Originally posted by Juan_Man
Anyone who takes the time to think badly of you must be somewhat obsessed with you.
When I first started coming to this site, I started to make some decent progress fairly quickly.
I then noticed a few more people taking a disliking to me. This really bothered me. Mostly, it was from a couple guys in a group that I sometimes socialised with.
One in particular only just met me at the time. He took an instant disliking to me. He would make comments in front of me to the extent that he'd say he wished I wouldn't hang around them. Whenever I attempted to strike up a convo with the guy, he was stoic - a rock, he wouldn't respond, he would just stare dead ahead, as if I wasn't there.
This really bothered me, especially given our ages - it does seem rather immature. I asked a mutual friend about his behaviour - the answer was that he had heard me insult his NFL team at one point.
Silly, right? But this was not the reason - another friend put it in a nutshell - he said, Don, that's a silly reason to not like someone - the real reason, is that he's threatened by you - your physical fitness, you're youthful, and your just too young and too charming around the ladies and it reminds him everytime you are around what an old, overweight, unemployed loser he is.
Ok, that made me feel alot less sh*tty about myself, but it also opened my eyes bigtime. You can't expect everyone to like you. But at the same token, some people aren't worth getting to know. So what did I do? I stopped hanging around that scene and started hanging out with more positive people - with a little distance, I started to understand what complete losers I had been hanging with.
But I'll tell you one thing, I will admit I do feel spiteful towards this person from time to time - I don't know if I pity him, but I get some kind of perverse satisfaction because everyone that knows him knows the reason why I won't hang out with them anymore, and that there is no denying how petty and unfair he was due to HIS OWN INSECURITIES.
Like anyone, I still get mad from time to time because I feel I was treated unjustly, but at the same token, as I started to understand the reasons for all of this, I GAINED more confidence - knowing that I must have been doing something right in my life to bring that kind of ire down on myself from someone who had never said two words to me.
Now, can you guess who is the better man between the two of us?
Do you think his behaviour was typical AFC? You bet, he could've learned a thing or two about the ladies from me, rather than kissing their asses all the time.
Instead, he continues to remain the sad loser that he is, not only that, I know for a fact that the opinion of him in the eyes of alot of people has gone down because it was actually him with the problem, and everyone knows it.
Like someone said, anyone who would waste that much time on you to not like you, well, that's pathetic - moreso given that this person gave me no chance from the word go. No chance to get to know me better, to know what a great guy I am.
Pretty f*cking sad. But I lose no sleep over it.
