How do you escalate in college?

[flint]

Alright so I have a question for you guys. After you've gotten a girl's phone number, what's a good next step?

I feel like in college most people just hook up by going to a party, getting drunk, and then they just escalate from there. But say you get a girl's phone number, since most people hook up at parties isn't it sort of wierd to be like "oh hey I just met you but let's see a movie, or coffee" or whatever your thing is.

So my question is what do you guys typically do after getting a girl's number? Do you go ahead and try and get dinner or something with her, or do you try and bring them to a party or something afterwords? I feel like bringing a girl to a party is a bad idea just because you have more competition to deal with and less one on one time, but at the same time that's how its done most of the time.

Any thoughts?

 

[The Comeback Kid]

I'm in a similar situation myself ("fr: something clicked"). I was at a party last night and really clicked with a girl that was there. Neither of us were nearly drunk, so the "drunken hook-up" wasn't happening. However, we exchanged numbers and I plan on making a call in the next day or so.

There are people here who are definitely better at this than I am, but I'd suggest wait a day or two (not this "three days rule" thing) and try to arrange a time to meet up. If she, for whatever reason, doesn't remember you right from "hello," use some C+F to remind her who you are and also so she'll get a laugh.

 

[needexc]

first of all wait a few days, then text her like ''hey! you that hot gal from the party right?!'' like you ALMOST forgot , she'll know right away she isn't the only girl in the world for you and your the busy dude. after that go like ''I got nothing to do <insert day> u seem like fun, wanna hang out?'' just straight forward.
if she's into you she'll bite no problem.

brush your teeth, take a shower, put up some cologne and take out the clothes you wanna wear like an hour BEFORE you go, hang the clothes on a place where you can see em. then go do something completely different (I always watch some telli or browse internet for a while) believe me when you are fresh and you see your clothes are hanging like a gladiators armor before he enters a frickin arena you'll get a boost.

when it's time put on ur clothes and keep that boost vibe in your body, and you will have no trouble in conversations and your in, in no time .

at least that's what I always do.

 

[Maxtro]

That's all that's going to be said?

What a shame.

There is so little information out there on how to do a day 2, or the actual date.

I believe it's something people just assume everybody knows what to do and it's obviously not the case.

Getting her number is the easy part. Knowing what to do when your with her and what to talk about is the hard part.

It's one thing to know the rules, it's entirely different to have a playbook.

 

[search1ng]

Call her, ask her to meet up for coffee during some break time.
Find out what she likes to do.
If YOUR time permits and you're interested take her along on a date which both interests you.
e.g Pool, Ice-Skating, mini-golf, go-karts etc.

Escalate, take it slow, do whatever you want.


On a entirely separate note, i have a few numbers that i got from girls cause i was bored and they were attractive. I was busy for around a week and haven't texted them or anything, do i just forget them or initiate contact again?

 

[KSUgamer]

So you're in college and going to parties...Don't even worry about the number man. Start doing kino right away and escalate a lot faster than usual. Put your arm around her after some playful touching, start holding her hand...you should know the steps if you've been on here long enough. At least make out with her that night, its really not hard at all if you're in the right setting. Of course if you want this thing to be more than one night and get somewhere with them you should ask for their number and call them back within a few days.

As for me...I just love getting drunk and being a make-out ***** haha. Its fun, I'm a little addicted tho I guess. I've made out with five girls in one night before lol...I should probably stop tho, I'm on the fast track to getting mouth herpes haha.

 

[Kevin Feng]

I think bringing a girl to a party is a great thing. First off, she's coming WITH YOU so it'll be understood implicitly that she will be tied to you to some extent at the party.

There will be alcohol there, which obviously makes escalating a LOT easier and the party atmosphere really pumps up a girl's buying temperature if she's having fun.

Also, if you know a lot of people at the party, that REALLY social proofs you. I remember a party I went to right after the show, all my friends were there and we were celebrating and I was the center of attention, I brought a chick and she knew absolutely no-one there.

Three things worked in my favor:

1. I was social proof'd
2. She knew nobody
3. She was drunk

The rest is they say, history.

-Kevin

 

[SharinganUser]

Honestly do what ever the hell you want.

It really doesn't matter what you do as long as you are relaxed, having fun, and she is comfortable. That last one is important because in my experience the first two can make you see uninterested(to relaxed) or to intense.

Kino is important so you have to first make casual body contact with her, a light touch, and then escalate it kissing, then if you want sex go for it.

Really just let go and let things happen naturally, don't try and force things by thinking about how to get with her.

