How do you recreate desire/seduction in a relationship

[Youngthunder]

Im talking about a relationship with... a girlfriend/potential lifelong partner. Someone youve been with for a few months.You do the push pull thing and seduction game in the beggining when you two are just getting acquainted, but things seem to naturally change once you get together and things get serious. I want the relationship to last, so how can i recreate desire in her to continue chasing me. How do I keep a constant seduction without looking like Im faking/acting? IMO, relationships die when there is no sense of desire or spontaneity. Im finding it difficult to act the way I did when we were just talking and not so intimately involved. It feels like i must CREATE mystery to keep things crispy. And we all know bitches love a mysterious guy...what do I do at this point!?

 

[King of Action]

Your post don't really describe much....however, have you heard of the 80/20 rule? You put in 20% and she give you in return 80%. Most of all, if you are positive she'll call you and hang out with you again, what are you worried about?

 

[Youngthunder]

Like I mentioned, relationships imo fall to pieces because desire is lost. And desire is created by attraction. Attraction is created by seduction. However, when you get past the beginning stages of attracting the female to you and actually get into a relationship, it becomes difficult to create the mystery and seduction that intially had her chasing you. Now that youre together, there is no "chase." The chase is what keeps relationships exciting. Im asking, how do I recreate those beginning stages now that we are in a relationship, and she knows most things about me. How do i recreate the "chase"

 

[fastlife]

Create & maintain space. #1 most important relationship preservative and it requires almost no thought/conscious effort on your part (unless you live with her or are codependent and have to be around your gf all the time).

Build a rich personal life. Ties into point #1, but you should have a world where if she left tomorrow it wouldn't skip a beat. You should be making new friends, spending time with old ones, working on improving yourself, (hopefully) working towards some life goals. Invest more in yourself than in the relationship; she'll make up for your lack of investment by investing more, making her value you more, etc. Maintaining the relationship is her prerogative; maintaining your own happiness is your prerogative.

Don't rely on her for happiness or validation. Tying into the last point. It's fine to bring positive emotions into your relationship, but your relationship shouldn't be the source of your positive emotions.

Basically, always be ready to lose her and you'll behave more attractively. Let her chase you while you chase life. Some guys might talk about manufacturing drama or trying to make her jealous or whatever, but if you're doing the above and making your life attractive then you really don't have to worry about that (plus, since you're always out doing cool/productive stuff she'll know that you have options).

 

[Serenity]

I constantly tease my girlfriend, then I flip and become all affectionate before teasing her after a while again. Sometimes we literally play like children except with less clothes on, it's super fun. When we're together we also find some activity to do together. Sometimes we play a game on the Xbox together, we often go out eating, go visit some friends together and some days we just stay home intimately cuddling. Recently we went to the local pool, they have saunas, jacuzzis, playing pools and really hot water baths. We play around in the water, relax, cuddle and then go home super horny ready to fvck.

Another aspect is that we very very rarely communicate on phone or text unless it's for planning something for next time. We both spend time doing things apart from each other, we get the time to think of each other and something to talk about when together. I would grow sick of being with her at all times. I saw her yesterday and I'm not seeing her again until Monday, I'm going snowboarding at a cabin with some friends. I can see her at any time, but I can't snowboard with my friends at any time.

As fastlife says, create and maintain space. It will not only work for her, it will probably also make you genuinely desire to see her and be with her. When you are with her give your entire attention to it, when you are not give your attention to other things and yourself.

My girlfriend doesn't exactly chase me, I wouldn't want her to do that anyways. She knows I'll get back to her, if she was unsure she would just annoy me while I was doing other stuff. It's a trust and respect thing, we respect each others alone time and individual lives while trusting we'll get together for more. Right now this is easy because she doesn't live with me. She's going to move in, but I know I won't constantly stay home pandering to her. I would go crazy if I did and so would she and we both are very aware of that trap. In a way were both working to keep attraction up and seducing each other, I'm turned on like crazy every time I see her and so is she.

She is a source of happiness, but not the only one. I have my friends, my parents, my job and all the other things I really enjoy doing. I know I could do without her, but I'm not turning down a good bonus addition to my life.

So space and time will help, it solves a lot of problems and prevent them from ever occurring if maintained. You get time to think of what you want to do for next time, when that time comes you're super ready and is almost guaranteed to nail having a good time. Only your imagination sets the limit, there's a sh!tload of fun things out there to do.

The mystery that keeps her attracted to you is the same mystery that keeps you attracted to her, it's simple. To create mystery on both parts just get away for a little while, just a few days to half a week to wonder about her.

I know this answer was long, but I hope it adequately answers your questions.

 

[wifehunter]

I taught a friend to play guitar, years ago, it's gotten him laid on many occasions! He still thanks me to this day!

Maybe learn the guitar or do something cool!

Be interesting! Get excited about other things, besides her!

 

[zinc4]

You have to be hot and cold.

I do this naturally because I get tired of sleeping with the same girl easily then at times manage to regain interest...usually after a few drinks...then back cold.

It's a cycle and they will be inlove with you rather quickly if you naturally get tired of them.

 

[lovesamrat]

We will definitely create something new in life again. Want to recreate desires and syndication in your relationship then fill their life partner life with full of love and romance and gives you them the every happiness in their life for the very long time period.