How do you deal with a girl that wants you to stop having sex with other girls?

[Donnie Darko]

I've been hanging out with girl A for about a month now and we have been having sex regularly. Girl A tells me that she does not want to see other people but tells me that she is not asking me to be with just her. I just told her that she should do whatever she is comfortable with and I never addressed what I am doing.

Throughout this time I have been seeing other girls and working on meeting more girls. I just recently started hanging out with girl B and she stated that she has a male attitude towards sex and relationships. She openly says she hates needy and clingy guys and admits to having f-buddies but states that she does not fvck them when she is fvcking a guy that she is dating and that she only fvcks one guy at a time. At this point I don't believe her about whether she continues to fvck her f-buddies when she is fvcking a guy she is dating.

At this point I've hooked up with girl B but have not had sex with her because of a lack of a sex location. We agreed to meet at her place later this week to have sex. After we made plans to meet, girl B explains that she expects me to stop having sex with other girls. I want to fvck girl B but do not want to stop having sex with girl A. Just to be clear girl B knows that I am having sex with girl A but girl B does not know girl A. Girl B also knows I am hanging out or dating other girls and pretends to be annoyed by it saying things like I never have time for her and I am too busy with other girls.

Any advice on how to handle girl B so that I can continue having sex with girl A? Part of me wants to lie to girl B and just have sex with her and continue doing what I want to do. But I've been trying to decide whether I should just be upfront and tell her that I don't want to stop having sex with other girls; however, I'm concerned that she will refuse sex if I tell her that.

She says she hates needy and clingy guys so it seems strange that she expects me to stop having sex with other girls if I start having sex with her.

I'm honestly confused on how to handle this. I'm leaning towards being honest and direct about not agreeing to her request and if that is a deal breaker for her then I just NEXT her and walk away. My penis is telling me to do whatever I need to do to fvck girl B.

I appreciate any advice on how to best deal with this situation so that I can continue fvcking girl A and start fvcking girl B.

 

[Scion]

So u haven't slept with her yet and she already wants a exclusive relationship of sorts? Have you told her you want to keep it casual for a bit? But either way that would be a red flag for me.

 

[5string]

Be honest and direct me thinks.

 

[Asasione]

She's trying to sucker you into a relationship. Her stories make no sense at all and honestly you should do what's best for you. Lie and fvck em both, your young being in a relationship is for older people have fun and enjoy women.

 

[Strelok]

The only thing i can tell you for sure is that keep girl A for whatever reasons,the sure thing always win over the problematic one.
What if you stop having sex with girl A for get girl B and she just flake after she realise to have you?

Never burn a sure plan for an unsure one,especially since you like girl A.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Lol this posts cracks me up. Stop being a whiny baby. Here's what you do: SHUT YOUR MOUTH. Seriously stop talking about it like a girl and just be as ambiguous as you can so that you can sleep with BOTH OF THEM. And then if she asks you straight out just say to her that you don't feel ready yet to commit to a single person. If she stops f*cking you who cares move on! And if not then tap that ass until she's had enough.

For the most part girls are eventually going to find a guy who fits their category. I've gone through several girls in the past few months who stopped seeing me due to the fact they knew I wouldn't commit to them (though I still tried to tap that ass as long as possible!).

So as a man you just have to say OKAY and walk away when they start needing all the committment stuff. The only way to MAKE THEM keep coming back is to work on being the best when it comes to f*cking them. You'd be surprised how much sh*t a broad will take from a guy if he gives her the best f*ck shes had! Even when she dates some other guy she'll miss all the crazy wild sex she had with you so she'll be beating down your door to get f*cked again at 12 AM...which is what you want anyway!

So many women out there ENJOY being complete sluts behind closed doors the problem is that societal pressure makes them feel like they have to be some kind of good girl. Let them know that when they're with you they can be that crazy kinky slut and it's completely fine...deep down they need that, and they will keep seeing you just because you let them express a side of themselves that seldom is allowed to come out! Study this point and start practicing it..believe me you WILL benefit from it.

 

[Zarky]

Here's what you do: SHUT YOUR MOUTH.

True dat. There's absolutely no reason to bring up or discuss your multiple relationships with the women in your life. None. They don't want to hear about it. They don't want to be in a position to have to make that choice.

You see all these dudes getting caught for "cheating" these days. Well, their wives only get mad when the other women are shoved in their faces. You think Sandra Bullock and Tiger's wife didn't know about the other women before? Of course they did. They just got upset when it was shoved in their faces.

Women expect desirable men to bang lots of women. But have enough respect for them that you keep it from them at all costs. *At all costs.*

Example: I remember one of the girls I'm dating found another woman's underwear under my bed. She got pissed. But what struck me most was that she wasn't so much pissed that I'd been screwing another woman, but that I cared so little about her that I could be lazy enough to let that evidence be found! A very eye-opening moment for me.

