How do you handle the haters

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I have a couple people who hate on me. I notice it because of the way they look at me. I try to dress nice and some people think that I think I'm trying to be better then everyone. Any advice?
 

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i've been hated on in the past; i still get it today. the difference between now and then is my mentality. before, i would think that it had something to do with me, that it was my actions or whatever that caused others to hate on me. now, if i'm hated on, i realize it's not me at all... it's THEIR problem and THEIR own insecurities coming out.
now, people here might think i'm an *******/jerk but i am not. i treat everyone w/ respect and i don't talk ****. if you are a genuinely good person, and people still hate on you, they're jealous.
oops, i just realized i didn't answer your ? how do i handle it? oh i wish i knew this years ago! this is how i handle it:
BE UNAFFECTED. haters want to see a reaction from you. if you react, you just gave your power away. but if you brush it off and act as if their negative energy has absolutely no effect on you, you still hold the power (i said act "as if," because from my own experience, @ first it was hard to simply brush it off.. but surprisingly, i continued to act "as if" and eventually negative energy from the haters really did not effect me at all)
 

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Remember this universal quote.

No matter who you are, where you are, what you are, what time period you're in, there will ALWAYS be haters.

There are a bunch of people that hate Jesus Christ, what the heck did he ever do to them?

I bet some people hate me just for writing this paragraph, for one reason or another. Just don't let it get to you. If they are hating you for something you are doing negative, you could stop if you see it is wrong, but if they hate on you b/c you're just being yourself. Too fvcken bad, you should give a flying fvck about them.
 

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I get hated on all the time in high school all they way through college. I just played the innocent with the girls and I got the ones that everyone wanted just by bascially doing nothing. Guys would talk sh*t stare me down etc. I have had people ive been atleast an aquaintence with threaten to kick my a*s cause I was fvcking this girl that all they guys jocked. When people hate you know you got something good. Doesnt bother me one bit atleast not in a bad way. I dont know it could be cause the way I come off as ****y and arrogant and the attitude of i got what i want.
 

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so just ignore it cause there jealous, sometimes even the ugly girl hate
 

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Either tell on them , kick thier ass , ignore them , mess with them, I had some guy hating on me and I tired to fight him and he punked out and ran. I would talk mad trash about him and he would just like me do it. I even went as far as throwing objects at him and still acted like a punk. I just told on him and got him out of my way, I don't come to this school to deal with haters I come here for a career and women. Most people who talk trash don't even respect theirselfs and just some idoit trying to be cool when he not.

The new guy who hatin' on me is really is stupid me and some of my friends laugh our ass off at him. Half the time he tries to act cool to me as if he my friend. One time he got mad at me and said he didn't feel good and I said I didn't care and he just shut up. Did I say stupid ???

:crackup:
 
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how do ya'll handle your own friends be hating on u, u still chill wit them?
 

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Originally posted by gunit630
how do ya'll handle your own friends be hating on u, u still chill wit them?
um friends....? okay, if they're ur friends, they're just cracking on you and i'm guessing u give them a rection. Don't give them a reaction and after a while they'll probably get bored.
 

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Originally posted by gunit630
so just ignore it cause there jealous, sometimes even the ugly girl hate
Your making this harder then it is. Stop worrying about someone not liking you. Not everyone is gonna like you so deal with it and move on. You are a Dj you got better things to be doing besies worrying about some idoit who talks trash acting hard and cool and gose home to watch porn because he can't get a chick.
My Grandmother told me this ( If someone can't respect theirselfs then they don't respect other people ).
Haters waste your time, when you could be doing self-improvement, your worrying what they will do next. Haters don't have a life.

For the girl part, just like men are confused about women, women are confused about men. Rude women try to take their pain out on you and get your attention. I had girl do this to me couple of times. 1 time I was standing in class looking at newspaper and the girl said somethings smells bad and came over to me and sniff and said you smell and walked away, her friend said " you don't smell ". It didn't really hurt me, I just went back to reading the newspaper. Just ignore rude girls.

P.S. if this is really getting on your nerves tell the consulors that they are trying to start a fight with you and they will handle it. Don't let people do whatever they want to you.
 

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Hahaha if they're your buddies, they should be joking around. Otherwise, they're not really friends aren't they.

As for the other idiots, they're just envious. They only talk trash because they're jealous of the fact that you dress nice or something. If they weren't jealous, they wouldn't be talking garbage in the first place, right?

Don't give a crap about what others think. You're your own person!:D

P.S. Dressing nice to school is good man. You stand out from the:

1) guys with horrible taste in clothes
2) guys who think they're hot doo-doo and wear baggy/gangster sh*t
 

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Originally posted by gunit630
I try to dress nice and some people think that I think I'm trying to be better then everyone. Any advice?
Okay, and if you are, what is the problem........?
 

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Originally posted by gunit630
I have a couple people who hate on me. I notice it because of the way they look at me. I try to dress nice and some people think that I think I'm trying to be better then everyone. Any advice?
What haters?
 
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