How do you deal with meeting your ex's new guy?

[Heretolearn]

"How come you compare a man that was in a relationship with a freak to a rape victim? WTF???"

The comparison was made because it was appropriate.

Read my previous posts carefully in this thread word for word, without a reactionary retard mindset, fully comprehend them, take your time, then finally you will bask in the joy of understanding and learning and will have no more ignorant unnecessary questions to pose.

"He is a weak man that got his balls chopped off by a predatory female. He needs to toughen up and realize that the game is cruel and merciless to the weak."

If you and a buddy were walking through a forest and a bear suddenly came out of nowhere and pounced on you and ripped off your leg how would you feel if as you are lying there on the ground screaming and bleeding and your buddy just points his finger at you laughs and says "lol dude, you're so weak, you should of brought a rifle you pvssy".

My guess is you'd be quite pissed at your buddy for saying such an ignorant idiotic thing and in the hospital I'm sure your conversation would go something like this...

You: Fvck you man we weren't hunting!

Him: Doesn't matter man we were in the woods you should of automatically assumed you needed to be armed to the teeth incase something like that happened.

You: WTF? That doesn't make any sense, we weren't in the deep woods, we were in a well known human travelling trail, bears haven't been known to attack humans in this area, hell its been said they are afraid of humans here and might I add you were not armed either.

Him: Yeah but if he'd gone for me and gotten my leg I would've immediately accepted that it was my own damned fault and promptly gotten over it even though from that moment on I would have become a cripple.

You: Yeah right assh0le. Screw you. In reality you'd be pissed off and thoroughly insulted if all this happened to you and some ignorant fvck came along and told you it was all your fault for not being prepared to hunt when all you intended to do in the first place was go for a walk in the woods.

Do you get it yet asian dude?

The victims of borderlines aren't actively on the hunt, they are just people fully intending to take a nice walk in the woods with someone. They have no idea or inclination that they should be armed and ready to rock and roll in order to be able to do this.

Your example about victims of BPD being weak is utterly and completely retarded.

Mainly because most normal guys be they AFC or otherwise do not know what they are dealing with, they go in with that douchebag trusting mentality of women that morality posters like TheHumanist always prop up as the pinnacle of healthy thinking and when that way of interaction comes back to bite them in the ass the morality bozos are nowhere to be found to pick up the pieces of that guy's broken life, instead there are ignorant bozos like you that should know better there to point in the guy's face and say "haha! you lost the game!"

How the fvck can you lose a game you aren't even playing or know you are supposed to be playing?

Answer: You can't.

BPD victims are prey. Period.

Only someone whose actively involved in mindgames who engages a BPD on that level and then loses can be considered weak because both parties know they are playing a game. Naturally then the loser of that game can be deemed weaker at that game.

Situations where animals and people are prey which in my mind means there is no contest of who will win to me that doesn't qualify as weakness. Its then an issue of predator and prey.

The deer is an intelligent animal but we are so far beyond its intelligence there is no contest of who will come out on top, the hunter in the blind with a gun to his side or the deer? Again no contest. The hunter will blow the deer away and if somehow the deer runs away did he prevail over the hunter? Not at all for the hunter is still alive and free to keep coming back until he gets his prey. The deer has no chance at all other than to hide out. Its beyond the deers ability to stalk and try and kill the hunter, the deer can only try and hide as in the food chain compared to humans the deer are prey and we are predators. No weakness involved on the deers part. Its the only strategy the deer has.

The AFC's, the normal men who have no clue about BPD's are like these deer.

No contest.

The BPD will win.

The men and AFC's never had a chance, never saw it coming.

ONe of the BEST posts I have ever read since I began using the internet. Seriously well done!!!!

*post is so on point as BPD are the exception, you cannot live your life governed by exceptions as opposed to the norm.

ALthough BPD may get the press, like sharks, there are a lot of healthy girls out there (alas BPD usually are very attractive and stand out lol) like that jack of lantern fish with a light to lure prey as its mechanism to survive/exist

 

[dubAllStar]

Since making this post a couple weeks back I have received a lot of very helpful responses. Thank you for that.

I figured I would give an update of how it all went down just for entertainment sakes:

I decided to go to the BBQ after all. I made this decision after a couple of my very important clients of mine called me to confirm that I was going (even though it wasn’t even their BBQ). I felt my (future) career was more important than worrying about what emotional state my worthless ex would leave me in after the BBQ.

I have to say, I am very glad I went.

