How do you deal with PMS?

[BobFuest]

My girlfriend has been really great up until the last 3 days. She is getting her period and having HUGE crazy mood swings. One minute she is happy and loves me and the next minute she is yelling about something or being short or sarcastic with me. I have walked away so many times i am getting tired of it.Normally i would think its relationship related but its not just that stuff. She burst into tears over a children's movie with no sad parts and burst into tears again at an old man walking across the street. She almost never cries and especially around people. So i really figure its the hormones going crazy. Everytime i walk away and put my foot down, she comes back and tells me how she is sorry for the attitude but then hours later she does it again. I would normally say I should just leave her alone for a few days but I have to spend all weekend with her. I am playing a club in milwaukee and she is going to be dancing (not stripping) there and then we are goin to Indianapolis the next morning where I am playing a rave party and she is dancing there also. Any suggestions?

 

[Paradox]

I have met several women with severe PMS. There's nothing you can do short of medication. I think it also has alot to do with body chemistry and upbringing. If a woman was brought up to believe Menstration is a bad thing then guess what? It will be bad. Chenmistry is another factor. Her body chemistry could be thrown out of wack hence my suggestion of medication.

I have met women who stay in bed all day on the first day of their period.

One of my ex's gf's had severe PMS. My strategy was to run and hide. I suggested she see a doctor but she refused. I left her.

 

[( . )( . )]

I'm skeptical of this whole "PMSing" thing.

What your describing is disrespect plain and simple. Women respected their men for hundreds of years but now they get an excuse? Its impossible for a woman to control angry outbursts? Its the hormonal change .....riiiight.

fvck that noise.

I've been with my share of chicks over the years but not once was the "PMS" thing ever a problem for me, draw your own conclusions.

 

[OpenMind]

You don't DEAL with it, she does.....

 

[SoCalMike]

I'm skeptical of this whole "PMSing" thing.

What your describing is disrespect plain and simple. Women respected their men for hundreds of years but now they get an excuse? Its impossible for a woman to control angry outbursts? Its the hormonal change .....riiiight.

fvck that noise.

I've been with my share of chicks over the years but not once was the "PMS" thing ever a problem for me, draw your own conclusions.

**EXACTLY** Great post.

 

[SoCalMike]

One minute she is happy and loves me and the next minute she is yelling about something or being short or sarcastic with me.

IShe burst into tears over a children's movie with no sad parts and burst into tears again at an old man walking across the street.

Everytime i walk away and put my foot down, she comes back and tells me how she is sorry for the attitude but then hours later she does it again.

Bob, you are dealing with an immature little brat b*tch that doesn't respect you. Been in this exact situation myself when I was 25 dating a 19YO spoiled c*nt raver girl.

And you mentioned raves, if she's doing E or other rave drugs this could be a contributing factor to the emotional instability, as those drugs definitely affect your mood in a bad way when you come down off them.

Suggestions? Yes - if she can't stop this BS (and I hate to say this but chances are she won't) you next her ass. If you're a DJ or musician you can get plenty of other tail.

 

[Marlimus]

You don't deal with her PMS; its not your problem. When she is being disagreeable, remove her from your reality.

 

[penkitten]

i prefer that my fiance just make me laugh. after that my pms gets better.

 

[RedPill]

Lots of women get PMS. Some don't. In my experience it's always the ones who have a real bratty attitude to begin with who seem to be ******dly affected by it. Meaning, they're used to being allowed to throw a tantrum or have emotional outbursts when they aren't in a great mood without any negative consequence.

This type of behavior is a red flag that you're dealing with an immature or spoiled woman. It's also an indicator that she grew up in an AFC household with a weak or missing dad - one of my tests for a woman's relationship potential. I'm not gonna get involved with a chick who's accustomed to environments where women run the show.

 

[marge s.]

@ (.)(.) and socalmike... your gf's were either on the pill or simply had no pms. Not all women get it.

@ BobFuest don't wait until she hits the roof. Talk with her while she feels ok and let her know that you're aware about the hormonal issue but that she needs to learn how to control it. It is possible to control your moods - having pms doesn't mean that you're insane! When I'm having moodswings my gorgeous bf grabs my shoulders, looks into my eyes and says something like: "who are you and what have you done with my sweet, loving gf???" By doing this he helps me to look at the situation from the funny side and he shows me that he cares. Both helps. So, I agree with Penkitten... best way is to make her laugh about herself. When she feels better, she'll love you even more for that. Plus have you tried to seduce her when she's having pms? Might be difficult but worth it

 

[Paradox]

@ (.)(.) and socalmike... When I'm having moodswings my gorgeous bf grabs my shoulders, looks into my eyes and says something like: "who are you and what have you done with my sweet, loving gf???" By doing this he helps me to look at the situation from the funny side and he shows me that he cares. Both helps. So, I agree with Penkitten... best way is to make her laugh about herself. When she feels better, she'll love you even more for that. Plus have you tried to seduce her when she's having pms? Might be difficult but worth it

