Rollo Tomassi said:
25? Come back when you're 30, you're still too young to be asking this question..
I see your point, and I know where you're going with it, but come on....when you find a good girl you go for it no matter how old you are. "Good" is a fairly loose term in my case.
Rollo Tomassi said:
Seriously though, here's an asignment for you. Go to your church (or your familie's church if you don't go regular) and take mental notes of all the women you see there. Be real particular as far as appearances go and any conversations you can eavesdrop on paying particular attention to statements about personal lives or issues that may relate to their opinions of dating or marriage. You will begin to see consistent patterns present themselves. A lot of christian women follow very predictable schemas. Most will be overweight, most will shun direct discussions about sex, most will expect to be married (soon around your age), most will complain about there being a lack of 'marriageable' men with sufficient dedication to women as it should be their duty to do so. Those not overweight will tend to be wallflowers (or self preceived wallflowers) or 'recovering sluts' in church for the first time in a while wanting to make a fresh start. One unifying understanding that virtually all of them will have will be a belief in a ONE (ONEitis) predestined husband ordained for them and will respond to the soul-mate myth accordingly. This is also a manifestation of the 'entitlement' dynamic which is rife in almost every religious group, not just christianity...
I agree. Many people hide behind Christianity for support and security. It's called FAITH and it's the entire purpose of religion. I live my life in accordance to what I believe that the Lord wants me to do. How do I know, some might ask? Through my own personal experiences. Life is definitely fullfilled when my relationship with Christ is strongest...
HOWEVER
I do believe we make our own choices and we make our own lives. God is their for guidance and a rock to lean on, not to be used as an excuse to shelter us. If it were, we would all be predestined for heaven or hell, or maybe we wouldn't exist at all.
Rollo Tomassi said:
If you answer no to any of these, don't get married. There are no immediately identifiable benefits for a man to get married (unless you really want to start a family). It is ALL responsibility with very little recognizable payback. Christian or otherwise, marriage benefits the woman exclusively, while the plus side for men is negligible. .
So why get married? Why did you get married? Yes I realize that in our continual liberated society things are geared toward the woman, no doubt. It's the partnership, to have someone there who knows you in and out. Don't get me wrong, there are lots of different people who could take on that role at any given time or circumstance. And yes, reproduction. But nontheless, Rollo T, I'd like to know why you got married if it's such an anti-benefitial thing...