How do you interpret it when a woman fails to show value, socially or sexually?

[squirrels]

A poll...I've been asking this question a lot, I want to get some opinions.

This isn't just about LTRs, either. Sometimes even looking for a ONS I'll chat up girls and just find them lacking any energy or enthusiasm or sexuality...and it'll just turn me off. I don't even FEEL like interfacing with them any more. Is this my fault for not being persistent/skilled enough to peel through her "layers," or is it more likely that she just doesn't have what I'm looking for?

What do you think?

 

[Chief]

Good question

I think it could go either way. I really can't vote honestly on this one. Does this occur often with you? Or, is it just the occasional woman that acts this way?
If she is interesting enough to you, and suitable in looks, then I would think that you would be more apt to be patient and try to peel the layers away for a little while.
But, if she just doesn't strike you and your only looking for a ONS, why waste the time.
Keep working on your game....

 

[princelydeeds]

I had to accept a long time ago that you cannot save every woman from themselves, you cannot make a hoe into a housewife and "Captain save a hoe" is an idiot who almost never gets laid. Chicks have brains and the ability to determine right from wrong. They have likes and dislikes. Some women will be good some will be bad. You will meet more trash than queens. Life is a learning process. Not everyone will be on your level. I think its important to be patient. I've learned that I can learn something from everyone, sometimes that lesson is what not to do or how not to think/act.

To say that no woman is on your level, sounds like you've put yourself on a pedestal.

 

[MoAF]

If I am on my game, and I just had a choco-penutbutter frapalatte [] and I meet a sexy woman, the convo will be fun. Thats the kind of person I am [with enough energy], a party looking for a place to happen. I've never met a woman who was interested in me and boring, it just doesn't happen.

 

[bugsquish]

Originally posted by MoAF
If I am on my game, and I just had a choco-penutbutter frapalatte [] and I meet a sexy woman, the convo will be fun. Thats the kind of person I am [with enough energy], a party looking for a place to happen. I've never met a woman who was interested in me and boring, it just doesn't happen.

Giveth and you shall recieve.

 

[Eric Smith]

I've come across a few of these girls. At first I try to be exciting and if they don't bite, I move on. Sometimes there are women that are utterly worthless in the world and there is nothing you can do about it except go to the exciting girls that are worth your attention and the other girls will have to shape up or they fall into the abyss of the romance world.

 

[dionysius_d]

Just accept people for who they are.. a dog is a dog and a cat is a cat.. just let each animal be what it is.

 

[iqqi]

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"Projection may also develop from the shock of a very naive adult with a very romantic opinion of their spouse finding out that their spouse is only human and can and has made mistakes. They are no longer a god to be worshipped. They can no longer be trusted with the obedience and reverence which they may never have asked for. Whichever sources, the trait of projection grows from, it is averse to the reality that a person capable of sharing love is a person who can trust others, and, the person who projects trusts no one but themself. "