How do you go about getting into a girl's dms on instagram? What are the fundamentals of instagram game?

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This isn't a specific situation I'm dealing with right now, I'm just wondering how you guys go about gaming girls on ig. Is it worth it to do if you see a hot girl on there?
 

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Did you do a search? This has been discussed repeatedly here.
 

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Here's how you do it:

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 site: https://www.sosuave.net/forum instagram howto
Plug that into your location bar, provided google is your default search engine. You can edit the search terms to reflect anything you want to search for. We use google because they crawl the site regularly, and their search engine is much better than the built-in forum search.
 

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Here's how you do it:

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 site: https://www.sosuave.net/forum instagram howto
Plug that into your location bar, provided google is your default search engine. You can edit the search terms to reflect anything you want to search for. We use google because they crawl the site regularly, and their search engine is much better than the built-in forum search.
alright dope I'll do that
 

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How about getting a job first and foremost?????
 

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How about getting a job first and foremost?????
If you have solid game and good looks, you might not need a job to seduce.


Most men will find it difficult to get laid while unemployed. That article seems awesome in theory but is actually difficult to execute. I have been unemployed since that article was published in the early 2010s. It's not good. Unattached guys have a difficult time seducing new women while unemployed and attached, unmarried guys often find it difficult to retain their girlfriends while unemployed.
 

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You better have a top notch Instagram profile. That means you must have only professional quality photos showcasing muscles and lifestyle (lots of travel pics and fashion), and have significantly more followers than you follow. Aim for 10,000 followers minimum. It also doesn’t hurt to have a blue verified check. If you don’t fit these criterion IG is a complete waste of time for sourcing women.
 

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I think instagram is a decent method of closing women for contact info. Not sure about DM. I did message a podcast host and enjoyed chatting with her
 

Don't always be the one putting yourself out for her. Don't always be the one putting all the effort and work into the relationship. Let her, and expect her, to treat you as well as you treat her, and to improve the quality of your life.

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Here's an example of DM'ing someone on Facebook. How do you guys think I go about doing it?
 

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Social media is about having social presence of some sort to a certain degree or the makings of it.

You don't NEED any followers really, but you do need to have the makings of somebody who could have followers... Because of that fact, this is really the only bar since most people who have any sort of following will be able to identify almost immediately if your going to somewhat take off after a repost from a popular account for example.

I used to do reviews on Google Maps before they fixed this but when I'd leave a review of the business, I'd also leave my Instagram handle in the review, so in effect when the businesses got any sort of public attention, the majority of traffic got routed to their Google Maps page where my handle was, then they added repetitive phrases across multiple reviews as able to trigger their spam filter which would immediately hide every review, that's +500 reviews for me I had to delete the handle from, was so much God damn work and that's just the one instance of the spam filter being triggered for me, been several. You can still use Google maps to advertise your handle but you need to be reactive and strategic in doing so, I only use 5 reviews at a time to advert now.

If you want your Google maps to get lots of traffic, you simply look at the most searched terms on google and upload pictures of whatever those things might be, this is big brain AF, figured I'd give out a bit of game though. Attach those pictures to your reviews with handle attached; this is called Social Engineering, I won't add anything else, this is more than enough to start with. I have severe brain trauma by the way, hopefully this doesn't make most of you feel more retarded than usual.

Thats just an example but if you want to grow, you need to leverage other social media into your favor, the effect is cumulative across all of social media, meaning you need to participate everywhere, it really is a massive undertaking.
 
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Here's an example of DM'ing someone on Facebook. How do you guys think I go about doing it?
if you scared of saying hi to a girl like that on Facebook just because she won’t like you back you need to step your game up.
 

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if you scared of saying hi to a girl like that on Facebook just because she won’t like you back you need to step your game up.
Oh, I should rephrase. Do ya guys think a girl like her will respond to a "hi" msg? Or maybe it's time to step your game up.
 

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Unless you have met her in real life forget about it you will waste too much time and energy
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

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Oh, I should rephrase. Do ya guys think a girl like her will respond to a "hi" msg? Or maybe it's time to step your game up.
try. But if 'hi' doesn't work, i'd suggest neither would some PUA line you get from john anthony or whoever
 

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We have debated this many times before on SS, but IMO (and I have been labelled one of the crusty old guys on the subject), you have already lost if you are pursuing on social media. You look thirsty and desperate if you are actively trying to "slide into" some chick's DMs.

Now, I certainly think you having a well put together Instagram can net you chicks on the grander scheme of things. But more of a supplement to your IRL pursuits where they can continue to stay in touch with you after you meet them there.
 

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If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

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