How do you act around a girl you see out after she flaked on you...

[Knicknack]

I number closed a girl about 2 weeks ago and spoke with her once on the phone. tried to call 2 more times and she never called back. deleted her number.

i saw her out last night because she was hanging out with my friends. i could not avoid talking to her. i honestly didn't recognize her, so i was very surprised when she reminded where we met. i had wiped this girl out of my memory. now i had to spend the rest of the night with her knowing that her IL was zero.

i just treated her like a friend and tried to mildy DJ her with a little kino and some c/f... obviously, she had NEXT'd me and i really could care less. i just wanted to show her that i wasn't ashamed and she better not think she had me in check.

i still had a good time, hitting on other girls and what not.

how would you all handle this situation?

 

[Starman]

I was in this situation once..I just said hello to the chick..and some small talk..then went about my business..talk to other chicks..and ignoring her

later in the night she as se became more drink..she would sneak up behind me and squeeze my neck..or if we passed by she would slap me in my ass

The cool thing was I wasnt interested in her any longer

 

[myfriendblu]

You handled that perfectly, no sense in being a dik around her. One thing you must understand, is that its over. Her IL in you may raise up when she notices you DJ other girls. However, don't fall for that trap. Once a NEXT, always a NEXT. don't ever go back.

 

[thekiddddd]

I agree with starman treat her like any other girl say hi and then move on. She will always be good for a bit of social proof, especially if she keeps coming up to you through the night

 

[Healer]

I do what starman done. It works. Hey hi, small talk like "nice weather", then DJ the other women.

 

[On-top]

Originally posted by Knicknack
How do you act around a girl you see out after she flaked on you...

Confident and happy. Like you're 'in' on what's going on, and she's not. If you get a chance to make a great impression on her friends, it will make her question her own actions even more.

You handled it like you should. You have to make sure she knows 'she doesn't have you in check.'

 

[Oscar Wilde]

Originally posted by myfriendblu
Once a NEXT, always a NEXT. don't ever go back.

I don't agree. "Once an EX, always an EX" - yes, but that's ex-GFs.

Nexted girls who you didn't go out with are different, and can be recovered. Some people here Next too easily ... mumble, grumble....

 

[Doppler4000]

Originally posted by Oscar Wilde
Nexted girls who you didn't go out with are different, and can be recovered. Some people here Next too easily ... mumble, grumble....

Oscar- what do you mean? Suppose a new girl won't return your call or won't agree to make a date. How would you recover?

 

[myfriendblu]

You don't recover. Most people don't NEXT enough, and let duds stick around way to long. You should have a minimum 5 girls on your backburner at all times, bottom line. NEXT her and move on to girl #2.

I thinkl the problem is, like 99 percent of the people on the board, is that you have ZERO girls on the backburner, nonetheless 5. Get back out there

 

[Knicknack]

Originally posted by myfriendblu
You don't recover. Most people don't NEXT enough, and let duds stick around way to long. You should have a minimum 5 girls on your backburner at all times, bottom line. NEXT her and move on to girl #2.

I thinkl the problem is, like 99 percent of the people on the board, is that you have ZERO girls on the backburner, nonetheless 5. Get back out there

exactly... i have ZERO on the backburner right now. one missed a date tonight so i deleted her number. i don't care that i have ZERO on the backburner. my pride shall not waver.

 

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by Knicknack
exactly... i have ZERO on the backburner right now.

LOL of course, I can usually smell this type of thing a mile away.

Don't worry. I made the EXACT same mistake as you did during my initial all out DJ affair after finding this site awile back. I was gettin the chiks, and scorin, but I was working WAY to hard. I would only keep the one and work on her, and ditch the other prospects. Not only that, I held onto duds way to long. I didn't next soon enough. I think the 2 most often occuring mistakes that RAFC's make are

1. Don't cold approach enough
2. Don't NEXT early enough.

I never had a problem with number 1, that always came natural. It was number two that I had a difficult time grasping. I tried and tried and spent WAY to much time/energy/drama with a dud that I shoulda next along time beforehand.

Its a process bro. You don't get your blackbelt in 2 weeks. It takes a long time, several months sometimes, before you can even call yourself a RAFC. keep movin