How do you maintain friends with benefits?

[Dadude548]

This is completely brand new territory for me.

Last week I met up with a girl from a different forum I posted on. It was supposed to be just a friendly thing and she could give me feedback on how I come across to girls and give me advice.

Somehow we ended up coming to my place. After talking and drinking for a bit we had sex. She stayed the night and we had sex again in the morning then she took off. Apparently I blew her away and she kept giving me compliments.

We are meeting again Tuesday night.

I have no desire to date her since she really isn't my type, but I want to keep having sex with her for as long as I can. I'm pretty sure she's fine with the FWB thing.

I want to keep her interested in me for as long as possible without going into a relationship with her or scaring her away/making her feel unappreciated.

Any advice?

 

[Greasy Pig]

1. I saw them twice a week at most.
2. I didn't contact them between meetings and curtailed any attempts by them to initiate contact with me. Sometimes I'd go a couple of weeks without seeing them and only maintaining light and sporadic text contact to keep them engaged.
3. Made it clear that I was a confirmed bachelor and not ready for a serious relationship.
4. Never took them out on dates. Just organised to meet at mine or theirs (usually theirs so I could make an excuse to leave). Maybe take a bottle of wine and talked for an hour before getting down to business. Either that or organise to meet them out at a bar but only when I was already going to be out with friends.
5. Absolutely, positively no sleepovers.
6. No deep and meaningful conversations or "pillow talk". I'd bust a nut and be gone or indicating to them that they had to leave within 30mins. Except if I was feeling particularly horny and then I'd stick around for round two but always obeyed the "no sleepovers" rule.
7. No Facebook friend adds or acceptance of their friend requests.
8. Never made them a priority. I made it bluntly clear that I was my main priority and not always available. Unapologetically so.
9. At the first hint of drama, jealousy, butthurt-ness, neediness, catching feelings, psychotic indicators or withholding of sex, they were nexted. No explanation, no official break up. I would either pull right back until their behaviour improved or I just went ghost.
10. Basically just made it brutally clear that I was "Mr Goodfvck" whom was available to give them carnal pleasure but no emotional support.

 

[Zarky]

There's no easy way, OP. FWB/Booty call girls are in an interesting, unstable orbit around you. They either have a tendency to want to get closer or fly away.

I don't think the FWB type of relationship is natural for the vast majority of women. I'm always thrilled when I can have one for any amount of time, knowing she'll either try for more or will spin away rather quickly.