How do you play day game/public approaches?

[sangheilios]

A week ago I know I had posted a thread about seeking out an escort in order to break past some mental barriers and get my confidence back. I ended up deciding to cancel and felt that I needed to do some evaluation of how I've been approaching this. One thing that I realized was that in the past I was putting myself into situations where success with women would be very difficult and it was creating a pattern of chronic frustration and anger from essentially not having it ever line up for me. In the past the only avenues I really tried with no success were on dating apps/sites, bars/clubs and I tried 1 speed dating event. I was getting rejected by women who I felt no attraction to but made myself go out of my way to approach them at bars, etc. On tinder or dating sites I was getting no matches or only matched with women that were well into overweight territory. It was getting to the point where I wanted to just totally give up. As I've mentioned a million times on here, the repetitive thoughts were "why the hell is a man who is 6'4" and in better shape than any man these women have or ever will date or sleep with getting absolutely nothing?". I'm now aware that the environments I put myself into were essentially setting me up to fail and just causing this pattern to repeat over and over and over.

I've talked about gym approaches before but something that I've never really been able to figure out is how do you go about initiating an interaction with a woman in public? For instance, earlier today I was at the grocery store and saw a woman walk by that I found attractive and I was wondering how you go about initiating with someone like that in a way that isn't threatening or awkward. Last summer I was at a wal mart and this attractive woman with a nice body walked by and I made some comment about liking her outfit, she actually stopped and looked at me and said thanks but I couldn't think of what else to say and I just went about my day without lingering awkwardly. I feel like more normal environments like this I'd feel more comfortable and believe I could do better.

 

[SW15]

Eye contact and smile was my pre-pandemic move in the grocery store. With receptive body language, I would open with a comment asking about something in her basket. Asking "Is that good?" at something in her basket is a generic move. Then ramble about something, drop bait, see if she asks questions about you. This was all from Roosh's "Day Bang". Since Roosh unpublished "Day Bang", I recommend you use the London Daygame Model.

I've approached women with shirts on of some university they went to. Ideally, you should have a connection to that school, such as a friend or family member who attended. If I see a woman with my university's gear on, it is a easy approach and is usually a date if she's single. One time, on an outdoor walking path, I scored an insta date from that apporach with a woman who was wearing my school's t-shirt. We had a second date and then that fizzled but still a solid approach.

If a woman has a shirt with any sort of wording on it, ask her something related to her shirt with words. Good convo starter.

Beginner's Guide to Day Game

That's Tom Torero's guide in which he discusses the component of the direct style day approach that can be used on the street, a walking/hiking path, the grocery store, etc.

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[Paper Crane]

Some tips from when I used to approach more:
1) Only go for girls you genuinelly find really attractive
2) Ask them where they're from first, ethnicity wise because if you use that as an anchor, you can then:
3) Swing into a compliment. But it has to be specific . something a trait that you really like about her, her eyes, her body, her hair,

The moment you go into any set a girl is always wondering what you're trying to ask her or what your goal is in having the conversation:
-Questions will increase curiosity. their brain is still figuring out where you're taking them on this journey that can last seconds to several minutes
-When they don't expect it, compliments land even better. If she's not attracted to you, the response will be stale. If she is, she might just laugh, giggle, smile, (automatic physiological reaction)
-If you're somewhere where both of you will still be in the same place, you don't need to close right away. Exit the set after the probing/compliment, reaction, exchanging names.
-When you disappear for a bit or exit the set, part of her is still lingering in your curiosity and compliment. you were here, and then you're not.
-But when you return, that same curiosity is back with a hint of excitement, but now you have that familiarity already

Reason I like the compliment approach is that, if you don't sense that she's into you by how she reacts, you just move on and don't have to even exchange names at that point and you can simply tell her well have a nice day and pimp off.

My other one basically minimizes the small talk and gets straight to the interest gauge:
"hey do you have a boyfriend?"
1) She says yes, she's not interested or will take some prying
2) She says no and reacts with curiosity instantly, you're already game. I usually can jump from small talk right into some kino **** from here.


But truthfully I was not a pro when it came to approach. I just was good at finding girls that were down to get laid, because they were already drunk and I knew simple ways to see if they were down to get dirty.