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This is really a mute point and post.
There's girls I know who haven't found me attractive, but then there's girls who've slit their wet meat hole up and down my d1ck in the very same night that other girls wouldn't look once at me. What's the point of wondering what the "market" thinks of you?
A business exists to cater to clients, that's how it makes money, provided the cost to benefit ratio of providing high quality treatment allows for a profit. A person, though, does not cater to a market, or to clients. They're entirely different concepts.
Funny, I was reading through "awaken the giant," and tony robbins touched on "beliefs" and how they're formed. Initially, it's an idea. But as you gather MORE beliefs about one specific topic, and you gain experience in reality that confirms this thought or denies it, it becomes more entrenched as BELIEF, and thereby a map of reality.
Typically guys who don't think they're good looking have experienced or felt:
-Don't appear like models in magazines that get lots of looks.
-May have no gf or what people considered ugly gf's.
-Never been told anything positively about their apperance.
-They appear like those unattractive, or so they think.
-Don't have or own possessions deemed to be sexxxy or attractive.
-Don't seem to get public appraisal.
Well...here's where NLP and breaking down realities comes through.
-Is it not possible to change your looks? Either tanning, hair style, body composition, eye color (through contacts), clothing style, or own things that lend themselves to indicating your SEXY factor...
-Just b/c you never had a hot gf, doesn't mean you can't find one. Does it?
-Maybe the people who never told you you were hot, were insecure themselves and didn't want to embarrass themselves.
-Models are RARELY found to be the pinnacle of attraction. I don't like skinny broads, and rarely like victoria secrets women. My personal bottom line models are sports illustrated swimsuit women, and that's a push. I don't like long slender girls, instead i like the girls with a slim waist, large hips/butt, which comprise MOST women.
-Can't you buy a nice car if 1 day you can afford it?
And personally, who cares about what people think? If you induce good feelings in a woman, she's your's. Conversely if you induce negative feelings, she's someone elses.
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The biggest thing I learned being younger was not being as aggressive, and how I figured that was lame, because I let TOO many women go through my fingertips, who ended up telling me in years, online, or through friends they had an attraction to me. Likewise girls who didn't like me, MIGHT LIKE YOU.
But whether or not someone show's IOI's or I think they think I'm hot does not permeate my reality, because I don't care. I'll find out if THEY respond to me positively and continue. It's THEM who's giving me signals of choosing them. Not the other way around. If they react positively toward me, then I'll want to be with them more. If they don't, then I don't. Whether I have anything to do with their positive reaction doesn't matter, because I CANNOT CONTROL THEIR REACTION or EASILY influence it. In the short-run, you can dress hot, be flashy, take care of yourself, smell good, and not talk, but in the long-run, ALL FLAWS come out, and you better have your reality together. All talk no show, blows.
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You have to do what's BEST for yourself in the abscence, in a vacuum without female/male interuption. Different women will give different thoughts, some won't give any at all. Right now, my girl likes prep guys. Tucked in polos, boat shoes, sandals. Supposedly turns her on. I do wear that, but I don't dress clean frequently because I don't mind getting dirty. I dress for utility. Tim's, jeans (either express or a&f), button downs, or regular shirts, or t's, Air force ones, or boots. I like the security of a good shoe, but during this time of year, it's hell.
Wear what accentuates you. If you're think, button downs are good. If not, a regular shirt is better. Esp if you're more muscular. Button downs tend to look improper on guys with a little extra fat. But, in t-shirts they look better because they fit snug up top, and loose down below.
As far as colors, it's pretty simple. It took awhile to figure out though.
If you're brown eye, brown hair, tan skinned, go earth tones. Nothing to dramatic like the color of the rainbow. off colors work better. greens are ok, but not a bright green. Reds are ok, but more like maroon, or wine, black and white are neutral. Earth tones work on tanned people with brown hair brown eyes. It accentuates the warm, inviting feel of brown/brown/brown.
If you're blonde, and tan or not tan, with any color eyes, bright clothing accentuates your brightness, and a brown will tend to diminish that, unless you're super tan. If you're pale, and you wear, the earth tone will wash you out and weaken the image. Since, earth tones are the very middle of the pack, so people who are rather in the middle of the pack color wise, should consider such colors.
If you're black or white, extreme colors work better than soft one's, though you could go that way, it's better to wear the extreme ones since the earth tone people can't wear them. Black and navy blues work on most people, but not brown suits. Any body who's seen deion sanders, or any of the football players know, the flashier the better. And that should make sense, the contrast of skin/hair/eye color is what helps the body.
For guys, baggy shorts are almost universal, unless you're golfing. Rarely are shorts going to be attractive on a guy if they're short, and if you have small, thing legs, going baggy helps, but don't go beyond the knee too much or you'll look like you're wearing half pants and the thin calves will kill you. Not too mention a super long shirt, with a super skinny guy only makes you thinner since the shirt runs right into the pants.
As far as colognes, take your woman/women with you to the mall and say you've been seeking a new cologne. Not only will you ANCHOR your cologne to her sense of smell, but you'll gain an edge, because if you're the first guy to wear it near you, she'll ALWAYS remember you for that smell. Many women smell colognes in magazines, on their brothers, or dads, and since their senses are higher than other's, this is the one place I'd go for a woman's input, and not the cologne counter woman's. They just sell you what smells good, but it has to mix well with your body chemistry to really effect her.
This is also a good way to goof around, since the women at the counter will be cute, normally, or milfs if they're old, and you can plan a cheap, non casual date. I've done this quite a few times, and even dated some filene's and macy's girls by doing it. You get their input, joke, and maybe another day by the cologne. Or if you want to show you're ok with it, just drop the money and shelve the cologne until another time. Then on your 2nd/3rd date, go out and wear it.
Just thoughts.
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Dressing and being attractive should be something unique TO YOU and your life. If you're a golfer, and lifting heavy year round kills your game, DO NOT. You'll be unhappy in the long-run. If you desire to be big, go big. And if girls want you big, but you don't want to carry the weight, DO NOT. Just get sizeable. That's it.
But I've never cared what people thought, especially considering most people change their thoughts and feelings every second or minute.
A_Unit
