hhhmmmmmm trust... what a word!
TRUST! ... Now this is a word i often see people having trouble with... why? because its in out human nature NOT to be trust worthy... and its in our human nature to take what we want, no matter WHAT situation we are in...
Now... the word that we are all forgetting about is
LOYALTY! Now... 1st of all... before i speak abut loyalty, let me talk about "trust"...
Trust is something that u slowly build up with someone.. its NOT something that u can aquire within a perioud of a month or 2... its something that takes a long time to earn. Now.... once you have earned someone's trust, THEN u also need to keep the word LOYALTY in mind...
Think about it this way... Lets say that your gf goes out with her friends the one night and u are not there with her ( and this also applies if u ARE there with her) ... and lets say that this tall handsome model guy walkes into the place that u are at... Now she will obviously look at him and think "woah! that guy is so hot" blah di blah... now if u are not there... then if this girl is LOYAL to you, then she wont make an attempt to go talk to him, or she wont think to herself " i would do anything to be with him" she would rather think to herself "I've got a bf that i love and i cant wait to see him, and this model guy might be hot and all, but i love my bf" now all this has nothing to do with trust, because she will STILL trust you, and u will still trust her because she wont
DO anything with him, but if she is loyal, she wont even THINK of doing anything with him. TRUST and LOYALTY go togeather.
ok.. now... In YOUR case.... how old is this girl? cause maybe she is still abit immature and impulsive and did not think of the consequinces of 'NOT' calling you etc.... she probably never though on HOW she would be hurting you y NOT phoning you... I think that the best way to solve this with her is rather take her aside or to a nice dinner somewhere, and talk to her nicely about it.... this way she will see you as this GREAT guy that instead of tuning her and being angry at her, u tell her in the nicest way possible.... this will increase her respect for you majorly AND i can garantee you that she will not do it again. ( Please note: that if you see that she does these impulsive things often, then u need to take a more "serious" approach to this situation, but if its something that happens rarely, then handle it in a calm manner and in the nicest way possible.)
And for all tose who just say "NEXT her" ... thats the wrong attitude to have... In my eye's thats just like saying " run away from your problems and dont even bother trying" ... So if this chick isnt just some random fling for you, then dont "NEXT" her... but rather try and make things work and make them right. On the other hand... if this girl IS just a fling that u dont really care about, and u DONT think that she is worth the extra trouble, THEN saying "NEXT" her would be the right thing to do.
Well... i hope that it all works out for you man
Laterz...