how do you become considered a 'lover' in her eyes not a 'provider'?

[SoSuaveDude]

Optimize the hand you were dealt

 

[evan12]

So you're Indian huh

Either women find you hawt enough to fvck immediately because of lust or later as a provider or not at all.

You 'look' like a provider so to women you ARE a provider....if you can't change this 'look' enough to be hawt in their eyes you will be a provider for the rest of your life...

real truth.

that is correct , I was more provider material , I didnt send any sexual signal to girls , or looking in lust to women , I was considering this as good morals . I remember some girls was finding me challenge to make me desire them, from that I found ignoring women works some times .
I wasnt that masculine , and actually I was proud I am sensitive/nice guy , women there prefer to marry nice guys because the husband has almost all the power over his wife and his family so it is very risky for a woman to marry a jerk . when I arrived to Canada things become different ,men in middle east think men in the west is having sex all the time with all women.but that only correct with a few guys (the top 5% may be ) . but for the most it is not a case , at least in middle east 95% of men end up marring a young girl with morals and have sex with her whenever they want (no rape in inside marriage there ) .
here I started reading PUA materials to try to understand dating game , I was eager to it , but now I hate all the dating game , it is a lot of time consuming especially when you are serious and want to start a family . it is good only when you are not serious
I am from middle east bty