Also you've only got a phone number, don't think you have anything more than a foot in the door.

 

[Cry For Love]

That's all that's going to be said?

What a shame.

There is so little information out there on how to do a day 2, or the actual date.

I believe it's something people just assume everybody knows what to do and it's obviously not the case.

Getting her number is the easy part. Knowing what to do when your with her and what to talk about is the hard part.

It's one thing to know the rules, it's entirely different to have a playbook.

mystery method man, mystery method. it gives detailed analyisis on how to time it properly, which is great for inexperienced players

 

[MillenniumMike]

I recommend avoiding indirect game doctrines in social circle settings. Mystery Method and other similar styles are cold approach centric. Cold approaches are effective in situations where rejection is a non issue. If you overdo peacocking and talk about weird things at frat parties you can get a bad reputation. Usually in colleges athletes and frats/sors have the highest status, regardless of how much you dislike frats and athletes who have automatic status you have to learn to deal and use them to your advantage. Joining a frat if you are inexperienced with girls will help if you follow the right crowd. Some guys in the frat know what they are doing with girls and thats who you want to gravitate towards, these guys are usually more reserved and less showy about their loyalties, the other group are the loud obnoxious guys who probably account for the people who probably use roofies, these guys have no idea how to deal with girls and should be avoided like a plague.

If you are decent with girls you do not have to join a frat, and I actually do not recommend joining if you have some skill. Inexperienced guys benefit most from this because they meet natural gamers who are way more valuable than an internet forum or a book. If you have skill instead of joining make friends with people in high places like frat guys or athletes. The goal here is to create high value and social proof for yourself. If you have been working at creating a name for yourself you will have a follow of female hangers on, these will be 7's and 8's, however refuse to sleep with any of them and use them as social connectors, these girls will know other girls, this will expand your social proof to know a lot of girls, who you can bring to parties at your whim making you far more powerful than the frat guys or athletes. Finally you will have 9's and 10's after you, you can sleep with them, with little effort and essentially be a fools mate. Your status is what won them over.

As for day 2's bring her to a party and be confident that you can put down any competition or take her to a mall ***Dont buy her anything*** Just go out to look for a new shirt or something and ask for her help. Dinner is too formal, movies are good if you use a certain kind of kino. Kino at parties should be light unless you are with a very attractive girl compared to the other girls at the party.

The best thing you can do is bring your date and abunch of other girls to the party and have them fight over you.

 

[Maxtro]

One of the most annoying things about college is that all the hooking up seems to be done at parties.

The only problem is, what are supposed to do if you don't know about any parties? Also the thought of hooking up with a girl at somebody else's house, during a party seems really weird.

I've got my own place. I want to bring girls home with me.

Right now it's

Step 1: Get the number
Step 3: Take her to your place and sleep with her. Even then I've manged to bring girls home and not do them.

Either way Step 2 is completely missing.

So far I've heard mall, pool, ice-skating, mini-golf, go-karts.

How do you make sure that you don't turn into two friends just hanging out?

 

[GuanYu]

I'm starting to think that without having any kind of social circles in college it's hard to get anywhere with any college girls unless you have awesome game.

When I was an undergrad, all of the parties and events I attended was usually due to being invited or finding out about stuff from other people. I was hardly ever alone and most of the girls I fvcked as an undergrad from campus were met through friends of friends.

You have to understand those young, typical girls are so fickle and status driven. They almost want to hookup with guys other people know or they connect with in some way due to knowing the same people. It's because they want to hurry up and fvck as much as we do so they use things, such as status or knowing the same people, as ways to justify knowing you well enough to smash on the first night if things go down that road. More often than not they do in college if you play your cards right and have sauce in your blood.

Since I'm in a new town and a grad student, I'm in a different situation. I have family and a few buddies around here, but nothing like the huge circles I had as an undergrad. Also, since I'm a little older now and focused on hooking up with better women, I'm hitting up different spots to scope. Since they're older and better women they have their own sense of self and now the majority of women I meet are complete strangers, but the results haven't changed. I just have to play the game a bit better it seems but it's worth it now because it's fun for me.

Since you're an undergrad I think it's key to find some kind of social groups to get involved with, otherwise you're going to stay in the dumps. College is one huge social bubble and if you're not in it then you're viewed as an outsider.

Just my 2 cents

 

[Maxtro]

Since you're an undergrad I think it's key to find some kind of social groups to get involved with, otherwise you're going to stay in the dumps. College is one huge social bubble and if you're not in it then you're viewed as an outsider.

