How do you ask a girl to go with you to the movies?

[CrazyandLazy]

LOL at topic title ^_^b 21 year old here.

Went out with a friend(girl I knew for almost one year) + friend's friend(new girl) yesterday. They were both pretty cool and I had fun. We went to karaoke and roller coasters. It was my first time going to karaoke bars

Next Sat I'm going to ask my friend to go to this movie that I really really want to see. Thing is, I don't want to go alone so I'll try to do the best to get her to come with me. Here's my plan. Please rate and give suggestions.

1. I won't be desperate saying I hate the thought of going to movies alone.
2. When I first call her I will ask her about other stuff for intros then pop the question.
3.If she declines, I will jokingly say about how utterly sad I'll become cause she's not there.

So? Is it ok?
Note = Not trying to gain this girl as my gf. I just want to gain a great pal.

 

[zemaj]

urgh, give me a break!!

Just say "do you want to see this film with me" for fvck sake!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Irs88]

"3.If she declines, I will jokingly say about how utterly sad I'll become cause she's not there."

that comes off as kind of desperate and sad. Making it seem as if she is the prize and you will be affected by her response. Even if it is shown in sarcasm...i wouldn't risk it if my frame isn't strong enough to let that line pass. I feel it subliminally sends the message that she is the prize if it was said in sarcasm or not.

And I think you are over thinking this. By making this post you reacting as if the outcome is a big deal..not the DJ thing to do. Just call her up, chat up her a bit and ask her out. Good luck!

 

[CrazyandLazy]

"3.If she declines, I will jokingly say about how utterly sad I'll become cause she's not there."

that comes off as kind of desperate and sad. Making it seem as if she is the prize and you will be affected by her response. Even if it is shown in sarcasm...i wouldn't risk it if my frame isn't strong enough to let that line pass. I feel it subliminally sends the message that she is the prize if it was said in sarcasm or not.

And I think you are over thinking this. By making this post you reacting as if the outcome is a big deal..not the DJ thing to do. Just call her up, chat up her a bit and ask her out. Good luck!

haha yeah...I'm thinking about it too much. I'll leave out the sarcasm part and do 1 & 2 and say a few other interesting stuff and hang up. Hope it goes my way.

 

[Allurre]

Just tell her to join you for the movie, you two will have a great time.

Simple, straight forward. Make the decision for her.

 

[Kal0051]

wtf!! Try saying "Do you want to go see x movie on x day?". If she says yes then profit. If no then just say cool, and go with someone else.

 

[3countriesPlan]

Here is what you do. You say. "Hey I really wanna see new gangster movie with Jhonny Depp." She goes, "really?", then you say "Ya, lets go together. Then she either says yes or pulls a b1tch move. The end.

 

[Young Juan]

I'm comfortable going to movies by myself so I personally don't ask, I invite. I'd tell her, "I'm going to see that new XYZ movie this weekend, would you like to join me?" If she says no, I just say "OK, your loss. I'll let you know how good it was"

 

[Jblitz59]

Say it like you already assume she is coming.

Ever heard an infomercial say," If you reallllly wanted to, use this product."
NO!
They say," You'd be CRAZY not to get this!"

Point is, say," Let's go to x movie or y movie at z day"
NOT a question, it's a statement.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I'm comfortable going to movies by myself so I personally don't ask, I invite. I'd tell her, "I'm going to see that new XYZ movie this weekend, would you like to join me?" If she says no, I just say "OK, your loss. I'll let you know how good it was"

I think that is the right answer. And don't worry about how long it takes you in life to figure this out. Most guys will never get it at all.

The right way to ask a girl to do anything is to #1 be doing it anyway and #2 practically tell her to come along.

 

[donjuanapprentice01]

I'm comfortable going to movies by myself so I personally don't ask, I invite. I'd tell her, "I'm going to see that new XYZ movie this weekend, would you like to join me?" If she says no, I just say "OK, your loss. I'll let you know how good it was"

That's what I do as well.. simply say: I'm going to check out that new flick this weekend... you are MORE THAN WELCOME to join me.

