How do you handle the 3rd date?

Eternal_water

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Any of you who have read many of my threads/posts know that I am very inexperienced with girls and dating.

How do you handle the 3rd date when the 3rd date is a meal at her place with her cooking? Are you supposed to go for the sex here or not?

Does making that move ruin your chances if you don't take it or does not doing so put you in the friendzone? (we have kissed on the first two dates).

I'm 24 and she's 25.
 

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Relax go with the flow and no you dont have to have sex.

If you're on a 3rd date she obviously likes you....just keep being yourself and she wont dump you, even if you dont have sex.
 

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A date isnt something you "handle", its not a homeless person stopping you on the street for money.

Enjoy your time with her, let your mind go away for awhile and all the ideas of should i do this should i do that. See her, communicate with her, really connect with what she is saying and doing instead of analyzing it as a means to an end. The rest will flow naturally.
 

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Ok so you don't think she will be expecting/wanting me to make the move?
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Hmm said:
Relax go with the flow and no you dont have to have sex.

If you're on a 3rd date she obviously likes you....just keep being yourself and she wont dump you, even if you dont have sex.
at least one optimistic dude who doesnt obssess himself with mind games, dating stragetiges...
oh btw, u MUST fvck her, it's a third date. if not, she will flake you because you didnt escalate. that's what dating guru been telling me

my "uber lame/afc opinion" is also just to go with the flow and do whatever you want and feel comfortable.
 

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Hey OP did you end up losing your v-card yet? I remember a few months ago you stated that you were still a virgin
 

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Eternal_water said:
Any of you who have read many of my threads/posts know that I am very inexperienced with girls and dating.

How do you handle the 3rd date when the 3rd date is a meal at her place with her cooking? Are you supposed to go for the sex here or not?

Does making that move ruin your chances if you don't take it or does not doing so put you in the friendzone? (we have kissed on the first two dates).

I'm 24 and she's 25.
On every date regardless of first date or what number, you always go for sex assuiming you are attracted to her...always put your desires first .
 

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Nah man. Look at it like this: you have a realistic chance at having sex on that date. Now you don't have to PLAN to have sex, and on how you are going to initiate it, and make strategies...

... man just go with the flow. Any way you'd want some kind of intimacy on a date where she cooks for you. The least thing would be to thank her with a kiss. Watch a movie on her couch afterwards?

Have you ever had sex before? Then you'll know that feeling when the date is going right, you're at her place, at some point you're both just feeling it. Your timing doesn't matter. You can just grab her.

If for some reason it doesn't happen: have a fun, relaxed and pleasant evening anyway. But even without sex, keep it sexual. Eye contact etc. You can still leave her with butterflies in her stomach.

If you're a virgin then you're probably desperate to have sex anyway. In that case: good luck.
 

Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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