How do you escape a girl forcing you to change?

CornbreadFed

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By not dating these types of women in the first place. You saw the red flags earlier on, but instead of properly vetting you boldly claimed you were going to pump and dump which graduated to I am the exception. You have nobody to blame but yourself on this one OP.
 

RangerMIke

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Any woman that is trying to force you into something you are not, what you have is a woman that doesn't fit your life. Look.... she knows you don't fit her either. She is thinking only of herself, which is fine... the man needs to think of himself as well. Successful relationships are two people meeting their needs and compromising with reciprocity. That's it.

It is really fvcking hard to find this, which is why half marriages end in divorce, and the half that don't end in divorce, you have two people that are just miserable.

It is better to end things as soon as someone starts making demands which pulls you away from who you are and what you like, because this does not get better with time. If you draw that line in the sand, understanding that in a vast majority of situations, if you are a man, she will leave you. Yeah... that sucks... but it is much better that trying to cram a square peg in a round hole.

The biggest fvcking lie in the world is "Happy wife: happy life.".... No, this is not a real option... because she's not REALLY happy, all your effort is just to get her to the point where she is 'satisfied' with her situation... she isn't happy. The more she demands the more unhappy she is... and you the man... have to continue to work and work and work just to keep her around. Then the MAN begins to resent this because the man's needs become nothing more than a futile attempt to keep his partner marginally satisfied.

If you are dating a woman and she comes out and says "I really don't think we have a connection, we just are not compatible." THANK HER! She is doing you a big favor letting you go, she has integrity and doesn't want to string you along. Sadly... most women are not like this, they will try and shape you like clay into something you are not. When this happens, it is up to you as the man to walk away... if she really loves you she will self-correct, but don't count on it in a vast majority of cases she will just hit the dating apps and move on.
 

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Have a steak,whle celebrating your freedom :)
 
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