DinoCassanova
Senior Don Juan
Alright, an odd-sounding title to this thread.......so mock if you will. But, I wanted to bring this up. Observing the "social dynamics" , so to speak, at a club I was in this past Sat.night in downtown Chi-town, I was wondering how most guys view most other guys. Particularly in these types of situations. I figure you could view them pretty much one of three ways. Either they're nothing, merely your competition, and you therefore must work hard and do whatever it takes to get ahead of them and best them in this social marketplace. Or they could be viewed as potential 'allies', at least allies of convenience. Fellow men, all out looking (for the most part at least) for the same exact thing. That's kind of the "manly brotherhood" theory. Or you could view them in a completely neutral manner. That is , they're not much more than props standing around, not much more significant to you and your mission than the bar stools are.
Personally, I tend to lean closer to the first viewpoint. The socially Darwinist and brutally competitive viewpoint. With the exception of this message board, which has incidentally been the FIRST place (other than with my few really close friends) where I have felt some sense of genuine male bonding and some sense of at least the possibility of cameraderie regarding the hunt for p^$$y, I generally tend to view all strange (that is, unknown to me) males as outsiders, potential interlopers, potential c*ckblockers, and therefore, in short, my competition. Possibly even my (undeclared) enemies. They are to be neither trusted in any way, nor "befriended" (even if it's falsely befriended; no need to "make nice-nice" with the enemy). Nor are they to be in any way pitied after I take the female that they had their eyes on. And if or when I fail / have failed, I have always generally expected, from males who are strangers to me at least, the same exact attitude and treatment in turn. That's one of the reasons I hate when boxers "hug" after beating the hell out of each other. I'd like to see an arena like ancient Rome. At least they were more honest about doing what they wanted to do to one another.
Generally speaking, excluding the obvious like my father and/or grandfather and a few close male relatives ( I have no brothers but a few close cousins) , and my own small circle of close long-time male friends , I distrust and am even a bit standoffish at first towards all other males. Some of these guys I see at the clubs, I'd just as soon assist one of my friends, someone who I know is a true "ally" of mine , in giving him a baseball bat beating and leaving him in a back alley somewhere as I would trying to act all "buddy-buddy" with him in any way shape or form. If they have a personality that "disarms" me and/or seems to "click" with mine then I usually start to lighten up a bit, but otherwise why shouldn't I be standoffish at first?? Men are extraordinarily cruel beasts, or at least most definitely have the capacity to be at least. Leave the stuff you hear in church on Sunday there (if you even bother to go to any kind of church; I do not) , because the real world is cold as hell and a man usually won't give another man a break for anything , unless he's getting something out of it in return. Therefore you have to always be on your guard , at least a little bit, around men you don't know, always ready to defend yourself by hurting them badly and QUICKLY if necessary (basically, forget "martial arts", you use whatever heavy blunt or deadly object you can get your hands on to do the job). Because, if they had their chance, alot of them would hurt you too, the same way or even worse. Furthermore, what do guys really have to gain by befriending other guys who they don't already know, especially in a socially competitive situation?? I'm always suspicious of "friendly" males whom I do not know in a club or bar-type setting. To quote rapper IceCube once again, as I did in my "signature", "Women you can ride, but a man be a man." And it's about that simple really. What do I personally have to gain, and what does he have to gain, by our "befriending" one another?? Ultimately, unless he's old or clearly out of the game and therefore no threat to me or my genetic success, he and I are unspoken rivals, locked in (again, unspoken) bitter competition all the time. Competing for the same exact precious and vital resources.
"Every woman, a potential source of love, comfort, solace. Every man, a rival." That tends to be my (general) outlook on it, and it is only amplified even more so when I'm in a club or bar-type setting where the testosterone levels are running higher than normal. What tends to be your general outlook(s) on "the competition" when you go to places like clubs, etc, or even just out in the world in general? Is mine "abnormal" , too "harsh", do you think? ( I probably won't change it even if you think it is; I'm just curious).
~Dino~
Personally, I tend to lean closer to the first viewpoint. The socially Darwinist and brutally competitive viewpoint. With the exception of this message board, which has incidentally been the FIRST place (other than with my few really close friends) where I have felt some sense of genuine male bonding and some sense of at least the possibility of cameraderie regarding the hunt for p^$$y, I generally tend to view all strange (that is, unknown to me) males as outsiders, potential interlopers, potential c*ckblockers, and therefore, in short, my competition. Possibly even my (undeclared) enemies. They are to be neither trusted in any way, nor "befriended" (even if it's falsely befriended; no need to "make nice-nice" with the enemy). Nor are they to be in any way pitied after I take the female that they had their eyes on. And if or when I fail / have failed, I have always generally expected, from males who are strangers to me at least, the same exact attitude and treatment in turn. That's one of the reasons I hate when boxers "hug" after beating the hell out of each other. I'd like to see an arena like ancient Rome. At least they were more honest about doing what they wanted to do to one another.
Generally speaking, excluding the obvious like my father and/or grandfather and a few close male relatives ( I have no brothers but a few close cousins) , and my own small circle of close long-time male friends , I distrust and am even a bit standoffish at first towards all other males. Some of these guys I see at the clubs, I'd just as soon assist one of my friends, someone who I know is a true "ally" of mine , in giving him a baseball bat beating and leaving him in a back alley somewhere as I would trying to act all "buddy-buddy" with him in any way shape or form. If they have a personality that "disarms" me and/or seems to "click" with mine then I usually start to lighten up a bit, but otherwise why shouldn't I be standoffish at first?? Men are extraordinarily cruel beasts, or at least most definitely have the capacity to be at least. Leave the stuff you hear in church on Sunday there (if you even bother to go to any kind of church; I do not) , because the real world is cold as hell and a man usually won't give another man a break for anything , unless he's getting something out of it in return. Therefore you have to always be on your guard , at least a little bit, around men you don't know, always ready to defend yourself by hurting them badly and QUICKLY if necessary (basically, forget "martial arts", you use whatever heavy blunt or deadly object you can get your hands on to do the job). Because, if they had their chance, alot of them would hurt you too, the same way or even worse. Furthermore, what do guys really have to gain by befriending other guys who they don't already know, especially in a socially competitive situation?? I'm always suspicious of "friendly" males whom I do not know in a club or bar-type setting. To quote rapper IceCube once again, as I did in my "signature", "Women you can ride, but a man be a man." And it's about that simple really. What do I personally have to gain, and what does he have to gain, by our "befriending" one another?? Ultimately, unless he's old or clearly out of the game and therefore no threat to me or my genetic success, he and I are unspoken rivals, locked in (again, unspoken) bitter competition all the time. Competing for the same exact precious and vital resources.
"Every woman, a potential source of love, comfort, solace. Every man, a rival." That tends to be my (general) outlook on it, and it is only amplified even more so when I'm in a club or bar-type setting where the testosterone levels are running higher than normal. What tends to be your general outlook(s) on "the competition" when you go to places like clubs, etc, or even just out in the world in general? Is mine "abnormal" , too "harsh", do you think? ( I probably won't change it even if you think it is; I'm just curious).
~Dino~
