How do you reply to 'I don't think there will ever really be anything between us'?

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Transferred to a new university and with it, thought I'd start a new leaf and leave my old 'nice guy' ways behind. Needless to say, picked up a 9 but went 'nice'. After she ended it, I went no contact and hung out with A LOT of girls at university, in plain sight of her.
I guess I stuffed up because I initiated after a month or so of no contact. More so, I admit, was my need for closure as this is probably the first time I've 'counter rejected' a girl and not become that friend/ orbiter. We were chatting and I said sorry for being an ******* the last month or so. She replied it was alright and the reply posted in the title of this thread. I replied I thought the same and left it. Was that how I should of replied?
She did reply after all happy and lovey dovey telling me we are still friends so at least I got what I needed - she had become more acquainted with a few of my female friends and prominent in the social scene where I am so thought I'd best not to burn any bridges.

Do you guys think I should have done this? I know you should never apologize nor put a woman on a pedestal but I wanted to make peace and get rid of baggage I was carrying.

I guess my problem is that in other areas of life, I have a lot going for me right now and it just thrusts my inexperience with woman into the limelight. After this particular one though, it has really allowed me to open my eyes and assess what I've done wrong and right since I've left high school, what I have learnt and the goals I've now set and put into place. Furthermore stumbling across this site last night and the DJ bible has opened my eyes to A LOT of things!

Cheers guys. Glad to say hey and I hope to hopefully learn a bit from you all but at the same time do my best to contribute and help others as best I can - even if I may not be as experienced.
 

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Just forget about the girl, my man. You're too hung up on her. There are PLENTY of other girls around that'll tickle your fancy. Also you didn't need to apologize to this girl, I don't see why you would do that.

This is basic advice but sometimes you just need a reminder. Good luck

-Gripz-
 

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Cheers Gripz, yeah I'm over her now though so everything is fine. Just want to learn from my stuff ups so I never repeat them again!
 

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What can you learn from this?

This is how a woman acts when she is not interested.

realize that low interest level means this kind of wacky, month-long-saga bullsh1t is the norm. All these ups, downs, complicated schemes, twists and turns - this is how it typically looks with uninterested women.

Find out how easy it can be when one is interested, then remember the contrast as you go forward in future. if ya want, of course, brohamz!!
 

If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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NewJack said:
What can you learn from this?

This is how a woman acts when she is not interested.

realize that low interest level means this kind of wacky, month-long-saga bullsh1t is the norm. All these ups, downs, complicated schemes, twists and turns - this is how it typically looks with uninterested women.

Find out how easy it can be when one is interested, then remember the contrast as you go forward in future. if ya want, of course, brohamz!!
If only I had found this forum a while back. Cheers none the less and THIS I will most definately take in!
 

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NewJack said:
What can you learn from this?

This is how a woman acts when she is not interested.

realize that low interest level means this kind of wacky, month-long-saga bullsh1t is the norm. All these ups, downs, complicated schemes, twists and turns - this is how it typically looks with uninterested women.

Find out how easy it can be when one is interested, then remember the contrast as you go forward in future. if ya want, of course, brohamz!!

^^^This.
You did fine, just agree with them when they say shıt like that and drop them. And no, you don't have to be friends with her, just let her text away (or yap away) and you find another chick who is actually into you.
 

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Overthought said:
How do you reply to 'I don't think there will ever really be anything between us'?


You don't
 

adam225

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'I don't think there will ever really be anything between us'?


OK, I'm kind of getting turned off you anyway. ;)
 

Peace and Quiet

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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"not even clothes? :D"
 

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You move on. Check my site for some articles about oneitis, because, you seem to have the affliction ;)

Overthought said:
Transferred to a new university and with it, thought I'd start a new leaf and leave my old 'nice guy' ways behind. Needless to say, picked up a 9 but went 'nice'. After she ended it, I went no contact and hung out with A LOT of girls at university, in plain sight of her.
I guess I stuffed up because I initiated after a month or so of no contact. More so, I admit, was my need for closure as this is probably the first time I've 'counter rejected' a girl and not become that friend/ orbiter. We were chatting and I said sorry for being an ******* the last month or so. She replied it was alright and the reply posted in the title of this thread. I replied I thought the same and left it. Was that how I should of replied?
She did reply after all happy and lovey dovey telling me we are still friends so at least I got what I needed - she had become more acquainted with a few of my female friends and prominent in the social scene where I am so thought I'd best not to burn any bridges.

Do you guys think I should have done this? I know you should never apologize nor put a woman on a pedestal but I wanted to make peace and get rid of baggage I was carrying.

I guess my problem is that in other areas of life, I have a lot going for me right now and it just thrusts my inexperience with woman into the limelight. After this particular one though, it has really allowed me to open my eyes and assess what I've done wrong and right since I've left high school, what I have learnt and the goals I've now set and put into place. Furthermore stumbling across this site last night and the DJ bible has opened my eyes to A LOT of things!

Cheers guys. Glad to say hey and I hope to hopefully learn a bit from you all but at the same time do my best to contribute and help others as best I can - even if I may not be as experienced.
 

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Your princess is in another castle. Drop her ass.

Oh, your response is to just walk off. She is not to receive any more of your attention or time.

Case closed. Simple.
 
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