I'll repeat that. She was angry at the fact that I didn't care enough to thoroughly check to make sure that she wouldn't be confronted with evidence of other women in my life. She wasn't so much angry at the fact that there *were* other women in my life.

Her words were, over and over, "How could you let me find this?" NOT "How could you sleep with another woman?"

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

Why are you spending so much time talking about other sex partners?

Change the subject man. And quit talking so much.

Girl A sounds like a stronger contender than B, who sounds like she regretted telling you so much about her FBs. She has definitely backtracked from "yeah I have FBs and I get around like a guy" to talking about exclusivity. In short, I'd nail em both, keep A as the frontrunner and just don't talk about that bs.

You didn't mention how hot these chicks are, either. Without that information, I cannot proceed further.

 

[marinetti]

Well, I never advocate lying to a girl, cause the goal here is to be a guy that girls can't resist but to be with. That kind of guy does not need to lie to get laid.

As for girl B, if you're a genuinely cool guy, you're confident and can sexualize in a congruent way (none of which I doubt is true) then I think the best thing to do is be honest with her. Something like

"Look, all I know is, I've known a lot of women that I was attracted to in the past, but I wasn't able to date them for various reasons. I think this is a crime, because now I regret not getting to know them. Now I'll never know how things would've worked out for us. If you can't accept me for who I am, then I can't change your mind, but I don't want to regret losing you for the rest of my life."

If she brings up girl A, maybe something like "Yeah, I like girl A, she and I are getting along, and we have fun when we go out. I'm not planning on marrying her at the moment, but at the same time, I'm not planning on breaking up either. All I'm saying is I want the same opportunity to have fun and get to know you as well."

If you can prove that you are confident in your decision to pursue dual relationships, then you'd be surprised at what some girls will be able to deal with. At the same time though, it's quite possibly a dealbreaker for girl B. I don't know.

But if you are honest, you'll at the very least get to know more about yourself, and learn to handle this in the future. Perhaps you have a future in multiple girlfriends.

Good luck!

 

[jophil28]

We agreed to meet at her place later this week to have sex. After we made plans to meet, girl B explains that she expects me to stop having sex with other girls. .

That is where you lost your way and this is when she tried to grab the frame, and she has indeed asserted control over your sexual progress with her .
The mistake you made was in NEGOTIATING the time and place of the intended sexual encounter. At that point she knew she had your balls in her hand and she felt brave enough to place conditions on your planned night of lust and so she pulled out the exclusivity demand .

Now you are on the back foot because you have her 'exclusivity hurdle' to jump over before you can jump on her.
She played her tactics well and you fell into her trap.

IF I were you I would STOP talking about sex with her. She knows how badly you want her, and she will continue to raise the price whilever she hears you chasing her for sex.

Stop trying to bed her, treat her like a friend , be indifferent and casual and reduce the time that you allot her by about a third.

 

[DanelMadr]

You need to read some "********" Dictionary....by Pook maybe.

When they tell you they are OK with you fakking other girls....they want to hear "No, honey I'm OK fakking with you only." Unless they need you as Human Dildo only and don't care about you that much.

Girl A...possibly nice girl trying to not sound desperate and make you think she is giving you space in order to get your love.

Girl B...telling you about fakkbuddies is RED Flag in my book, unless I'm supposed to be FB too. Which is not her intention here for she want to be exclusive with you.

Nothing wrong in telling you to stop fakking others....it is not about frames...it is about common sense. Healthy people don't want their bf or gf to fakk other people.

1. Don't lie. Men don't lie or promise love when all they feel is an itch in groin region. It is bad karma, man.

2. Decide. If you like A, ditch B and otherwise.

 

[DanelMadr]

You need to read some "********" Dictionary....by Pook maybe.

Is "WOMANE$E" a bad word????

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

JOPHIL beat me to it, you cannot negotiate desire. Any natural, organic flow you might've had is gone with girl B now. It's been replaced with your negotiating her sexual desire from her position of control, so any sex you have will be conditional and obligatory, not inspired by passion or genuine desire. Essentially it's typical sexual blackmail; you surrender the frame to her and she'll exchange the sex.

NEXT.

 

[Donnie Darko]

First, I want to thank everyone for their responses and advice. I previously only serial dated by dating one girl at a time. It was just this year that I really started parallel dating so it was a new situation for me to be confronted by a girl about the fact that I'm seeing other girls and already having sex with someone else.

Well, my update is that I had sex with girl B. It is hard to reduce the time that I've gone out with her as someone suggested since this was only the 3rd time in 2 weeks. I've been seeing girl A a few times a week and going out with other girls that I am not sleeping with at this point. Girl B was one of those other girls.

Girl A is a 7.5 and girl B is an 8.5.

Girl B figured out that I was seeing other girls b/c my schedule was too busy to see her for a few weeks after we first met. She figured out that I was having sex because while we were hooking up in my car after the 2nd date she asked me when the last time I had sex was and that caught me off guard and I immediately looked away from her.