I arrived to the BBQ early to meet with said clients. Once I noticed my ex arrive with her new beau, I immediately walked straight towards him and introduced myself. He was a tall guy (I am 5’10”), but nothing special. I was kind of shocked by this, btw, since my ex could be mistaken for a Playboy Playmate. We did the normal chit chat BS for a couple of minutes and I walked away to speak to some clients.

For the next hour or two, I noticed that she would do her best to bring herself around my vicinity – at times even butting into my conversations with other people. If she knew the person I was talking to, she would be sure to introduce her boyfriend and tell them what he does for a living and how intelligent he is and making sure she touching, rubbing, and leaning on him at all times. I felt her actions were awkward, not because she is my ex, but because the conversation and actions seemed to come out of left field. I was not alone feeling this because a couple people came up to me throughout the party asking me what her deal was.

He was silent the whole time – basically only speaking when spoken to and answering questions with simple one-word answers. I could tell he was uncomfortable, so when I noticed that he was alone I approached him and asked him questions that required him to talk more about himself (How to Win Friends and Influence People FTW). It turned out that he was a great guy – friendly, down to earth, intelligent – but at the same time you could feel a bit of weakness behind his words. I could tell he didn’t like being there (which would be normal), but I could also tell he felt an immense amount of anxiety when it came to my ex (his gf). He would constantly watch her and he would lose his train of thought when he noticed her speaking to another guy.

I felt bad for the guy, but I had sh*t to take are of. I did my thing and didn’t see them again for another hour or two, but when I DID see them again is when things got VERY entertaining:

I walk inside the house and I notice him leaning against the wall. I ask him where my ex is (by name, he never knew about me prior to this BBQ) and he pointed over to the very large group of guys laughing and drinking. In the middle of the group: my ex.

Apparently she got approached by one of the older guys at the party and he challenged her to a drinking contest. A bottle of tequila later and me and her boyfriend are witnessing her taking shots off guys necks, grinding them, and basically dry fvcking a group of about 9 guys. I was laughing on the inside, but I was next to her current boyfriend and I could tell that he was fvcked up emotionally over this (as anybody would be). After watching this go down for a couple of minutes, she looked over at her boyfriend while laughing, took another shot, then glanced over at me and you would NOT believe the look in her eyes.

It was as if I shot her dog. As if her entire world came crumbling down. She immediately jumped off the lap of the guy she was grinding, dropped her shot glass full of tequila, and just stood there like an idiot.... looking at me… with that glazed over drunk look that screams “omfg what did I just get caught doing.” She thought I had left…

I started laughing hysterically. I couldn’t help it! Here is this woman, very beautiful, trying to parade her new boyfriend around as if to show off her class, acting like a complete garbage POS… and she didn’t even realize it until she looked at ME.

I looked over at her boyfriend. Put out my hand and said:

“Look, man, I don’t know if/what she has told you about me, but I know more about this woman than she would ever make you out to believe. You are a cool guy – I like you. Under different circumstances we could probably be friends. That being said, I am going to give you some friendly advice right now: get the fvck out now. Leave her here and cut her out of your life like the garbage she is acting like now. Just tell one of those guys to take her home. You don’t deserve this sh*t and you will thank you me in the long run…”

He gave me the same weird look she did, I shrugged, shook his hand, and left.

I don’t know how long they stayed after I left, or what went down, but I heard she ran into the bathroom almost in tears after she noticed I saw her.

Apparently she called a couple co-workers the next day to apologize for her actions.

I spoke to her a couple times later because of work and she was overly nice to me. I acted like I didn’t give a ****, because I don’t.

I had a great time at the BBQ. Watching that BS go down put a smile on my face for some reason.

 

[Zunder]

I took years of boxing.

If I dropped my hands, I deserved to get knocked the f*ck out. I always kept my hands up, because of that along with having an iron chin, I was never knocked out or knocked down.

"Never give your heart to a women that deserves it." That's a basic rule that every guy knows, even the AFC's. I knew the rule and I broke it. I paid the price.

I was in a relationship with a BPD. When I broke up with her, she did her best to get back at me. She brought her new boyfriend to the gym where I worked to f*ck with me.

I was under so much stress, I broke out in hives. My neck was completely covered. The right side of my head turned gray.

I became stronger, colder. I am not a victim. As hard as that experience was for me, my game is much better for it. Women are only booty calls. A woman has to prove her worth to even be considered relationship material.

No wonder this dude was banned. I havn't read as much crybaby cr@p in a long time. I think Kontroller X's posts on this thread were absolutely spot on.
Hope he is back from "vacation" soon.