how do you deal with cranky women at work?

[picard]

how do you guys deal with cranky women at work?

I noticed that women tend to be more cranky than men and critical over many issues regardless of their mood. They criticize men about many issues. if men raise objections, they would take issue to senior manager.

Is this normal behavior for women at work to be cranky ?

 

[ketostix]

Yes it's "normal" behavior for women to act cranky, b1tchy in a work setting like they tend to do in interpersonal relationships. They can't separate the two and that's one reason they don't belong having any authority in work settings. About all you can really do besides suck her crap up and ignoring it, is treat it like you are trying to win her over like you are gaming her and change her mood with humor and wit.

 

[sodbuster]

I generally fire them

 

[Nutz]

Dark Chocolate is kryptonite to women. So keep a bar in your desk at all times in case of emergency.

I can see it now. Cranky biotch is going on about something on the other side of the cube so I just walk over, wave the chocolate bar at her for a moment to grab her attention, then hand it over like a pacifier and walk back to my desk. I could actually do this next week with the broad who works behind me. Day in an day out it's just uncouth b1tching about this and that.

 

[STR8UP]

More proof that women generally do not belong meddling in the affairs of men. Business, politics, etc. are not the feminine realm. Introduce a woman into this world and it's a recipe for disaster.

 

[Nutz]

What you could do instead walking away, if you have time, is make a new friend. The more friends and allies you have at a work place, then you have better chances in the longer run being promoted, because youll become the person to whom everyone goes to for help and answers.

I'm already that guy. I'm in a 1-deep slot so I'm the go-to-guy for all things networking.

And if this cranky woman happens to be a manager of a department, then it will work in your favor in the long run.

Nope. She's a worker bee like the rest of us.

My last Boss, who was a female and 20 years older then me, became a good friend of mine. She was cranky and b1tchy all the time and no one liked her. But after that one day, she put me under her wing, shared her treats with me on daily basis, and my job became 10 times easier.

We no longer work together, but we still stay in touch.

In general I don't mix with women from work. Some of teh guys I'll make friends with, but not with the women. Plus there are only maybe 5 hot women, at best, out of 500-600 people in the building.

 

[forward]

It's amazing how many businesses have women at the top (or completely dominating the administration) and how blatantly irrational they make everything. It's incredibly frustrating. I've learned this the hard way, and I will never again work for a company unless a man is in charge (that'll be the 1st thing I look for).

I read a quote today that sums up what I've learned from situations where women have power over me: "There is no idea so great that a woman can't turn it into nonsense."

 

[ketostix]

More proof that women generally do not belong meddling in the affairs of men. Business, politics, etc. are not the feminine realm. Introduce a woman into this world and it's a recipe for disaster.

I totally agree. Reality shows the feminine is not equiped to be in these positions. I would further argue that women are not even equip to pick the most suitable mate and it's mostly social convention that gives them all the choice, but that's another topic .

It's amazing how many businesses have women at the top (or completely dominating the administration) and how blatantly irrational they make everything. It's incredibly frustrating. I've learned this the hard way, and I will never again work for a company unless a man is in charge (that'll be the 1st thing I look for).

I read a quote today that sums up what I've learned from situations where women have power over me: "There is no idea so great that a woman can't turn it into nonsense."

Couldn't agree more. Contrary to social convention reality shows both, that women are well represented in positions of status and women are not suitable or equiped to be in postions of influence.

 

[Da Realist]

I don't know about guys automatically being better because I've worked with men who should have been wearing skirts. Thing is I came into work, made friends with some folks, replied only when I really needed to, and just did he job. Suprising while other guys got shouted at, no one raised a voice to me. I learned that you should earn the respect of the people around you and talk to them with respect, but give off the air that you will not take disrepect towards yourself. When people are cranky, they're basically getting off on the fact someone will scatter because they raise their voice. The thing is to just stick to business; if they're not talking about anything walk away from it. Come with the attitude of doing what's needed from the first day and most folks will walk away.

 

[Colossus]

how do you guys deal with cranky women at work?

I noticed that women tend to be more cranky than men and critical over many issues regardless of their mood. They criticize men about many issues. if men raise objections, they would take issue to senior manager.

Is this normal behavior for women at work to be cranky ?

Yes, and this can really be a problem.

I don't think women can deal with work stress as well as men, especially when they have management responsibilities.

What I have experienced is that--generally--they cant handle interpersonal conflicts efficiently or without getting involved emotionally. Remember, most women define their lives by their relationships, not their work and accomplishments.

Ive also noticed that when they are stressed they tend to take it out on everyone else. And if you happen to be an employee or subordinate of a female boss, this can really suck. Unfortunately, there is only so much you can do. No matter how 'alpha' you are they know they have the ultimate power to end your job, so your leverage is limited. My policy is to be calm and assertive, but pick your battles wisely. Sometimes you just have to suck it up, as painful as it is, because like you said they tend to play tattle-tale alot and take conflicts to supervisors, and if you are on the wrong end of that you will NOT be represented fairly.

This is one thing I absolutely HATE about women at work; that fvcking subversive tattle-tale bullsh!t. Nasty emails, avoiding direct confrontation...argh. :cuss:

 

[picard]

the cranky women I met at work refused to say "hello". They look at me like I am some sort of freak. I am an IT guy not some circus freak that they order me around the Hunch back of Nortre Dame.

I only met a few cheerful women who smile and make small talk at me. It makes my job less stressful.

I hate guys who suck up to women managers like their mothers. These guys jump at the chance to do bidding of these women and also admonish other male employees for not doing minor things for the women.

If I make one spelling mistake on an email, the women would send email to senior manager *****ing about my mistake like it is apocalypse. I only made one spelling mistake among hundreds of email.

 

[jophil28]

.. because like you said they tend to play tattle-tale alot and take conflicts to supervisors, and if you are on the wrong end of that you will NOT be represented fairly.

This is one thing I absolutely HATE about women at work; that fvcking subversive tattle-tale bullsh!t. Nasty emails, avoiding direct confrontation...argh. :cuss:

I have never worked in a job where a woman was my superior. Never will.
AS LMS would say "It is not the natural order of things"...
How many of you would enjoy or even survive with your nuts intact, working for Hillary.

Here is a tip..when you take a new job, form a relationship or an alliance with a GUY at the top of the food chain who is your kind of man, preferably a guy who is a long term employee.
If any complaints about you find their way to his desk, then he, hopefully,will call you to hear your version before he gives the complaint (or the complainant) much credibility.