She asked more questions last night but I was pretty vague in answering them. I never agreed to exclusivity or anything like that I just shut up, escalated and had sex with her. After we had sex, she asked me some more questions and flat out called me out on being vague but then said she liked that. I'm not sure what that means.

Girl A is coming over tonight. I'll see girl B again next week. Working on finding a solid girl C.

Anyways, I also wanted to comment on something else. After I left girl A's house last night, I decided to go out to a local bar. I don't know exactly what it is but after you start actively having sex it just seems like you carry yourself differently and are more confident. I don't know if I had some type of sly smirk on my face or if it was just because I was in a great mood and having fun but several girls approached me last night and that usually does not happen.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Donnie Darko you need to start keeping it simple I can tell from your posts you're spending way too much time overanlyzing this crap and wasting your time.

Here's the mantra: "I will say less than necessary, keep everything ambiguous, and not offer info."

Don't worry about what these women say to you most of the time it doesn't matter anyway what they say because they act completely differently.

Just meet up wtih them once a week or two, have fun, and if they're not putting out, then move on.

You need at least 4 girls in the pipeline so that you don't have these problems anymore. Your problem should be trying to remember which girl you were suppose to call back.

 

[sodbuster]

Women can smell other women on you and it's a sign of preselection

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

JOPHIL beat me to it, you cannot negotiate desire. Any natural, organic flow you might've had is gone with girl B now. It's been replaced with your negotiating her sexual desire from her position of control, so any sex you have will be conditional and obligatory, not inspired by passion or genuine desire. Essentially it's typical sexual blackmail; you surrender the frame to her and she'll exchange the sex.

NEXT.

Do you have a radio show?

Now that I know that B is hotter than A, I definitely would have had B at least once. But these guys are right, you are now bartering with her because you've been talking about sex too much, and you AFC'd somewhere else too I'm sure. Don't talk about it at all, just get yo groove on then do it.

 

[Donnie Darko]

OK - so a little update...Girl B was really great in bed. I mean really great. But she was honestly a total pain in the a$$ to deal with. We fought all the time about BS and she was consistently incongruent and I could just never figure her out. The sex was nice though and I'm glad I explored it but I think she was bi-polar and honestly she has been an emotional roller coaster.

My other problem was that she was just not very intelligent but I'm not kidding anyone I always new that Girl B was just going to be a fvck but after I fvcked her and she was so good in bed I just wanted to keep fvcking her.

She never trusted me and to her credit she was absolutely right...I was fvcking and dating other girls behind her back.

She also was spectacular at manipulating every situation to fit her needs and she would only selectively listen to what I was saying and then distort what I said and try to throw it back in my face.

Anyway, over the past 5 weeks I've basically made her pay her own way for everything that we did. Sure there were a few times that I picked up the tab but in general she split most bills. Tonight she offered to split and then got offended when I made fun of her and she pulled her card.

At that point I knew it was done. I pulled my card too and asked her what she was doing. She said she was paying the whole tab or nothing. I knew where this was going so I told her to just pay the whole tab.

I dropped her off and she ranted and raved and made up things that I never said and distorted things I did say to argue with me. I just shut the fvck up and told her to get out of my car when I reached her house.

I deleted her number and text messages on the drive home...and b4 I could get home to delete her facebook (she insisted that I add her as a friend two weeks ago since we had been fvcking for a couple weeks) she actually deleted me first.

Things that scared me about this girl:

She proclaimed that if she got pregnant she was definitely keeping the baby.
She tried to initiate sex without using a condom or continue sex after the condom broke and tell me to just pull out. (I immediately went in for a full round of STD tests afterwards).
She finally revealed that she was actually married and not really divorced like she claimed.
She started stalking me 3 weeks ago and enlisted friends of hers to help watch me to see what I did when I went out with friends without her.
Fvck there were probably more red flags too...I knew this would never work out with Girl B but she was a fun fvck while she lasted.
She was bipolar and took me on an emotional roller coaster ride...I just thank God that I had Girl A to ground me through all of that but again sex with this bipolar Girl B was amazing.

Girl A is still awesome...but it means I am down to one girl so I need to find some new plate(s) so I don't get oneitus with her.

I've deleted all contact info of Girl B so I don't plan on ever talking to her again.

I really need to spin more plates. I got so busy with Girl A and Girl B that I have barely put in any effort into meeting other girls. This frees up more of my time to work on my approaches and meeting more women.

 

[Zarky]

It's excellent when women start saying they don't want you to sleep with other women. This means they suspect you are, which makes you more attractive to them.

The response I always give is: Smile wide, then say, "You know I only have eyes for you, sweetie," while shaking your head slowly side-to-side. With this, you give the "proper" social response with your words, and the really proper response with your body language.

---> Keep in mind she doesn't actually want you to stop banging other women. She just wants plausible deniability. There are two parts to a woman's brain. Understand this and you'll understand women.