I agree 100% that is why I made the WTF college thread.

Fortunately this semester is almost over and I can put it behind me and try to reinvent myself for the fall. There are several things that I want to try. It just sucks that I can't really start that process until September...

As for what to do until then, I have no idea. I have a feeling that summer is going to suck.

 

[secks]

I struggled with this for the longest time. It's not until recently (sophomore now) did I figure it out.

The reason why there is so little written is because it's pretty easy, but only once you've done it before.

Basically just call her up and meet up with her to hang out. Do anything, whatever you like. Do something you like to do because that's what determines if she is a good match for you.

If she is into you, which girls usually decide very early on, it will work out.

After you hang out for the first time, you should have some idea of where she stands. If she's into you, ask her out on a date.

So basically step 2 is: meet up, lunch, coffee, etc is usually good, but there are no real rules, anything will work.

 

[Zodiac]

For me I've run in the problem that I really don't drink and that is my weakness at college as most guys go and get laid by being at the right place at the right time with the right alcohol.

How I got over this was I made friends with a few girls and got to know if they smoked or what not. I would buy smokes with my military discount and smoke with them in the smoking area after or before a class I had with them and eventually I'd get their number and they got mine. I'd call them a day or two after I got the number and we'd do lunch. After lunch I'd ask what they were doing and from there I'd have a way of being with the girl. I'd build up the tension with them during the classes and when we smoked until when we had lunch. The girl around that time would flirt with me and I would go with the flow until the ball was in my court and I took it all the way and got laid myself.

Unlike most of my friends that went to parties and got laid by a drunk chick I didn't feel like an ******* the next morning like they did most of the time. I had a chick who would have sex with me a few times and then we would go our separate ways... either mutual or one of us would end it but my friends would have sex and that would be it until the next party.

 

[YoungBeezy]

Alright so I have a question for you guys. After you've gotten a girl's phone number, what's a good next step?

I feel like in college most people just hook up by going to a party, getting drunk, and then they just escalate from there. But say you get a girl's phone number, since most people hook up at parties isn't it sort of wierd to be like "oh hey I just met you but let's see a movie, or coffee" or whatever your thing is.

So my question is what do you guys typically do after getting a girl's number? Do you go ahead and try and get dinner or something with her, or do you try and bring them to a party or something afterwords? I feel like bringing a girl to a party is a bad idea just because you have more competition to deal with and less one on one time, but at the same time that's how its done most of the time.

Any thoughts?

In college its easy to get laid because you live in the same dorm. You can just ask her or give her a reason to come over to your room, late at night and everything is pretty much on.

 

[Maxtro]

LOL the easiest way to get laid in college seems to be

Go to parties and/or live in a dorm.

Sadly none of those apply to me. I guess it's all about making dates.

 

[AAAgent]

have you had atleast ONE decent long conversation with her?

even if i get a girls number its hard to make her comfortable enoguh to come out with. She may think your attractive but it isn't enough to quell her fears of you being some crazy stalker guy. Usually when you keep asking them out on these terms that's what you make yourself out as.

If you have her number, save it for a later date when you can see her again/bump into her. Have a good conversation than u can either instant date it or ask her out later to lunch. This way she'll be comfortable enough to go out with you. Once you bang out the first date just keep cruising from there.

I'll join groups with hot girls in my glasses for group projects. I'll purposely come in late and sit near them and ask thme to catch me up and just chit-chat.

Find non-awkward ways to build conversation/rapport.

 

[Mace]

Simply hangout. If she is interested she will agree to nearly anything: grabbing a bite to eat, going for a drink, chilling in the park whatever.

Closing is quite easy if you have the right targets and the ballz to approach.
Yesterday I was at an official College Party. Went there with some friends but after some dancing I normally go "hunting alone".

Stood at the side, totally sober. Alcohol kis bad for my game. I notice a girl to the oppostie of me looking down. looking up at me, looking down again.
So I simply pull her over and dance and grind with her. And her 2 friends who joined us instantely. Was quite a bit weird.

Today we met for lunch in die summer sun. kino, kissing, all natural.

I don't want to brag. I just want to show that this aint rocket science. Groom yourself well, wear nice clothes (I wore a black shirt with a red tie).
If you have nice game the evening you meet the second date should ideally be a natural continuation of the first evening.

Cold approaching is fun but it is more a numbers game, at leat in my experience. At college parties i normally go for the girls giving me IOIs. Those also dont flake normally.
Comfort ist more a game of state and flow then of any specific talking or technique. Any other opinions on that?

greetz