how do you get the attention of the girl everyone else is giving the attention 2?

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by Not Quite There
ok, your in a bar or club, there is a real stunner, shes getting a lot of attention and she knows it.... obviously you want to stand out by NOT giving her the attention, but you still got to get her initial attention on you. any ideas?

here is the thing - you really can't do much. In a club, the HB 9 is already gettin what she is there for - attention and ego boosting for her fragile self esteem. the AFC's are already all over that. Your best bet is to chat up the HB 7's and be smooth and under cover about it. Give them the attention they aint gettin from everyone else and they will eat that sh it up....

 

[Not Quite There]

Re: Re: how do you get the attention of the girl everyone else is giving the attention 2?

Originally posted by myfriendblu
here is the thing - you really can't do much. In a club, the HB 9 is already gettin what she is there for - attention and ego boosting for her fragile self esteem. the AFC's are already all over that. Your best bet is to chat up the HB 7's and be smooth and under cover about it. Give them the attention they aint gettin from everyone else and they will eat that sh it up....

good point! i will try and remember that.

thing is though, i can probably do ok with hb7s already, but due to the crap social cicles i am in, i don't even know any hb9s, i'm sure the best bet is more in a non club situation, but they never occur with me.

this is what happens, when you do male dominated courses all your life and participate in male domianted hobbies! and your friends live in many different cities.

 

[Blinky]

If she is with a friend ... (better if they are less good looking)... show her friend some attention,.. then start talking too this girl getting all the attention about her friend, she'll wonder why u ain't hitting on her and why u find her friend nicer.. then build rapport with her and ask her for her number

 

[Blinky]

Originally posted by Helter Skelter
If that's to sutle you could say

"Isn't it really cool being from the same area as the Beatles"

gauge her reaction and then proceed.

He could just mention he's from Birmingham,.. girls will love that

 

[Not Quite There]

Originally posted by Blinky
He could just mention he's from Birmingham,.. girls will love that

haha, when i was out new year eve I was ripping it out of some of the girls for their accents, cause i dont really have one.

 

[klaz]

Try saying "hello" (Ignoring all the other guys.) If you get a smile, continue. If not, you've lost nothing. Regardless, you've made a first step towards her. If you see her later, you've already spoken to her, and its easier to enter a conversation with her.

Leave it to the other guys to try prove themselves. You KNOW you're desirable and that she should be with you. Play with your confidence.

 

[Deadly_Assassin]

I would agree what blinky said, give her mates the attention, make them laugh, and give the stunner no attention what so ever. This will make the hot chick wonder why you are not like the other guys and not hitting on her. But dont come off as if you are interested in her mates, you were just being friendly thats all and having fun. You didnt go up to them to chat them up or get in there pants.

Theres two things you can do from then on

1) Get the mates to come dance with you, this includes the chick ( You better be good at dancing )Dance with them all and then slowly start giving the stunner a bit of attention. That last part, take your time. You just gotta judge the situation and time it right. If you start giving her attention too soon, the mates will think you used them to get to the chick, the chick will think shes won, cos you were hardly any challenge. Give her the attention too late, she might not be interested in you anymore. She will not wonder about you. She will either wanna go back to the bar, sit down or look for other guys to boost her ego and make her feel good. She might use that last part as a test to see how you react. Time it right, start dancing the with chick closer, start to grind her and all that, show her a good time, then back off. Say you gonna go grab a drink and will come back to her later. Hang with your mates this time and you will see her checking you out to see what you are upto, this is the time, dont wait, just go upto her and start talking to her. You should have her interest pretty high by then. Cos if you wait she will think you were not interested.

2) back off. After you have a good rapport going on with her mates. Bugger off somewhere else. Hopefully if you have impressed her mates, you have impressed her. Accidently bump into them again and you can start talking to them again and ask them what they are upto and stuff. Its handy to have a wingman in these situations, cos you can use him to keep her mates occupied. Now when your wingman keeps them busy you can slowly start chatting the chick up.

Note: to impress the chick you gotta be descent looking or have a descent body. Would you go out with a chick whos got a ugly as face but pretty cool personality?Probably not, its very important how you present yourself cos first impressions last.

You gotta be having fun, and know how to relate to people and get them to open up cos you are going to face a lot of ASDs.

 

[Bonhomme]

A bit different

In most cases, one gets the attention of this sort of super-popular, high-status gal without targeting them. You have to stand out in some way: your manner, confidence, style, appearance, actions (such as having a lot of fun on the dance floor), in such a way as to capture her interest straight off. Then you catch her eye and it's "game on," and you can work her just like you would any other gal.

 

[Jariel]

This goes against everything this site stands for, but it works...

Become her friend and don't hit on her. She'll see you as different because you're not chasing after her the way other guys do. Just remain confident at all times and never kiss her ass.

The idea that being friends with a girl destroys chances of sex/romance is a total myth. Many relationships develop from friendships.

 

[Trance]

Re: Sounds like fun...

Originally posted by ~ªêQµïTª$~
Just 1 more thing that i read somewhere once which i have not tried yet, but seems to be a fun idea...

Make a little card that sais " Smile if you want to sleep with me"

Most chicks will not be able to help it and they will smile. A very attractive woman wouldnt expect a guy to do this kind of thing, and she will also be attracted by your confidence.. so ya... After this she will be in a joking mood etc and then the 2 of you could get to know eachother a little better and do what u wanna do Sounds like fun and i think that i'll actually try it sometime soon

Laterz...

