how do you know when you have confidence?

[windwork]

Originally posted by Oxide
What is that suppose to mean?

what answer would satisfy you?

 

[windwork]

Originally posted by Oxide
When you dont have to ask anymore.

do you mean
not have to ask about confidence anymore

or
not have to ask, as in seeking permission from others?

 

[windwork]

Originally posted by Real Man
my wood.

so when ur old and it dries
or if some injury occurs
or for some reason you get a STD and have warts on ur wood
or any possible negative concequence on ur wood

will that make ur confidence evaporate?

will u break and fall in depression if something negative happened to ur wood?

or what?
how would u respond if something negative were to happen to ur wood... confidence alive or gone?

 

[windwork]

Originally posted by Ice Cold
The question is: "how do you know you have confidence?"

It's when you don't question your confidence. You are so sure you have it, you don't have to post about it. So confident, you don't even have to think about it.

Makes sense?

hey that is really cool.
i like "so confident, you dont even have to think about it."

i really liek that

 

[windwork]

Originally posted by Panther
You are confident in doing something, when the probability of failure does not affect your actions

That is, you act as if you are 100% certain to succeed. You know thats not entirely true, but its almost entirely true. You know that there is a posibility of failure but that does not affect you, the same way that the possibility of a brick falling on your head doesn't stop you from getting out of your house!

And Oxide has a point: When you ARE confident, you don't have to ask whether you are - you KNOW

A thing to remember is that confidence is not general: you could be confident driving your car, but if you are flying a plane for the first time you might **** your pants!
Generally, confidence comes from success, and success more often than not depends on confidence.
On the other hand, lack of confidence and failure form a very nasty vicious cycle!!

This is why often people with little experience with women (such as myself) are often much less confident in their love life compared to any other aspect of their lives.

ThePanther

PS: A good way to improve your confidence is to go to the Health and Fitness Forum, read Diesel's guides on Cutting/Bulking and start working out TODAY! After 2 months cutting and 2 months bulking I look (and feel) SO much better. Can't wait to see what I'll be like in 1 year or so!!

awesome post with many tips and suggestions
thanks a lot

 

[Oxide]

wind, you'll learn, give it some time

 

[MVPlaya]

Originally posted by Ice Cold
When you stop posting stuipid thread like this

Yeah, by asking that you're clearly not confident. Homie, confidence is not when sh*t doesn't scare you, oh hell no, that's leprosy, confidence is when sh*t doesn't phaze you. You are scared but you move forward. Its when you're in doubt, you are sufficiently comfortable with your own capabilities that you don't sit around doubting yourself. In short, confidence is never something you ask others whether you have it.

 

[Krassus]

If you have to ask, you don't.

 

[windwork]

Originally posted by Oxide
wind, you'll learn, give it some time

hey thats pretty cool.
what i mean is ur " "

u didnt get angry/upset etc
thats nice

 

[windwork]

Originally posted by Krassus
If you have to ask, you don't.

i dont agree with this, or maybe i do.
cant decide

but
depends on why you ask.

 

[windwork]

Originally posted by MVPlaya
Yeah, by asking that you're clearly not confident. Homie, confidence is not when sh*t doesn't scare you, oh hell no, that's leprosy, confidence is when sh*t doesn't phaze you. You are scared but you move forward. Its when you're in doubt, you are sufficiently comfortable with your own capabilities that you don't sit around doubting yourself. In short, confidence is never something you ask others whether you have it.

hey thats cool, thats courage.
i like that

ur right, confidence is NEVER something you ask OTHERS whether YOU have it. i want to know how others know THEY have confidence. how do they judge themselves or what do they do to know.
and i thought everyone might have different opinions on 'confidence' ... and they did have different opinions on what 'confidence' is.

 

[windwork]

anyways, i am not ultimately confident but yeah i can say/do whatever i want, but not with some people
i guess i have put some above myself.
i need to work on this

i dont want to lower anyone either.
i just want to deal with everyone the same, not better/not worse.
because thats my behavior
i want to focus on my behavior
to do / say whatever i want with everyone
and not put anyone above myself.

its been like 5months since i started losing shyness.
I USED TO BE SO SHY EVERYONE TOOK ADVANTAGE OF ME.
but now i am changing, its just that family memebers are an obstacle. really dumb people who lower self esteem of others, cuz they themselves are so powerless and such low in self esteem they downgrade others.
using destructive criticism etc.
sometimes i get really agngry when anyone destructively criticices me. but i only did that to 'shock' them so they stop using it on me.
i dont want to just 'take it' and keep 'taking' abuse from losers

anyways, i just need to work on myself way more
cuz i know if i am confident, then i wont have to ask and i wont get messed up angry irrated, frustrated, etc, by other people's bheavior

thanks a lot.
you guys helped me a lot.
and i will read ur posts again and learn more

this board is nice. i read some posts today and i felt great cuz my self esteem increased.

i am enjoying life much more now with confidence, i cant believe how stupid it is to be shy, but somtiems still i act shy in front of others and hang on to my past behavior in front of some people, but really want to remove that.
i think thats still putting others on pedestal
i think that when im shy im actually making the ohter person feel more comfortable with me....... crap, and i guess thats hwy i do it, to make the other peorsn more comfortable.

and i think whenever i am confident i am kinda making the other person feel uncomfrotable cuz the other person becomes shy or becomes a bit nervous

 

[Ice Cold]

Originally posted by Panther
You are confident in doing something, when the probability of failure does not affect your actions

That is, you act as if you are 100% certain to succeed. You know thats not entirely true, but its almost entirely true. You know that there is a posibility of failure but that does not affect you, the same way that the possibility of a brick falling on your head doesn't stop you from getting out of your house!

And Oxide has a point: When you ARE confident, you don't have to ask whether you are - you KNOW

A thing to remember is that confidence is not general: you could be confident driving your car, but if you are flying a plane for the first time you might **** your pants!
Generally, confidence comes from success, and success more often than not depends on confidence.
On the other hand, lack of confidence and failure form a very nasty vicious cycle!!

This is why often people with little experience with women (such as myself) are often much less confident in their love life compared to any other aspect of their lives.

ThePanther

PS: A good way to improve your confidence is to go to the Health and Fitness Forum, read Diesel's guides on Cutting/Bulking and start working out TODAY! After 2 months cutting and 2 months bulking I look (and feel) SO much better. Can't wait to see what I'll be like in 1 year or so!!

Hell no. You defined pvssiness.

When you act only when it's safe to, you're a pvssy.

If you ask for the # only when the girl is rubbing her titties on you

if you wait for the kiss until she kisses you

If you won't go for it until you have a green light...


It's not confidence. You're never certain about anything.

Confidence is accepting the risks and getting out the most of out of any situation.

The one who doesn't risk, doesn't drink shampagne.

 

[PreceptMan]

When you stop replying to ignoramus, ie… The people who replied in a degrading manner… That is what confidence is!

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by Krassus
If you have to ask, you don't.

Was gonna say the same thing.

 

[DEKKA]

confidence can kiss my ass.

self-improvement is masturbation.

 

[Panther]

Ice Cold: You are right, but you misunderstood my post.

I did not mean to say: confidence is when you are certain to succeed, but when you act AS IF you are certain to succeed.

So when you are confident about women, you approach each one as though she has been looking at your **** and licking her lips all night long!

There is still risk, but you don't let it phaze your game.

ThePanther

PS: I wish I could follow my own advice at times