How do your dates normally go?

[RichardTheFrog]

Or how should they go?

I can see that on OLD, most people suggest setting up a date ASAP after just a few messages.

So what's supposed to happen on the date itself? Tbh, this seems kind of boring to me, especially if I'm paying.

 

[logicallefty]

- On OLD I initiate, or respond, with something light hearted and funny. For example, its been VERY cold in the midwest up until just a few days ago. I was using this as an opener: "I heard a large pack of seals were migrating from Antartica to Illinois because it's colder here now. Watch out, they are looting homes and stealing beach balls and fish. If you are not too busy fighting them off and protecting your beach balls, fish, and other property.. Hit me up." The women LOVE this line. It's been one of my most successful ones.

- I chat with them on the App for maybe a day. Then I tell them "This App is clogging up my phone like a toilet flush gone bad. Please text me at xxx-xxx-xxxx. Just promise you will not write my number on the bathroom wall at your local bar!"

- I text for 3 days or maybe up to a week. But its not all day everyday or anything. Keep the convo light and funny with very little serious talk and very little sex talk. A little of each is fine but keep most of the chat light and funny. Some guys say to skip all the chat and "Ask her out right away". Which is fine too. I like to text for a bit because if she bores me or gives me too many red flags, I don't want to ask her out. If she doesn't appreciate my humor or if she starts telling me how she just got a protection order on her ""abusive ex"" then it's game over.

- For the first date, I like to go to Buffalo Wild Wings. That's just my place. I have 5 x Buffalo Wild Wings within reasonable driving distance so I pick one closest to her.

- Go to BWW. Eat some wings that are not messy. Drink a beer or a soda (been more soda for me lately).

- As we are leaving, if I like her, I go for the kiss close in the parking lot. If i don't, then thank her for going and be on your way.

 

[noBSgames]

For me right after I matched I started talking and about 5 or so messages in I asked her for her number long story short we are officially dating.. first date we went to a Japanese restaurant which turned out to be funny because this old Asian lady next to us was burping like crazy so we could not help but laugh.

2nd date she asked me to stay over because of the snow storm.. slept with her in the bed.. I was feeling around and she did not stop me.. a side note was she was waiting for me to do two things.. by the 2nd date she already liked what she saw and the 3rd date I took her out to the boardwalk and gave the first kiss she told me she was waiting for me to ask at that point.

that night or the next time I came over we had sex now she can't get enough of it now. Her family loves me as well as her friends.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

For me right after I matched I started talking and about 5 or so messages in I asked her for her number long story short we are officially dating.. first date we went to a Japanese restaurant which turned out to be funny because this old Asian lady next to us was burping like crazy so we could not help but laugh.

2nd date she asked me to stay over because of the snow storm.. slept with her in the bed.. I was feeling around and she did not stop me.. a side note was she was waiting for me to do two things.. by the 2nd date she already liked what she saw and the 3rd date I took her out to the boardwalk and gave the first kiss she told me she was waiting for me to ask at that point.

that night or the next time I came over we had sex now she can't get enough of it now. Her family loves me as well as her friends.

What did you talk about on the dates?

 

[noBSgames]

What did you talk about on the dates?

A little bit of everything.. work.. family stuff like that trying to get a feeling of how she is and all that.. way different from my ex for the better.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

A little bit of everything.. work.. family stuff like that trying to get a feeling of how she is and all that.. way different from my ex for the better.

And you're going to stick with her monogamously? Or are you out looking for other girls?

 

[noBSgames]

And you're going to stick with her monogamously? Or are you out looking for other girls?

sticking with her monogamously.. the longer I'm at this site it seems more like not many serious relationships happen here.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

sticking with her monogamously.. the longer I'm at this site it seems more like not many serious relationships happen here.

I don't think that's the goal of most people here.

 

[Roober]

First date usually 1-2 hours at a restaurant bar too late for dinner. I usually start with a drink or two. I generally just let them talk about whatever. Try to talk about goals, ambitions, or silly things. I usually use the first date to determine if I want to see her again. I tend to always kiss at the end. Maybe make out a bit. Unless I am not interested because their pics don't really match how they look. Occasiobally, if I am really feeling the vibe, I may invite them out somewhere else like live music or an activity like bowling.

Second date is where women tend to relax. It seems so much easier to filter on the second date as they feel a bit more comfortable. I will typically go for sex unless not feeling it.

