Hey DJ's - new to the website. Great message board. My question is this - How do you deal with the games girls play? Lets say you meet a girl, call her a few times, and she calls you back as well for a few days. But suddenly she stops calling, and now matter how many times you continue calling (even if you call sporadically) she still won't call. How do you deal with this behavior, and more importantly, how long would it take you to say f*** this and move on?
How do you deal with girls' games?
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how do you deal with it? lol...i may only be a DJ in training but i know the answer to this one and its only one word.... DON'T!
if her IL isn't high enough that she's not calling you then you are wasting your time.
i have this booty call that i met in florida that lives an hour away from me. at first she called every 2-3 days. but after a month or so she stopped calling. i called twice to see whats up, realized that her IL wasn't high enough for me to bother with and what has become of the relationship now? she calls me up about twice a month for some action. the first couple of times i drove there but im done with that. she called up last weekend and i told her she should come party in my city and at the club i work at. she didn't call me back to make the plan's official so i just moved on. she called again last night and my phone stopped ringing after one ring. i called back, no answer and left a message on voicemail that i saw she called and was returning her call. called back an hour later... no answer no message this time. was planning on calling again today but i wont. ill just get a few numbers at the club tonight and hopefully have my week planned out after the weekend.
if her IL isn't high enough that she's not calling you then you are wasting your time.
i have this booty call that i met in florida that lives an hour away from me. at first she called every 2-3 days. but after a month or so she stopped calling. i called twice to see whats up, realized that her IL wasn't high enough for me to bother with and what has become of the relationship now? she calls me up about twice a month for some action. the first couple of times i drove there but im done with that. she called up last weekend and i told her she should come party in my city and at the club i work at. she didn't call me back to make the plan's official so i just moved on. she called again last night and my phone stopped ringing after one ring. i called back, no answer and left a message on voicemail that i saw she called and was returning her call. called back an hour later... no answer no message this time. was planning on calling again today but i wont. ill just get a few numbers at the club tonight and hopefully have my week planned out after the weekend.
hey recluce, she's just a booty call - who gives a crap.
double_j. here's a tip... when a girl starts acting like a queen, plays games, tests you a lot - she's not really interested in being your girl but seeing how much fun she can have with you.
if a girl is not interested in being your lover - then you shouldn't either. proceed coordinatedly.
double_j. here's a tip... when a girl starts acting like a queen, plays games, tests you a lot - she's not really interested in being your girl but seeing how much fun she can have with you.
if a girl is not interested in being your lover - then you shouldn't either. proceed coordinatedly.
Player_Supreme
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1. You never put yourself through this kind of bullshyt.
2. If she doesn't return your call...you move on.
3. By continuing to call like this you are focusing all of your energy on one ho/woman. Not good. Even women don't like a loser Symp.
4. Make sure you have a bunch of other fires burning so that you don't get suckered by this shyt.
5. Women will lose interest in a Symp real quick after a few phone calls.
6. You obviously need to work on your game. Something in your phone convo's probably turned her off towards you! So give this one to the god's of lost souls and move the fawk on!!!
2. If she doesn't return your call...you move on.
3. By continuing to call like this you are focusing all of your energy on one ho/woman. Not good. Even women don't like a loser Symp.
4. Make sure you have a bunch of other fires burning so that you don't get suckered by this shyt.
5. Women will lose interest in a Symp real quick after a few phone calls.
6. You obviously need to work on your game. Something in your phone convo's probably turned her off towards you! So give this one to the god's of lost souls and move the fawk on!!!
Tha Realnezz
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That's their whole game but they stole that from us.They ignore you the second call/dates cuz they think/know from experience that we loose interest very quickly...so p[rotect themselves from rejection.
lol,you gotta do it to them before they do it to you.I mean i keep my distance from the GET! But after a few convo's I just act like "Whatver" and not really pay her any mind,right?But after a while I wait her out and they always break..
Their mind-games are all childish and predictable.
