how do u find out if a girl is a virgin or not?

[Deadly_Assassin]

how do u find out if a girl is a virgin or not? of course sleeping with her is out the question.

Theres a few christian girls that I know of that claim to be virgins and some of them have been in LTR with non christian guys before. I have heard so far is that these girls I know are virgins and when I asked one of them during a conversation, she said she still was a virgin but also said that she broke up with her last bf cos the relationship was just sexual. I was like huh?? dunno whether to believe her or not, can I confront her about it

 

[cjibb]

Who cares if she's a virgin or not? Why is sleeping with her out of the question?

 

[penkitten]

just ask her

 

[Deadly_Assassin]

dude i have made a stand that no sleeping till i get married. Even though thats a wee while away I want a virgin gf and I am not gonna back down from my stand. I did ask her but I dunno if shes telling the truth. she went out with her ex for over a year and she apparantly had a bad experience with him, she was 15 n he was 20 back then, and she said her relationship was entirely sexual and that she nearly lost it.

 

[JonJack]

No point confronting her. No point wondering about it. Whether she is or isn't, she'll still probably give you the same answer. The one she gave you before. The important question you have to ask yourself is whether you trust her. If you don't, then dump her. If you do, then she's a virgin.

The most important thing though is being able to handle whatever happens later if you do find out that she's lying. Before you trust someone, you must be able to handle having that trust broken.

 

[LuvMyArmyMan]

well there are more important things in life than having a virgin girlfriend. If you aren't gonna marry her or sleep with her, than why have so much emphasis on her being a virgin? it doesn't mean she's going to Hell or is any less of a Christian if she's a virgin or not.

You need to get over your holier-than-thou complex.

And you need to ask her if she's a virgin or not if its that important to you, and take her answer for what it is. If you think she's lying, you obviously have trust issues and shouldn't be in a relationship anyways

 

[Centaurion]

I think you'll be hard pressed to find a girl in her twenties that is a virgin, unless she's part of some ultra-conservative religion/sect (heh!).

Well, probably the only way to tell if she's a virgin is to have sex with her. See if the hymen is still there, even that cant tell you for sure if she's virgin or not. Since some chicks break their hymen while doing sports, and some get it reattached surgically just so they can convince their future husbands that they are 'virgins'.

 

[Joe The Homophobe]

Originally posted by Deadly_Assassin
she was 15 n he was 20 back then, and she said her relationship was entirely sexual and that she nearly lost it.

20 year old with a 15 year old = she is probably not a virgin. I say you stay away from this one.

 

[Deadly_Assassin]

hmmm, yea i know asking her will just give me the same answer, when I was talking to her mate ages ago, she was telling me about her ex and what happened after they broke up. She also said it was highly unlikely for blah blah to sleep with him, she would hardly even let him hold her hand. I was like hmmm, interesting. The only reason starting to doubt her is because she herself confronted that she is a good liar even though shes meant to be a hard out christian.

 

[onthepath]

deadly assasin
best of luck finding a virgin in the US
they're pretty much all hos
but as it was s aid above, it boils down to trust
if you can't trust her about this, then the relationship wont last
dump her and move on

 

[Abbott]

Originally posted by Deadly_Assassin
dude i have made a stand that no sleeping till i get married. Even though thats a wee while away I want a virgin gf and I am not gonna back down from my stand.

OK whatever.

Just be sure that it's a trait that you absolutely MUST have or else. Why do I say this? Because I don't think that there are going to be a whole lot of virgins in their 20s.

It's like saying you want a vegetarian, which means you'd only have 1% of all women to choose from, or less (I've heard this, but I can't remember where).

I'd suggest being more realistic. Like in my case I only want white women, which means I can't hook up with 25% of all women. I still have 75% left.

There are some extremely minority traits that I prefer, but I don't demand them because I know that it's not realistic of me to do so.

Once, just for the hell of it, I did the math to see how many American women I can choose from that had every single last trait that I wanted. My figures indicated that there were no women at all who fit every single trait I wanted.

That's just something to consider.

My $.02,

Ben

 

[Joe The Homophobe]

Originally posted by Abbott
Just be sure that it's a trait that you absolutely MUST have or else. Why do I say this? Because I don't think that there are going to be a whole lot of virgins in their 20s.

And how do you know? Just because a girl is in her 20's doesn't mean some guy already stole her virginity. You can't assume because a girl is in her 20's you see her walking down the street you say "she looks 22, she was [censored] already"

You overestimate the number of non-virgins. There are plenty of them it is not like girls go around wearing tags saying 'not a virgin.'

 

[Abbott]

Originally posted by Joe The Homophobe
And how do you know? Just because a girl is in her 20's doesn't mean some guy already stole her virginity. You can't assume because a girl is in her 20's you see her walking down the street you say "she looks 22, she was [censored] already"

You overestimate the number of non-virgins. There are plenty of them it is not like girls go around wearing tags saying 'not a virgin.'

Perhaps not, but you really think so?

I'd imagine that most people would've lost their virginity during high school, or if not then sometime during the first half of college.

