The Duke
Master Don Juan
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I've never been successful either. Those skid stains never go away. ;-)Getting your ex back is like having a shower and putting your dirty underpants back on.
I've never been successful either. Those skid stains never go away. ;-)Getting your ex back is like having a shower and putting your dirty underpants back on.
Well, if you don't change anything it would be fare to get the same result in this regardGetting your ex back is like having a shower and putting your dirty underpants back on.
What minimal term of ice would be required, any guess?However I personally would put her on ice for a while.
First, that's the point. She rejected you, she's the one who needs to fix the situation. You give her the burden to change her mind and be unsure if her choice is the best. The strongest in the negotiating position is the one who walks away and you give her the gift of missing you. She can't value your time or you, she can miss you indefinitely. Also "responsibilities"? Dude this is about interest. Most women are uncertain about things. That's why you give her the burden while you live your life. If she thinks she made the wrong move and her interest rises, IF being a big factor, then she needs to reach out to you.But in this scenario you shift any burden towards the girl and as far as we all know they are not particularly like responsibilities.
Well, i certainly can't be any reliable source with respect to statistic on this topic. But here in Ukraine most of the women are surprisingly insecure and will be beating around the bush, but won't contact you first. And I actually had multiple stories where after certain time i successfully reconnected with the girls just by reaching them first. Like the girls whom you didn't call to the second date or who flaked.
Somehow I miss your point. If women uncertain about things, it seems that it would be more effective to push your position instead of waiting something from them. I don't talk about convincing logically, but about changing her mood and emotions.Also "responsibilities"? Dude this is about interest. Most women are uncertain about things. That's why you give her the burden while you live your life.
But in those situations girls flaked or i stopped to contact them after 1-2 dates. I have never had a situation like this one in particularSecond, if you have "multiple stories where after certain time you successfully reconnected with the girls just by reaching them first" then why are you in the predicament that you're in now with this girl? That just seems like a repeat of a loop of "I think this method will work for sure this time." The definition of insanity is doing the same thing again and again expecting a different result, as the old adage goes. If it really worked that well, then you wouldn't have made this post right now with the status of her friendzoning you.
In my situation i explicitly rejected her friendshipons of guys get burned thinking "I'll win her heart by being her friend." That's passive.
Well, I would likely to consider it as a win situation if you have a consistent cheeks-clapping ))You won brother, you clapped them cheeks!
It is true, to be in a friend-zone is a choice. I do not consider to be there because i do not have any contacts with here since she "let's be friends" meThe best way to not be in the friend-zone is to not let yourself get in the friend-zone
I don't speak Ukrainian, but Slava Ukraini.Hi, guys! I'm from Ukraine (Europe) ...
3. At some point I felt a certain detachment from her and a coldness. She finally told me that only six months before we met, she broke up with the guy with whom she lived together for a very long time. She said that they broke up because of his multiple betrayals, and the other day (that is, after our last meeting with her at that time) he contacted her and wanted to reconcile. She said that the past relationship is the past and it cannot be returned, but now she has an emotional mess in her head, and wants to work through the trauma before starting something new. That is, she suggested that we take a break.
I didn't really know at the time if she wanted to get back with her ex and if she was telling the truth, but now I understand that she was obviously considering such a possibility at the time.
As bad as it sounds, it would be too optimistic to expect her to swiftly choose the guy with whom she familiar for two months over the guy, with whom she had a prolonged relationship. I mean you need to be realistic. Provided she won't go to him eventually, I see no that big problem with itI think you're placing second to her ex. She isn't over him - she "has an emotional mess." When this ex wants her back, she breaks up with you. Her emotions and actions indicate you rank a distant second to her ex. Maybe she said some things to avoid hurting your feelings, but look at her reaction and her actions. If you pursue this girl, you risk placing second whenever her ex returns.
But same works with a men and 'attraction' is not a constant measure. Don't know, sometimes with a girl you have 'attraction' and want to have her badly, but the other day or more you can be deadly unattracted...There really is nothing a man can do about 'attraction', it is either there or it isn't. What a woman finds attractive in a mate is different from woman to woman. There are some common threads with traits a majority of women want, but if you are not actually tickling her fancy... you just have nothing to work with.
What does it mean? I don't understand this conceptyou are in love with a filter