One key thing is do not judge whatever she says. She has trust that she can tell you anything and I mean anything. The more comfortable, the easier it is to filter

 

[RichardTheFrog]

First date usually 1-2 hours at a restaurant bar too late for dinner. I usually start with a drink or two. I generally just let them talk about whatever. Try to talk about goals, ambitions, or silly things. I usually use the first date to determine if I want to see her again. I tend to always kiss at the end. Maybe make out a bit. Unless I am not interested because their pics don't really match how they look. Occasiobally, if I am really feeling the vibe, I may invite them out somewhere else like live music or an activity like bowling.

Second date is where women tend to relax. It seems so much easier to filter on the second date as they feel a bit more comfortable. I will typically go for sex unless not feeling it.

One key thing is do not judge whatever she says. She has trust that she can tell you anything and I mean anything. The more comfortable, the easier it is to filter

Who pays?

This stuff doesn't even sound like anything I would enjoy. And to think that these girls assume that every guy in the world should feel lucky to even have a second of their time. It is nonsense.

 

[noBSgames]

The first date she paid and I paid for the next two dates

 

[Roober]

Who pays?

This stuff doesn't even sound like anything I would enjoy. And to think that these girls assume that every guy in the world should feel lucky to even have a second of their time. It is nonsense.

Well, then do something you enjoy. If you don't enjoy interacting with people, you are not going to enjoy yourself and she will pick it up in the first 5 minutes. If the girl ever made me feel like I was the lucky one, I would exit very quickly. Mind you, I have only encountered this once in the 40 or so women I went out with. She called me the next morning, but didn't hear from me again.

The woman is the lucky one... always! A man's gift is his time! She is very fortunate that I spared some of it for her.

As far as paying is concerned, I am very fluid on this topic as there are many variables to consider...

-If I am very confident I will see her again, I will pay
-If the bill is less than $30, I will pay
-If she reaches for her purse, credit card, etc., I will often pay
-If the bill comes and she doesn't flinch, I will say "let's split it"
-If the bill is more than $50, I will split it
-If I really enjoyed the date, I will usually just pay regardless of the cost. This is rare.

I would say overall, it's 50/50 when I pay or split the bill. It really depends on how it went. Women want equality, then expect me to pay? fvck that nonsense. Now granted, the lowest income woman I have gone on a date with is probably around 80k salary and educated, so that helps...

You have to be able to read people and their body language. There is a very small percentage (<5%) who can legitimately hide their character flaws. However, even they crack after a couple dates.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Well, then do something you enjoy. If you don't enjoy interacting with people, you are not going to enjoy yourself and she will pick it up in the first 5 minutes. If the girl ever made me feel like I was the lucky one, I would exit very quickly. Mind you, I have only encountered this once in the 40 or so women I went out with. She called me the next morning, but didn't hear from me again.

The woman is the lucky one... always! A man's gift is his time! She is very fortunate that I spared some of it for her.

As far as paying is concerned, I am very fluid on this topic as there are many variables to consider...

-If I am very confident I will see her again, I will pay
-If the bill is less than $30, I will pay
-If she reaches for her purse, credit card, etc., I will often pay
-If the bill comes and she doesn't flinch, I will say "let's split it"
-If the bill is more than $50, I will split it
-If I really enjoyed the date, I will usually just pay regardless of the cost. This is rare.

I would say overall, it's 50/50 when I pay or split the bill. It really depends on how it went. Women want equality, then expect me to pay? fvck that nonsense. Now granted, the lowest income woman I have gone on a date with is probably around 80k salary and educated, so that helps...

You have to be able to read people and their body language. There is a very small percentage (<5%) who can legitimately hide their character flaws. However, even they crack after a couple dates.

I would be afraid that if I went on a date, it would just be silence. I'm really not good at talking or starting conversations, or keeping them going.

I want to go on speed dating. Not expecting to find anyone to "be with" but just to go through the motions of being on a date.

 

[djthiago1]

I don't think that's the goal of most people here.

Completelly true. Doesn't change the fact that 9 out 10 guys that say they won't get married actually do get married at some point.
We should always be ready, keeping them is much harder than getting them.

I would be afraid that if I went on a date, it would just be silence. I'm really not good at talking or starting conversations, or keeping them going.

I want to go on speed dating. Not expecting to find anyone to "be with" but just to go through the motions of being on a date.