LOLLL I bursted laughing with this one, ingenious!! :d really awesome, impossible not to laugh :d

 

[Climax]

teehee...

*Blush*

I'm going to a house party tonight and myself and a friend are busy making a few cards similar to that with similar sayings on them... this should be fun .... I'll keep you posted

Laterz...

 

[Upper]

what i would recommend in this case is to go next to her and order a drink... then when the barman asks you to pay, you point to her and say "she's paying for it".. this will immediatelly get her attention, and when she sais something along the lines of " excuse me? no i'm not paying for it!" then u pay for it while looking at her and saying "Well done" and u walk away.

At this point she will be thinking " what in the world was that about? and why did he just say " Well Done" to me? " Now as you can see, she is already thinking about you and NOT about the other guys staring at her...

Now.. Later on at the club/bar etc keep an eye on her and make sure that u run into her again, and when u do she will 99% look at you and expect you to say something, so this is when u call her over to come closer to you, and when she comes u say " is there a reason u are looking at me funny?" and then she will start to open up and say something like " Well i was wondering what that was about at the bar, and why did u say "well done?"" so u say something like " so you are saying that only guys can buy WOMEN drinks?" and then she will say something like " well no, but that was kinda random and i dont even know you" ( she might also add that its rude) and then u go on to say " well maybe buying me a drink would contribute in getting to know me" (after saying that u give her a little wink) and then she will probably ask " and why did u say well-done?" ( if she doesnt bring it up, then u can, but she probably WILL ) then u say " well the last time i said to the barman that the lady was paying for the drink she did without questioning me or anything, and i dont like that about a girl, i like a woman that will stand up for herself, but after questioning me and standing up for herself, it would still be great if she ended up buying me the drink ( end this sentence with a brief "cute" laugh)

After saying all that, u can start talking about general stuff and even ask her to dance with you... then after spending some time with her u get her number and maybe more

Well anyways... this technique has worked pretty well on MOST of the girls that i have used this on, so give it a try and let me know how it goes

Laterz...

This idea is great, especially the ending about another women buying you a drink the other time, but... unfortunately I didn't even get to the ending.

After saying "well done", the group looked at me queer and just laughed and ignored me. So for me, it didn't work. Try it at your own risk folks

 

[typical]

Just 1 more thing that i read somewhere once which i have not tried yet, but seems to be a fun idea...

Make a little card that sais " Smile if you want to sleep with me"

Most chicks will not be able to help it and they will smile. A very attractive woman wouldnt expect a guy to do this kind of thing, and she will also be attracted by your confidence.. so ya... After this she will be in a joking mood etc and then the 2 of you could get to know eachother a little better and do what u wanna do Sounds like fun and i think that i'll actually try it sometime soon

Laterz...

That has to be one of the best ideas Ive come across ever, damn you could use that at any social gathering. You sir need to post more !!!

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

This idea is great, especially the ending about another women buying you a drink the other time, but... unfortunately I didn't even get to the ending.

After saying "well done", the group looked at me queer and just laughed and ignored me. So for me, it didn't work. Try it at your own risk folks

I have never tried this, only just read it 30 seconds ago but if they laugh that is not necciserly a bad thing! As long as its not at you. Dont loose confidence in yourself and it iwll work, because it sounds great.

You ned to eb and sound confident and have the right body languge to make this work, no line can do the work for you, but if you act 'cool' (for lack of a better work) then it will work.

 

[Silverback82]

hope that she thinks you are better looking than the guys giving her attention

worked for me

 

[youknowtherest]

here is the thing - you really can't do much. In a club, the HB 9 is already gettin what she is there for - attention and ego boosting for her fragile self esteem. the AFC's are already all over that. Your best bet is to chat up the HB 7's and be smooth and under cover about it. Give them the attention they aint gettin from everyone else and they will eat that sh it up....

Amen. Work the rest of the room. Better yet, pretend she doesn't exist.

 

[Distant Light]

I have never been to a club but I will try to come up with a logical advice from the FRs that I've read where the guy games the hb9 in a club and what I've done in school to talk to the popular girls.

First of all if your a chode up in the club and have no value at all your going to get blown out of the set. Your going to need value in order to get passed her ***** shield. What you most likely want to do is work the whole room and get everyone in a good mood, because she is going to notice you having fun with all the other girls but you haven't talked to her. (I've done this is school in gym) So after you've got the ball rolling you should start merging sets by using the girls who are cute to help you get into the set with the real hot girls. If you want you can get a pawn or pivot to open that set for you.

A good way that I've read in field report, (This guy is very good at C&F so he didn't get blown out of the set) basically after getting that social proof you can go over to her and basically act like you need her help because all these girls are chasing you. Its nice roleplaying and will build attraction, bust on her.

Your going to need tight game to pull it off but its possible just don't try and go in there like the average guy unless you have some good C&F to bust on her when you come in as if your the next guy.

 

[Upper]

A good way that I've read in field report, (This guy is very good at C&F so he didn't get blown out of the set) basically after getting that social proof you can go over to her and basically act like you need her help because all these girls are chasing you. Its nice roleplaying and will build attraction, bust on her.

Was the FR on sosuave?