How do you get close to a girl who doesn't let people get close to her?

[Igetit!]

Dont you know anything? Stay away from girls when they are going through rough times or they will associate you with negative emotions. You are volunteering to be her emotional tampon. You're stuck deep in the freindzone. I can tell by the way you 'care' about her. You need to be the guy she feels good with, not her shoulder to cry on.Guess who she'll come cryin' to when the next guy fvcks her and chucks her. Man the fvck up, grow a dyck, and read the DJ bible. You are here asking for some kind of magic pill that doesnt exist.

+1 rep. Horaholic...

And that "grow a dyck" coment almost made me fall out of my seat laughing,lol.



Pikachu,dude,you AMAZE me.



It amazes me how absolute CLUELESS you are.



I used to be naive like this as well,but the difference is that you're a part of this forum.



This borders on RIDICULOUS. Horaholic's reply is just flat out THE ANSWER,but you seem to have rejected it.



You're like a guy dying of thirst,who just turned down a glass of water,then starts to complain about how thirsty he is.



I don't think you understand how attraction works for women.


You got it ALL WRONG if you think "being there" for her will make her want you sexually.



If you met a woman who's fat,with missing teeth and no hair,but she was a "nice/good" person,would her "being there" for you during a tough time make you feel the same way a hot blonde with big boobs make you feel?



You don't get it man.



Why don't you have another look a Horaholic's post and try to understand what he said there,ESPECIALLY the part about how girls will associate negative feelings with you.


Whether you realize it or not,right now...every action you take towards her only drives her farther and farther from you,and if you don't believe me,then just look at the results you're currently getting with her.


They speak for themselves.

 

[pikachu69]

But if she's upset and crying and all vulnerable and emotional wouldn't me being there for her to listen after a while she'll want comfort and maybe someone to sleep with her to make her feel better? When a girl is dumped she feels all emotional and puts out hence the rebound. Her mom being really ill is a sh1tty situation but wouldn't this bring out the same vulnerable feelings that getting dumped would bring? Wouldn't she want a guy to comfort her? I just need to make sure I'm that guy and not my friend

+1 rep. Horaholic...


And that "grow a dyck" coment almost made me fall out of my seat laughing,lol.




Pikachu,dude,you AMAZE me.




It amazes me how absolute CLUELESS you are.



I used to be naive like this as well,but the difference is that you're a part of this forum.





This borders on RIDICULOUS. Horaholic's reply is just flat out THE ANSWER,but you seem to have rejected it.









You're like a guy dying of thirst,who just turned down a glass of water,then starts to complain about how thirsty he is.



I don't think you understand how attraction works for women.





You got it ALL WRONG if you think "being there" for her will make her want you sexually.




If you met a woman who's fat,with missing teeth and no hair,but she was a "nice/good" person,would her "being there" for you during a tough time make you feel the same way a hot blonde with big boobs make you feel?




You don't get it man.



Why don't you have another look a Horaholic's post and try to understand what he said there,ESPECIALLY the part about how girls will associate negative feelings with you.


Whether you realize it or not,right now...every action you take towards her only drives her farther and farther from you,and if you don't believe me,then just look at the results you're currently getting with her.


They speak for themselves.

 

[Alle_Gory]

But if she's upset and crying and all vulnerable and emotional wouldn't me being there for her to listen after a while she'll want comfort and maybe someone to sleep with her to make her feel better? When a girl is dumped she feels all emotional and puts out hence the rebound. Her mom being really ill is a sh1tty situation but wouldn't this bring out the same vulnerable feelings that getting dumped would bring? Wouldn't she want a guy to comfort her? I just need to make sure I'm that guy and not my friend

What do you have to offer her besides being a listener? Can you make her laugh, are you funny? Can you make her feel safe, are you patient, disciplined and somewhat predictable? Can you give her a good fvck, are you attentive and willing to fufill her and your needs in bed?

Think about what you have to offer. If you can't do sh*t, you probably won't.



BTW, trying to hook up with a girl because her mom's dying and she's vulnerable is the epitome of douche. You're right up there with thegspwarrior. The douche who wanted to fight a guy to steal his girlfriend.

But whatever, you are committed to this. Don't listen to igetit! and horaholic. You're obviously more experienced with women.... right? Let's hear some of that experience.

 

[pikachu69]

What do you have to offer her besides being a listener? Can you make her laugh, are you funny? Can you make her feel safe, are you patient, disciplined and somewhat predictable? Can you give her a good fvck, are you attentive and willing to fufill her and your needs in bed?

Think about what you have to offer. If you can't do sh*t, you probably won't.



BTW, trying to hook up with a girl because her mom's dying and she's vulnerable is the epitome of douche. You're right up there with thegspwarrior. The douche who wanted to fight a guy to steal his girlfriend.

But whatever, you are committed to this. Don't listen to igetit! and horaholic. You're obviously more experienced with women.... right? Let's hear some of that experience.

First and foremost I care about her, I want to be there for her while she's going through a hard time. Trying to hook up with her cos her mom's dying is not cool, my point was that when she's vulnerable like that SHE'D want a guy to console her, I wouldn't go out and actually intiate it, that's not cool taking advantage of her and her situation.

 

[tafakna]

You get close to a person like this by letting here open up, never judging anything she might tell you, by offering your friendship and demanding nothing in return. Of course you want to be more than her friend, but I'm not sure if that's a possibility.

I got in real real trouble exactly once in my life, and the girl was just like the one you are having trouble with. Men are suckers for trying to save girls in trouble and very attracted to girls that are emotionally unavailable. There are some girls who will never be 'fixed'.

I know telling you to quit here will not work, but at least keep that in mind. Eventually it will help you move on with your life.

 

[Alle_Gory]

when she's vulnerable like that SHE'D want a guy to console her, I wouldn't go out and actually intiate it, that's not cool taking advantage of her and her situation.

Her mom dying is not something YOU have to deal with. It's HER problem. It's HER mother dying, its HER emotions she's got to deal with.

You have no place here. Are you family? Are you a long time best friend? Are you close to her mother? No? Stay out of her business.

The only thing you can do is try and show her a good time. Make her laugh, show her some fun, make her comfortable to try and give her a break once in awhile from all the bad stuff she must be dealing with right now. Make her forget the bad stuff if only for a few hours when she's with you. Then maybe, you will get laid.

Stop being a douche, leave the girl alone to tend to her own (as in NOT yours) problems.

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

This is why so-called "Nice Guy" methods of trying to get women are in truth far more nefarious and deceptive than the "Bad Boy" who acts like a sexual man. The Bad Boy is more natural, the Nice Guy is a doucheworthy con artist, a wolf in sheeps clothing who tries to slide in under the radar like a thief in the night. Enough metaphors for you?

Anyway, this girls mother is dying, and the OP sees an opportunity to get laid?

I almost feel sorry for him.

 

[sodbuster]

Read "no more mr. nice guy" It covers you exactly. The short version as it applies to this situation- if you are trying to "be nice" to her,but you expect something[puzzy] in return. SO you aren't really a nice guy,just another guy with an agenda.NOW in a month, when you aren't getting any,you'll get all pizzed off-mad and indignant[you were"there for her" and she didn't "appreciate" you(screw you). She's dating some jerk who didn't hide his agenda. Life is so unfair]

 

[thegoodstuff]

Okay, to open this girl up you need to physically bend her over with force (i.e. your hands, and possibly the use of a taser), and drill her @ss like crazy until your dyck snaps.

Amen.

 

[CarlitosWay]

^^^^ LROFL op needs to let this one go and focus on the many hundreds of great women roaming his city everyday!