Best tip i can give: Let them talk. Women are specialists at talking, just listen WELL, act interested, and keep asking stuff
Another tip: Keep it light and funny. No heavy subjects and put downs.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Completelly true. Doesn't change the fact that 9 out 10 guys that say they won't get married actually do get married at some point.
We should always be ready, keeping them is much harder than getting them.




Best tip i can give: Let them talk. Women are specialists at talking, just listen WELL, act interested, and keep asking stuff
Another tip: Keep it light and funny. No heavy subjects and put downs.

I wouldn't have a problem being monogamous with the right person, but legal marriage - no way.

If the girl was right enough for me to be monogamous with, she would understand.

 

[wolf]

It's been a while but here are some tips for dating especially OLD. I don't use OLD anymore but I had a very high success rate of getting the lay.

Arange date ASAP. 1 week Max.
Meet somewhere like a bar where there will be booze.
Here is a pro tip! Put sex as far to the back of your mind as you can. Forget about sex and just treat the date like a meeting with a stranger/friend etc.
Make her laugh!!! You are either good at this or not. Don't force it or revert to Dad jokes.
Pay close attention to her body language. Is she relaxed? Is she looking at her phone? Watch?
Pay half of whatever you are buying or take it in turn to buy drinks. No idea why but European women get frosty about you buying them a drink.
Don't escalate too quickly. Ease up and enjoy the moment.
If she is asking if you want to go to another bar then she wants the lay.
Don' agree too quickly. "No let's have another one here" This will make her guess at how much you like her.
Don't try to kiss her. This could back fire and/reveal your hand too early.
Don' be afraid to get quirky. Iv'e talked all kinds of weird stuff on my dates. This will set you part from cassnova who is trying to woo her with pillow talk and red roses.
If you are hoping for the lay then just keep moving from bar to bar for eg. Let her escalate so she feels in control.

Thats just a quick overview. I had 50+ OLD dates with a 99% success rate. The only girl to turn me down tried to hook me up with her friend so I must have been ok lol.

 

[RangerMIke]

I read one comment on this tread about advice not being particularly apt since many here are not into serious relationships. Well, I can not speak for others but for me this is true. I am not interested in monogamous long term relationships. But the advice works for those that want to slip on the collar.

Quality chicks are not going to be interested in you if when she first meets you she believes she is the only thing you have going on. Chicks like men other chicks are interested in. They are herd animals.

If you want a long term solo relationship with a chick, then you need to date and fvck other women, until the chick brings this up. Otherwise she will not believe you are worth having. The only way to have a successful LTR is to not really want one.

 

[Roober]

I would be afraid that if I went on a date, it would just be silence. I'm really not good at talking or starting conversations, or keeping them going.

I want to go on speed dating. Not expecting to find anyone to "be with" but just to go through the motions of being on a date.

Well, that's good. You know exactly what to work! Most people realize they are great communicators once they get some practice at it. There are plenty of resources here and elsewhere to work on this, start there!

 

[AriMamba]

It's been a while but here are some tips for dating especially OLD. I don't use OLD anymore but I had a very high success rate of getting the lay.

Arange date ASAP. 1 week Max.
Meet somewhere like a bar where there will be booze.
Here is a pro tip! Put sex as far to the back of your mind as you can. Forget about sex and just treat the date like a meeting with a stranger/friend etc.
Make her laugh!!! You are either good at this or not. Don't force it or revert to Dad jokes.
Pay close attention to her body language. Is she relaxed? Is she looking at her phone? Watch?
Pay half of whatever you are buying or take it in turn to buy drinks. No idea why but European women get frosty about you buying them a drink.
Don't escalate too quickly. Ease up and enjoy the moment.
If she is asking if you want to go to another bar then she wants the lay.
Don' agree too quickly. "No let's have another one here" This will make her guess at how much you like her.
Don't try to kiss her. This could back fire and/reveal your hand too early.
Don' be afraid to get quirky. Iv'e talked all kinds of weird stuff on my dates. This will set you part from cassnova who is trying to woo her with pillow talk and red roses.
If you are hoping for the lay then just keep moving from bar to bar for eg. Let her escalate so she feels in control.

Thats just a quick overview. I had 50+ OLD dates with a 99% success rate. The only girl to turn me down tried to hook me up with her friend so I must have been ok lol.

I asked about OLD advice in a thread and didn’t see this lol. But seriously I’m often curious when I see poeople succeed so well in OLD. So what site did you use most?

 

[Bible_Belt]

When I am dating a lot, I usually have a cheap motorcycle. Any girl who will get on the back is down for whatever.