Blue Phoenix
Master Don Juan
Yeah. That's true. As soon as you notice this, move on. Dont waste your time with her.
That's a good way to screen out the losers that make the dating game more difficult. Her childish game will get you nowhere. She's trying to have fun at your expences.
Cut her game off, this way you'll not have a headache.
There are some ways to screw a guy. By playing games just to make you pay for them or to mind fvck you, just to see how much power they have over you. So watch out.
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Silquee Smoove
Master Don Juan
Bingo!
I've had high interest level girls in the past who even as time went by never played any of that "games/test" garbage on me. I didn't realize it at the time because I hadn't really discovered this site and it's wealth of info.
There were these two hot girls I had no interest in so "naturally" I could care less, and I was just friendly and somewhat anti-social to them. (In hindsight, I could've had them both but that was a while ago).
On the other hand, the girl I was after I would IM her/talk with her and all that crap and I started getting these BS questions and scenarios that she would run by me. (Again, in hindsight I didn't realize how bad I was in the "friends zone", until I remember her typing "I only see you as a friend").
For someone I've first met I usually will try 3 times over a few weeks to get them and then after that I'd just leave a message.
After that...
For someone who I've talked to a few times on the phone I'd call them once and leave a message asking them to call back. If they don't then its not worth my time. If a women is interested she will get back to you.
If you have to keep calling and calling without a response then you never had a chance in the first place.
After that...
For someone who I've talked to a few times on the phone I'd call them once and leave a message asking them to call back. If they don't then its not worth my time. If a women is interested she will get back to you.
If you have to keep calling and calling without a response then you never had a chance in the first place.
Peace and Quiet
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
If she pulls away ...
Set your sights elsewhere.
Often I even out-an-out tell them I just want to be friends. And, having recognized the futility of the situation, I do, in fact. It's an incredibly effective way to "burst the bubble" and demonstrate control.
If there was a good vibe at one point, and something went wrong, see if you can suss out what went wrong and improve. Learn the lessons you can from it. But leave the gal alone. Perhaps she'll once again be attracted to the new you, but that's not the reason. It's just a remotely possible fringe benefit.
People have short memories. There are gals I totally turned off who came to be attracted to me again later, after a few of those brain cells that held the old data were overwritten with new content.
But paradoxically, for that to happen, you have to write them off, and make the most of your new contacts.
Set your sights elsewhere.
Often I even out-an-out tell them I just want to be friends. And, having recognized the futility of the situation, I do, in fact. It's an incredibly effective way to "burst the bubble" and demonstrate control.
If there was a good vibe at one point, and something went wrong, see if you can suss out what went wrong and improve. Learn the lessons you can from it. But leave the gal alone. Perhaps she'll once again be attracted to the new you, but that's not the reason. It's just a remotely possible fringe benefit.
People have short memories. There are gals I totally turned off who came to be attracted to me again later, after a few of those brain cells that held the old data were overwritten with new content.
But paradoxically, for that to happen, you have to write them off, and make the most of your new contacts.
This is how I deal with this:
1) assume she's intrested, but fd up. (insecure... or something)
2) call her up and ask what's up. Find out if she's ok... not very busy... etc... She may have a bad week or something
3) Tell her something like: "you don't call me anymore. What happened? I wanna see you"
Listen to her. Usually they melt, because it's quite flattering and give you a date.
If she's doing all the calling, her IL might went down just because of that you know.
SageOFAllenAge
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Same thing happened to me, after a point she only returned my calls, i went against the advice given here & hung in there,kept calling once every 2-3 days & stayed persistent.
And eventually got the girl
Ive read that its supposed to be a sh|t test to see if youre persistent enough, so when you stop calling as well .....
there's a thread called "holy grail of dating" - read it. it describes what you should do by dating logically process by process.
example: if chasing after her starts getting difficult, try an alternate route. if it still continues to be difficult give up the hunt.
example: if chasing after her starts getting difficult, try an alternate route. if it still continues to be difficult give up the hunt.