame she is familiar with, which installs back in her a reminder of your actual value, by showing perceived value through things like acting aloof, minimizing contact, calling her on her ****, stop supplicating, etc.