Puts the onus on her instead of you... makes you look confident.

 

[nismo-4]

wtf!! Try saying "Do you want to go see x movie on x day?". If she says yes then profit. If no then just say cool, and go with someone else.

That's giving her a chance to flake on you.

To the OP, that # 3 will make you sound desperate.

Seriously, be dominant. Tell her to come with you on that day. If she says no, then you went down as an alpha. I hope you've been spinning more plates.

 

[Da Realist]

You: Hey, I'm going to see Harry Potter this week. Want to come along?

Her: I have something to do. Maybe next time.

You: Ok. Have fun.

Next girl.

You: Hey, going to see Harry Potter Saturday. Want to go?

Her: Hell yeah! I'll suck you **** too!


Keep that mindset and you'll do fine.

 

[Kal0051]

That's giving her a chance to flake on you.

To the OP, that # 3 will make you sound desperate.

Seriously, be dominant. Tell her to come with you on that day. If she says no, then you went down as an alpha. I hope you've been spinning more plates.

yeah, I prefer Jblitz59's version of it. But my point was it's not hard, just talk to her and DO IT!!!!

 

[CrazyandLazy]

Thanks to all of you for taking the time to post. It helps

I will call her tomorrow night so that I don't look desperate(we hanged out on Sunday from 12:00 to 6:00p.m, I don't want to call "days" in advance).

I will talk casually with her first about some stuff and jokes(without humiliating myself of course). Then I will ask her "I'm going to see that movie on Sat. Tag along with me?". If she say yes then that's that, and I win. If she says no, I will say "uhh too bad," and change the subject/talk about some funny stuff we did last Sunday and hang up.

Either way I'm going to see it this Sat, even if I have to go alone >_>. I've been waiting too long for it to come out

 

[Alle_Gory]

I'm going to go see (insert movie). Come with me (insert name).

If yes: Great. I'm free after (insert time). Let's meet up at (insert time).

If no: I'll go with someone else. Another time. Goodnight (insert name).



That's how I do it. I don't ask. I tell her. "Hey, lets go together. It will be fun." If she's not interested in going then its too bad. Another time perhaps.

 

[justanotherguy]

You: I can't wait to see ******* next weekend.

She: With who?

You: Just myself.

She: Yourself?

You: Well, none of my friends are into it, so f*ck'em, I'm going by myself. Sometimes you just gotta do, in this case it's because this movie's way too f*cking awesome. <Talk about why you think it's awesome, sell the movie>

She: Wow, I want to see ********* now.

You: You should come with me then.

She: Yeah!

You: Cool, now I'm starting to think you're not as lame as my friends.

I can't promise that that's how it's going to go, but if you do it enough times, you'll realize that it does works pretty well if you pull it off. The point is, make them come you a little before you reel them in.

 

[Irs88]

^^ I don't know about that one. I would never tell girls straight up when I first meet them that I like to go to movies by myself....sounds kinda pathetic and sad. Especially if you are AFC and don't have the frame to pull it off.

I would just ask them straight up and if they say no I will just ask someone else lol.

 

[Jblitz59]

don't believe me? here's an AIm conversation not 2 minutes old.

JBlitz59 (11:16:05 AM): what do u plan to do today?
HB8 (11:16:34 AM): idk i have no plans nd today dn tomorro r my only two days off
JBlitz59 (11:18:40 AM): your coming with me to the theaters then G.I. Joe it up
HB8 (11:18:54 AM): haha ok :]

 

[Goldstar]

You: Hey, I am planning to go see [] movie. Do you wanna come?
HB: No, I can't blah blah..
You: Sure, not a problem.

Your attitude should be totally cool. No big deal.

Dont say things like its your loss, I will go with this other girl or anything of that sort. It seems fake and needy.