How do you guys handle plates that want too text a lot?

[Raggendecanton]

Hey guys,

So I would say things are going pretty well at the moment. I am spinning plates, working out in the gym and focussing on my business. However, one of my plates (25 year old, the one i like the most by a long shot) wants too text a lot. By a lot i mean almost everday, in between dates, after work, when she goes too bed etc. The thing is, i am noticing this is a trend here where i am from (Western Europe). Most girls i see want too text a lot in between dates, even though they work full time and have pretty busy/good jobs. Now i almost never comply with this behaviour, i set dates and end the conversation. But when i dont respond too this "main" plate, she gets worried that something is wrong, she gets a bit distant too.

How do you guys handle plates that want too text a lot?

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

By dropping it and finding one you can tolerate

 

[Gamisch]

It's one of the things that amazes me about women. I can meet one today and she'll be texting, sending pictures ect like we were married for multiple years. Like she's trying to mark her territory (my phone in this case). If there is one thing I learned its that plates either spin themselves out of the rotation, or you simply upgrade them to gf status. If you dknt do the latter, poof, she is gone .

Woman want relationships where men want sexuality. This girl probably want to push things to the next level. How long you've been seeing her?

The busy schedule is the perfect excuse by the way. When you are always busy you can narrow the window of texting time, but then again, dont expect her to understand this. She won't and she will move on eventually.

 

[The Duke]

Just draw your replies out, pick and choose what you reply to, and say you don't have time.

I do this with people I don't even date.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Say you have a lot of stuff upcoming (work, etc) and that you may be having to text less due to your schedule and time constraints. Don't do it right away so she doesn't feel offended, but do it several days or a week later so it's not a surprise when it happens.

I agree with @Gamisch about the "marking territory" comment. Imo it's also done to wear you down so you don't have that much time to spend on other (potential) plates.

 

[sevbucmash]

How do you guys handle plates that want too text a lot?

Depending on what app you use. We ditched here whatsapp and instagram, switched to telegram. In telegram you have option to mute a certain contact. Messages will arrive and pile up but the phone will not beep every time.

The rest is easy, I'm busy working baby.

 

[jimwho]

^^^ You mean were back to telegram? Wow, full circle.

 

[sevbucmash]

You mean were back to telegram?

It's like whatsapp and instagram and viber combined only you remain anonymous if you choose so and the only moderation and censorship is whatever the mod chooses, company or big brother call it whatever you want has no say in what is said or posted.

+ you can not be banned off telegram, just black listed on a certain channel or from a certain contact, even then you delete your account and create a new on, and you can join those same channels or contact same people again.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Be direct.

The moment a woman started chit chatting via text I immediately nipped the habit:

“Hey ______. Thank you for reaching out. I am not big on texting. Let’s save it for the date.”

One of 3 things happens:
1) she complies and stops dumb chit chat texts
2) she drops you
3) she protests, saying she wants to talk more between dates

For #3, you respond

“Ok ____ I understand. Call me.”

They key to this strategy is to nip her habit immediately. You guys waste far too much time and blow way too many lays by mindlessly chatting with these girls. Texting does not help you. You are too busy to text.

 

[Zimbabwe]

Be direct.

The moment a woman started chit chatting via text I immediately nipped the habit:

“Hey ______. Thank you for reaching out. I am not big on texting. Let’s save it for the date.”

One of 3 things happens:
1) she complies and stops dumb chit chat texts
2) she drops you
3) she protests, saying she wants to talk more between dates

For #3, you respond

“Ok ____ I understand. Call me.”

They key to this strategy is to nip her habit immediately. You guys waste far too much time and blow way too many lays by mindlessly chatting with these girls. Texting does not help you. You are too busy to text.

Hands down my favourite answer in this thread, no games just good old honest direct responses.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Hands down my favourite answer in this thread, no games just good old honest direct responses.

To this day, my woman (LTR turned fiancé) of 19 months never texts me to “chit chat.” She rarely texts me at all; only for logistical purposes like sending an address.

 

[Barrister]

If you are interested in this woman and WANT to keep her around, you need to exercise mirroring - at least to an extent. You don't need to text her back as much as she is texting you, but trying to completely cut out all texting from her will result her thinking you are not interested. One of the golden rules is that if a woman is displaying high interest, you reciprocate her high interest.

On the other hand, if you don't really care what happens with her, then do whatever you want to. You pointed out that she was the one you liked by far the most out of your plates - so just be cognizant that ignoring her or showing little in the way of replies can also backfire.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Wickr works too.

Depending on what app you use. We ditched here whatsapp and instagram, switched to telegram. In telegram you have option to mute a certain contact. Messages will arrive and pile up but the phone will not beep every time.

The rest is easy, I'm busy working baby.

It's like whatsapp and instagram and viber combined only you remain anonymous if you choose so and the only moderation and censorship is whatever the mod chooses, company or big brother call it whatever you want has no say in what is said or posted.

+ you can not be banned off telegram, just black listed on a certain channel or from a certain contact, even then you delete your account and create a new on, and you can join those same channels or contact same people again.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Hey guys,

So I would say things are going pretty well at the moment. I am spinning plates, working out in the gym and focussing on my business. However, one of my plates (25 year old, the one i like the most by a long shot) wants too text a lot. By a lot i mean almost everday, in between dates, after work, when she goes too bed etc. The thing is, i am noticing this is a trend here where i am from (Western Europe). Most girls i see want too text a lot in between dates, even though they work full time and have pretty busy/good jobs. Now i almost never comply with this behaviour, i set dates and end the conversation. But when i dont respond too this "main" plate, she gets worried that something is wrong, she gets a bit distant too.

How do you guys handle plates that want too text a lot?

I wouldn't drop her. He has high interest and you are into her. I also respect your stance on texting, however, that is quite common in women that age, or heck people, in general, these days. I am like you, texting should be short, concise, and with an end goal which is to interact in person.

However, that does seem a bit of a red flag. Perhaps, an attention-seeking pattern on her part so keep an eye on that. Just pick your interactions with her intentionally but always with an end goal to actually meet. Your frame should be about focusing on your stuff and that she is not the center of your universe but letting her know you do want to get together. So engage, banter, and then be strict about a day/time/place/activity to actually interact.

Hope this helps.


Modern Man Advice

 

[AureliusMaximus]

But when i dont respond too this "main" plate, she gets worried that something is wrong, she gets a bit distant too.

You're not in a exclusive LRT and her BF, tell her to chill for heavens sake and that you're busy.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

Say you have a lot of stuff upcoming (work, etc) and that you may be having to text less due to your schedule and time constraints. Don't do it right away so she doesn't feel offended, but do it several days or a week later so it's not a surprise when it happens.

I agree with @Gamisch about the "marking territory" comment. Imo it's also done to wear you down so you don't have that much time to spend on other (potential) plates.

ye, its just like when they "forget" stuff at your home.
They are marking out their territory too hoping that other girls you have would find it too.