Good advice marge & pen. Thanks for the insight.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

After 9.5 years of marriage I've learned that the best way to deal with PMS is to expect it. That might sound stupid-simple, but it works. I have my wife's cycle down to a science, I know exactly where she is right now with regards to her upswing and drop off. The menstrual cycle is exactly that - a cycle. Begining from her "rag week" (lowest end) she progressively becomes more normalized into week 1. By the end of week 1 she's downright amorous and I adjust my attituded to accommodate her. Into week 2 she gets horny and sex is usually best in this window. She's touchy-feely and affectionate, and gets upset if I have to be away from her for some reason. Mid to end week 2 and it's ON. Into week three, and we're on the down side of the bell curve. Sex is "OK, I'll-do-it-for-my-husband" and by the end of the week it's *****-mode engaged. By end week 3 into her menstruation week I know sex is out of the question and I have to put head into hybernation until the following week.

This is one of the most valuable things I've ever learned about women. Anticipating her moods with regards to her cycle and adjusting my considerations accordingly. I NEVER make, or allow her to influence, any decisions of any gravity during her down cycle. I've also learned to apply this to the women I work with and use it to my advantage once I have their schedule somewhat pegged (women dont like you to know when their periods are). Most women living and working in close proximity have a tendency to synchronize their cycles too, so this makes dealing with them in a work environment that much easier. My old friend and work associate and I used to actually track the ladies in our office cycle on a dry-erase calender since we were th only men in the office. If it was a "red week" we knew it was pointless to argue anything relating to our work projects, whereas if it were a "peak week" we could get things done efficiently. This schedule was predictable like clockwork.

I should also ad that, once a guy is able to read a woman's signs he can also apply this to his sarge.

 

[Desdinova]

Damn RT, Good stuff!

Begining from her "rag week" (lowest end) she progressively becomes more normalized into week 1. By the end of week 1 she's downright amorous and I adjust my attituded to accommodate her. Into week 2 she gets horny and sex is usually best in this window. She's touchy-feely and affectionate, and gets upset if I have to be away from her for some reason. Mid to end week 2 and it's ON. Into week three, and we're on the down side of the bell curve. Sex is "OK, I'll-do-it-for-my-husband" and by the end of the week it's *****-mode engaged. By end week 3 into her menstruation week I know sex is out of the question and I have to put head into hybernation until the following week.

My lady has the exact same behaviour patterns. It kinda makes things nice and predictable. You get the rag week, the heavy sex week, the sore nipple week, and the preparing for rag week.

 

[SoCalMike]

@ (.)(.) and socalmike... your gf's were either on the pill or simply had no pms. Not all women get it.

Nope, dated many girls and only a few were on the pill. Maybe they got PMS but were mature/respectful enough to restrain irrational emotional outbursts?

Sorry, I don't buy this "some women get it some don't" nonsense. All women have the same biology, for the most part.

 

[SoCalMike]

Damn RT, Good stuff!



My lady has the exact same behaviour patterns. It kinda makes things nice and predictable. You get the rag week, the heavy sex week, the sore nipple week, and the preparing for rag week.

hehehe yeah I've noticed a similar pattern with my girl - I like the heavy sex weeks. sore nipple week is usually preparing for the rag week with her. LOL

She really doesn't act *****y when she's on her period (or about to go on it). Maybe I'm just lucky??

 

[penkitten]

Nope, dated many girls and only a few were on the pill. Maybe they got PMS but were mature/respectful enough to restrain irrational emotional outbursts?

Sorry, I don't buy this "some women get it some don't" nonsense. All women have the same biology, for the most part.

it doesnt matter that we have the same biology.
when some women have a baby, they are so healthy and others stay so sick. some women cry and scream during labor, and others are smart enough to bite hard on a washcloth instead of screaming.
its really about how well someone can handle pain and their ability to have a positive outlook on things. the more you can handle pain, the less the periods and pms.
sure, we all get it, but for some people its not as bad.

then you have things such as hormones and birth control and health issues and stress that all play a role.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

One thing I probably should've mentioned in my last post is that a majority of sh!t tests a woman will deliver occur during the downside of the cycle. Expect them and pass them, and on the upcycle you will reap the rewards. This sh!t is gold, I don't know why I'm not charging for this information,..

As I said in my last post, the single DJ can use this handily to his own advantage if he knows how to accurately read a woman at the peak of her cycle. Women in their ovulatory peak are far more sexually accessible than women on the downcycle of the bell curve and a DJ can adjust technique in a sarge if he can figure this out. This may not be possible with a random woman in the clubs, but if there is a woman you are familiar with and PAY ATTENTION well enough to observe her moods over a couple of weeks you can better plan a sarge (assuming there's IL of course). This isn't a magic bullet, but it is a useful tool for the DJ tool box.

Also, it goes without saying, but I'll add the warning, that if you do indeed F-close at this during this peak, be sure you wear a condom. You're essential knocking it out with a woman at the top of her fertility window, so buyer beware.