Plus, the hotter a woman, the less likely she is to be a virgin the older she is. I think that's safe to say.

I'm assuming that the original poster wants a hot girl. Why else is he here? Anyone who's here, and isn't a troll, is here because he wasn't satisfied with his current love life and wants something better.

I suppose it's possible that looks don't matter to him. If not then I'm sure it can't be that hard to find a fugly girl who's still a virgin, simply because no other man wanted to have anything to do with her. I'll give you that much.

It's just that I always forget about the ugly girls because I know that personally, I want a hot girl and thus, I don't think about the ugly girls.


Ben

 

[quest]

Originally posted by Abbott

I suppose it's possible that looks don't matter to him. If not then I'm sure it can't be that hard to find a fugly girl who's still a virgin, simply because no other man wanted to have anything to do with her. I'll give you that much.

it'd still be hard

i'd hit a fugly virgin, a one night thing, not a relationship

his best chance is hitting up a differently abled girl. one who's a couple of limbs short of complete.

(a little controversial, i realise. but there is truth in it )

 

[Joe The Homophobe]

Originally posted by Abbott
Perhaps not, but you really think so?

I'd imagine that most people would've lost their virginity during high school, or if not then sometime during the first half of college.

Yes I think so. Unless you believe everything on tv and mtv then you think everybody is having sex! of course the truth is different but when you watch mtv or the media they portray everyone having sex, when the reality is that the world is full of afcs and there are more virgins than it is told.

 

[Abbott]

Originally posted by quest
it'd still be hard

i'd hit a fugly virgin, a one night thing, not a relationship

his best chance is hitting up a differently abled girl. one who's a couple of limbs short of complete.

(a little controversial, i realise. but there is truth in it )

You would? Er....OK. I wouldn't but whatever floats your boat man. Just don't tell your friends.

Well....I say I wouldn't, but... I just hope that I don't get SO trashed one night that a fugly looks like a hottie and then I do something I wouldn't ordinarily do.

Originally posted by Joe The Homophobe
Yes I think so. Unless you believe everything on tv and mtv then you think everybody is having sex! of course the truth is different but when you watch mtv or the media they portray everyone having sex, when the reality is that the world is full of afcs and there are more virgins than it is told.

That's a good point.

I do have the impression that young people are getting sluttier and sluttier though. I could be wrong but it's definately the feeling I get.

Ben

 

[ApocalypseCow2]

Originally posted by Joe The Homophobe
20 year old with a 15 year old = she is probably not a virgin. I say you stay away from this one.

She's also probably a statuatory rape victim.

 

[Deadly_Assassin]

Well I live in Auckland, New Zealand and I mostly tend to go for asian girls, for some reason white girls and Indians girls dont appeal to me. I am an Indian guy but some say I looked mixed. I am quite confident and nearly upto a point of being ****y when it comes to getting Indian girls.

Anyway, with this girl, a couple of her mates are virgins as well, and a couple arent. Shes pretty but I do like her for her personality, and we do get along. We have a lot in common and she gets along with my family too. Shes asian of course hehe.

Her mates reckon that she had a bad experience with that last bf but during that time a couple of their mates in their circle started to loose their virginity. It was kinda seen as a bad thing cos all the girls are christians within that circle. But she said that she wouldnt even let her ex hold her hand for some reason. I was like hmmmm okay.

I know that girls that are true chrisitians and are virgins and with all those things in common with me are hard to find. But I dont want to drop my standards, I myself am a virgin, but why should I settle for something thats already being used. I put in the effort of saving myself, why let all that effort go to waste by settling for someone whos not a virgin.

 

[Deadly_Assassin]

Well I live in Auckland, New Zealand and I mostly tend to go for asian girls, for some reason white girls and Indians girls dont appeal to me. I am an Indian guy but some say I looked mixed. I am quite confident and nearly upto a point of being ****y when it comes to getting Indian girls.

Anyway, with this girl, a couple of her mates are virgins as well, and a couple arent. Shes pretty but I do like her for her personality, and we do get along. We have a lot in common and she gets along with my family too. Shes asian of course hehe.

Her mates reckon that she had a bad experience with that last bf but during that time a couple of their mates in their circle started to loose their virginity. It was kinda seen as a bad thing cos all the girls are christians within that circle. But she said that she wouldnt even let her ex hold her hand for some reason. I was like hmmmm okay.

I know that girls that are true chrisitians and are virgins and with all those things in common with me are hard to find. But I dont want to drop my standards, I myself am a virgin, but why should I settle for something thats already being used. I put in the effort of saving myself, why let all that effort go to waste by settling for someone whos not a virgin.

 

[JonJack]

Tread lightly my friend. Labeling a girl who has lost her virginity is plain ignorant. Same with labeling a girl based on race. You're lucky that your parents approve of you going after someone from another race. Many Indians do not have that privelage.

If you were truly at peace with your decision of going after a girl who is a virgin, you would have lost your interest in any girl that you feel might be 'tarnished'. Stick to your guns if you have to and never fall for any girl who you do not trust to be a virgin. Even though a lot of other guys might not agree with you, at least you would be seen as a person who is sure of himself.