You cant generalize. Not all males are brought up the way you describe. The man i'm practically engaged to wasn't brought up the way you describe. He was brought up to respect women and himself and to not offer himself to multiple women, his ultimate goal to get laid. No, he waited until he felt it was right in his life to finally have sex. So what if he was a virgin at 20 years old? The fact is, he respected himself enough not to lose it to some drunk high school b1tch that thought he was hot. He chose to make something special out of it, how its meant to be. I have another friend here, is sn is MetalFortress, and he was raised the same way. He is choosing to wait until marriage to give himself to his wife. So she can experience the gift she is giving him in return. Now that i've found my Mr Right, I wish i could have given him myself just as he has given me hisself.
Men who are raised by religious (specifically Christian) parents aren't tought to sleep with as many women as possible. Its considered a sin. Even though society teaches males that, it is the resilliant ones that overcome that retrospective male sterotype and prevail with a more confident attitude and a higher sense of self-respect. These are the men that will treat their wives how they would like to be treated. The ones who fail, and succumb to the societal norm are the men who are miserable in their marrages because they've never had to settle down before, and often cheat or get divorced. Or they never marry and are eternal batchelors. I feel pity on these men. I feel so much pity on men who cannot control their sexual appetite and blame society for it. There is a fine like between being a sexual person because you want to be one, and being a sexual person because society teaches you to be one. The reason why I support female sexuality is because it is still somewhat of a taboo subject. Most men still believe that women should be suppressed by men in all means possible, especially in their sexuality. My main point is that women shouldn't be labeled as wh0res for sleeping around, and that men should learn to have more respect for themselves and their bodies. I know i might sound contradictory, but i'm for women's rights and for greater equality.
You preach that women should have more respect for their bodies by not sleeping around, so why not practice what you preach? it certainly wont make you less of a man, it certainly doesn't make my boyfriend less than a man (in fact, it made him more of a man in my eyes because it told me that he has respect for himself) and the same goes for MetalFortress. I have so much respect for him for wanting to wait until marriage, and for slapping the sterotypical male in the face, saying "screw it! i dont have to succumb to your ideal of what a man is"
And if you think you're more manly because of the more women you've slept with, you couldn't be more wrong. And yes, you can reverse the thinking by changing yourselves and your behavior. It isnt that hard. I did it. Then, you raise your sons to respect women and to respect themselves, and slowly, things will change.
So in conclusion, think about the double-standard. Would it be so wrong for you to have more respect for yourselves?