How do you ooze intelligence?

ManOMan

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One topic I havent seen on this forum is the characteristic MANY women say they want in a MAN: INtelligence

This goes hand in hand with being able to carry a conversation.

Ive had many women suddenly become attracted to me because they either heard I was intelligent, or see me ask intelligent questions in school.

But at a bar (or any other setting) how do you show you are intelligent without looking arrogant or sounding like you are bragging?

or is this something you should save for a date conversation?
 

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Take a book with you, or start reading the wine list :)

Personally I wouldn't worry about trying to come across as intelligent since it'll ruin the converstaion flow and probably make you nervous.

If you are an intelligent guy then just talk casually and have some fun, it'll come across to her when you're relaxed.
 

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If you don't make an ass of yourself be doing AFC type actions, you will automatically come off as have somewhat higher intellegence than the AFCs around you. Keep cool, stay confident and don't try too hard.
 

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Good diction, but not to an affected degree. Really, if you can speak naturally and without too many slang words, you'll probably be fine.
 

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If you've been shot in the head?
 

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Come on man , you don't want to show the girls intelligence ... they want mystery.

By the way, all that girls talk about when they're alone (i.e. no guys present) is something that has to do with relationships or sex. I can't imagine a bunch of girls discussing existentialism ( whatever that means :D ).

You keep the mystery up, and they'll believe anything you want them to believe.

AM I RIGHT GUYS ???
 

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They do want intelligence, it's one of the qualifiers they use when judging you for LTR potential.

We do the same, of course. I can't think of a dumb chick for anything other than a ONS or a short fling. Yet intelligence alone doesn't do it for me--if I don't find them attractive or sexy, then they have no chance with me (they become the best of friends, though!)

But combine sexy with intelligent and you've got my attention. Like a woman, if I find an interesting prospect, I find I throw a lot of my own qualifying tests at them--word play, provocative statements, etc., just to see if they can handle it, see if they can keep up, and see if they can play and toss it back at me.

Anyway, back to the subject. Some convey intelligence easier than others. It's just how they conduct themselves. Other people are quite intelligent but don't give off that vibe---it's only after knowing them for awhile that you realize you're dealing with an interesting and/or first rate intelligence.

The other thing I noticed is that women judge intelligence relative to her own intelligence. And they notice various types of intelligence, too. Being intellectual may not be all that attractive when you admire someone with common sense and street smarts.

I wouldn't worry about conveying it, though. You either have what someone finds attractive or you don't.

This is what I would watch out for, though: the worst thing is to try and be or appear intelligent. I've seen a number of people who--while not stupid, just weren't as bright as they wished. And they admired those that were brighter than them and tried to be like them. So they usually fixate on using bigger and more sophisticated words than they could handle and usually ended up using the words incorrectly or awkwardly in a manner that drew attention to their error. It was kinda like a balding man using a comb-over--everyone knows what they're trying to do and it isn't working.
 

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Intelligence is one of the things chicks say they want.

No woman , when asked what she wants in a man says alphaness, mystery , game and a huge ccok do they?
 

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Do you concur ? :D
 

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Some woman say that they want a guy with game... but most girls you talk to agree with what game intails... but they don't like to hear that a guy has too much game.

I got called a 'dirty pimp' once... she was agreeing with everything I was saying about game, and then she called me that when I said I do that, and now I got 3 girls hounding me down wanting a piece of me. And another time, a girl said that dating more then one woman at a time is wrong... I told her, so I'm supposed to stick by one woman that I'm not even sure that is going to live up to my needs... when I can go out and actively search for the girl that I want, and get rid of the girls that are bringing me down.

Anyway,... to the question.

DOn't worry so much about how the woman thinks of you, just worry that whatever it is that she thinks of you is a good thing. If the woman thinks of you in a good way then you can let the pieces fall where they may.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Do you guys really know the definition of intelligence?

in·tel·li·gence
Function: noun
Etymology: Middle English, from Middle French, from Latin intelligentia, from intelligent-, intelligens intelligent
Date: 14th century
1 a (1) : the ability to learn or understand or to deal with new or trying situations : REASON; also : the skilled use of reason (2) : the ability to apply knowledge to manipulate one's environment or to think abstractly as measured by objective criteria (as tests)

Basically, just deal with what is going on around you appropriately and do not act like an AFC. :rolleyes:
 
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